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“Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount to the high wire. This is your moment. Own it!” Oprah Winfrey

Motivation Mondays: Own It!

Motivation Mondays: Own It!

Elle Darby: i was exposed (SO embarrassing)

Your life is the fruit of your own doing. You have no one to blame but yourself. Joseph Campbell
Social media is changing the way we communicate and the way we are perceived, both positively and negatively. Every time you post a photo, or update your status, you are contributing to your own digital footprint and personal brand. Amy Jo Martin
The biggest competition is myself. I am not looking to follow others or pull them down. I’m planning to test my own boundaries. Rain

OWN IT: Every day, in small and large ways, we fail massively at something. If we are wise, we seek the counsel of others who can encourage us to take the high road, to pick ourselves up and simply move forward. Failure is nothing to be ashamed of; it means we took a risk, put our dignity on the line and things didn’t work out the way we expected… That is all well and good and that is what it means to take ownership of our stuff. It becomes ugly, when we turn a huge learning experience into a public bashing on both sides and the ultimate outcome of such action is never beneficial, regardless of who started the feud and who is at fault. Why stoop to the level of the person giving you negative feedback?  Let’s be candid, that person contributed nothing to your success. You see, the minute you cross the street to engage the attacker, you have lost. You are now at the same level and it is a rare person who can avoid the natural pitfall of name-calling, finger-pointing or blame-gaming. Our motivation, in this instance, ought to be to learn our lesson and use it to grow stronger and wiser.
The blogging world is littered with the carcasses of failed attempts at hogging the limelight beyond our natural expiration date. In the 9 years I’ve been at this game, I’ve seen them come and go, and the ones who have survived the minefields are the bloggers who stayed true to their original goal of providing a service of sorts, avoiding drama, enjoying the creativity that comes with the work, and collaborating with brands when possible. If a brand approaches a savvy blogger (and vise versa I dare add) and isn’t the right fit, a quiet exchange takes place and everyone moves forward with their dignity intact. No histrionics. No public shaming, and definitely NO finger-pointing at people who had nothing to do with it. Nothing is guaranteed in the Blogosphere, right? Where am I going with this? Read on.
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“There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” Aldous Huxley

Motivation Mondays: Own It!

Motivation Mondays: Own It!

Breaking News 2018: Hotel owner calls out YouTuber who asked for free overnight stay in Dublin

Every man must do two things alone; he must do his own believing and his own dying. Martin Luther
The doorstep to the temple of wisdom is a knowledge of our own ignorance. Benjamin Franklin
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Charles R. Swindoll
Love yourself. It is important to stay positive because beauty comes from the inside out. Jenn Proske

TYRANNY OF BLAMING: Unless you’ve been asleep on the job, you have probably heard of the incident that is blowing up the blogosphere today. Just a bit of details and you can read up on it everywhere, watch the videos, and form your own opinions. Here are the basic facts: Elle Darby, a UK-based social media influencer with a huge following, on YouTube and Instagram, reached out to the owner of the Dublin based White Moose Café, Paul Stenson, and asked if he’d be willing to put her up for Valentine’s Day weekend in exchange for a few reviews. She called it a collaboration, he called it an annoying, free loading demand. Now, if you know anything about negotiation skills, you’d know to NEVER put all your cards on the table. Start with an inquiry, see what the initial response to your inquiry is, and then take it from there.
While Elle had every right to inquire about the possibility of a collaboration, asking outright for 5 free nights was a huge mistake. That said, Paul’s boorish response was the reason why what could have ended quietly between a blogger and a brand escalated into a PR nightmare that, once the dust settles, will leave lasting scars on both parties. Paul blamed Elle for trying to wrangle wages out of the hands of his employees and posted both her original email and his response on his Facebook page. Elle, retaliated by creating a 17 minute YouTube video, owning up to the request and then castigating Paul and everyone over the age of 30!!! Oh Mon Dieu! Elle darling, many of us bloggers and vloggers feel your pain and we all wish this matter had been handled with a lot more tact/diplomacy BUT, for you to then turn your attention to people over a certain age was unconscionable. You might be 22 now, but one day you will be 30… and the last time I checked, 50 was the new 30. Get a grip!
Paul was a dolt for treating you so poorly and he will get his own karmic reward but, you were daft to pick on a demographic in your video, and accuse them of spewing hate, thus extending the tyranny of the blame game… You see, no one wins at that game. Hold your chin up high, keep doing the stuff that wins you followers and don’t ever cross the ageism line again. Look around you, all the popular social media sites are OWNED by folks over 30. The digital age has impacted the lives of people across the socioeconomic, age demographic, and racial divide. The only folks who are clueless to this fact are those who either don’t pay attention or have their heads in their… More later
READ – The Independent: Luxury Dublin hotel bans all social media influencers
Motivation Mondays: WINNING


The details for Motivation Mondays are below. Join in! The themes for DEC 2017/JAN 2018 are:


12/01 –  World Aids Day,  12/02 Abolition of Slavery,
12/03 –  Start of Advent,  12/7 Pearl Harbor Remembrance, 12/8 Immaculate Conception,  12/9 Anti-Corruption Day,
12/10 –  Human Rights Day,  12/11 Green Day, 12/12 Start of Hanukkah,
12/17 –   12/18 International Migrant’s Day, 12/20 End of Hanukkah,  12/21 Winter Solstice,  12/23 Super Saturday
12/24 –  12/25 Christmas, 12/26 Start of Kwanzaa, 12/31 New Year’s Eve


01/01 –    01/01 New Year’s Day, 01/04  World Braille Day, 01/07 Orthodox Christmas, Golden Globes Award
01/08 –   01/11 Human Trafficking Awareness,  01/14 Orthodox New Year,
01/15 –   01/15  Martin Luther King Day,  01/21 World Religion Day,
01/22 –   01/26 International Customs Day, 01/27 International Day of Commemoration in Memory of the Victims of the Holocaust
01/28 –   01/28  Grammy Awards,


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“We learned about honesty and integrity – that the truth matters… that you don’t take shortcuts or play by your own set of rules… and success doesn’t count unless you earn it fair and square.” Michelle Obama

Motivation Mondays: Own It!

Motivation Mondays: Own It!

Motivation Mondays: Own It!

Motivation Mondays: Own It!

Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not his own facts. Daniel Patrick Moynihan
Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people. Carl Jung
Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. Norman Vincent Peale

SELF-AWARENESS: How do we survive a brutal, public shaming and tongue lashing? For starters, choose the temporary path of SILENCE and REFLECTION to help you gain some perspective and distance from the incident. Don’t be in a rush to prove your opponent wrong because it won’t matter. There are three sides to every story; yours, mine and the truth. People will take sides and feel righteous indignation or possibly outrage about the situation. Again, it won’t matter because it takes two to start a fight and each person contributes something to the fire. You win by sitting on your hands for a bit to collect your thoughts, calm yourself, and talk to people who won’t add fuel to the fire.
Don’t respond until you have created some psychic and emotional distance to the public bruising. Only after spending some time to reflect will your response be measured and effective. If you jump in to respond right away, your emotional hurt will cloud your judgement and all that will come out will be more wounding words and all the other messy things we have seen in this rather unfortunate case. Ergo – Stick to the facts of a story, measure your response, don’t drag others into it … mind your words. Phew! Enough said. What are your measured thoughts?
READMotivation Mondays: A NEW START #2017SurvivalTips


This post was partly inspired by a WP Daily Post – Candid – Write a new post in response to today’s one-word prompt. Not sure how to participate?

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Positive Motivation Tip: Stay anchored in the facts and let the emotional, hurling salvos go.

Motivation Mondays is open to anyone who wishes to share a motivational quote, photo, personal challenge or a post that encourages others to start the week on an upbeat note.
Basic Instructions: Each week, I will have a motivation word to help us create a response. (See listed words for the months above/below)
Email address: You may email or share your post as a comment and I will add it to the round-up of related posts. email it to: contact(@)mirthandmotivation(.)com
Category tag: – Share your post using Motivation Mondays
Twitter hashtag: – Use this on Twitter #MotvnM
Dedicated Page: There is a dedicated page for Motivation Mondays. It has the same instructions and will include other helpful tools and a link to the round-up
Facebook Page: MotivationOnMondays Join our page and add your post and/or any motivational piece you think will be helpful to others.
Facebook Community: We have a Facebook community forum to compliment the page. It serves as another way to share uplifting posts and thoughts. Please join in and add your voice.

Badge: – I created a fun badge using PicMonkey’s free photo editing tools. You can create your own, use WordPress’ integrated tool on your blog or you are welcome to use mine. (see dedicated page)
Tag: – Motivation Mondays
Hashtag: – #MotvnM

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Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

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