“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.” Martin Luther King, Jr.
Motivational Minute #44 – Forgiveness by Nick Vujicic
Why Forgiveness? Because forgiveness helps us move forward with our lives. It begins in the heart. It begins with us. Every time I meet or see someone holding grudges over some old slight or an egregious act, I am tempted to remind them that the poison will kill them first before it gets to the other person who might have long forgotten the slight and moved on. When we forgive, it is not only an act of goodwill and humility, it is an act of self-healing. Imagine living life as an internet troll, spewing venom on a regular basis or being mean-spirited to complete strangers. What does that say about the troll? What does holding a grudge say about you?
We are all capable of good and evil, but what separates us from crossing completely over to the side of evil, is our ability to love and forgive. That person who caused you harm has died or moved on; that friend who betrayed your trust has long gone; that parent or attacker who hurt you deeply is in greater pain than you can imagine. When we are content with our lot and at peace with our place in the world, our natural instinct is to help not hurt. Motivate yourself today to let go of petty resentments and start afresh. I know you can do it. When do you plan to forgive that person and move on? Today is as good a day as any other.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Mahatma Gandhi
Some people like to quibble over nonsense. They lock themselves in a mental trap of he said/she said. They stay there and let their lives and minds stagnate because they want to be RIGHT. As Gandhiji says above, forgiveness is the terrain of the strong. There is no satisfaction in wishing others evil or holding on to old hurts. Yes, spend some time and grieve if you must. Get some healing help. Speak to the one who hurt you to resolve issues if feasible, then motivate yourself to move on with your life. When I was a child, I had a good friend at boarding school. She was a difficult girl, with a great sense of humor, who enjoyed debates and we got along quite well. One day, we had a spat over something that, for the life of me, I can’t remember. It created a rift in our friendship and we stopped speaking to each other.
I was pained by the split, but being a silly, stubborn child, I held onto my sense of rightness and so did she. We were at an impasse, and nothing our mutual friends said made much of a difference. Well, one weekend, she went home to visit her family and had a wonderful time. On Sunday, they were driving her back to school so she could get ready for the school week ahead. The family car crossed a barrier and slammed head-on into a truckload of farm animals. Their car overturned and everyone perished. I never had a chance to make up and resolve my tiff with my friend. It broke my heart and taught me a life long lesson. Life is ephemeral. Drop the rubbish, make amends with broken relationships/friendships, and heal yourself. Even if you wish to no longer associate with that person, at least, forgive yourself, forgive them, be civil and move on. Do you have a similar story around forgiveness?
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11/24 – Gratitude
12/01 – Acceptance
11/08 – Busyness
12/15 – Compassion
12/22 – Joy
12/29 – Regret
“Forgiveness says you are given another chance to make a new beginning.” Desmond Tutu
When the Apartheid regime was abolished in South Africa, many believed there would be a blood bath, and the oppressed would finally take revenge against their former oppressors. As a matter of fact, it was a point of great debate in college and many braced for the bloodshed that was expected to follow. It didn’t happen. Instead, Desmond Tutu and other peace advocates, chosen by the interim government, created the Truth and Reconciliation Commission (TRC), which gave everyone an opportunity to step forward and confess the atrocities they committed during the regime.
The goal was to create a doorway to restorative justice for both the victims and the offenders, “to repair the harm they’ve done—by apologizing, returning stolen money, or community service,” and give everyone a chance to forgive and heal. It was a national effort and, while it had some flaws, it was a great success and helped that wounded nation transition to a full democratic process. Each of us has the capacity to forgive. It takes individual commitment, motivation, and action. It takes love, compassion for your fellow-man, and a desire to be at peace with yourself and the world. Are you ready to forgive someone today? You will be the richer for it.
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Positive Motivation Tip: Forgiveness begins in the heart. It begins with us. Go there and release the pain.
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