Motivation Mondays: The BUSY BUSY TRAP
“It is not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” Henry David Thoreau
“Technology can be our best friend, and technology can also be the biggest party pooper of our lives. It interrupts our own story, interrupts our ability to have a thought or a daydream, to imagine something wonderful, because we’re too busy bridging the walk from the cafeteria back to the office on the cell phone.” Steven Spielberg
Why are we so BUSY? What are we running away from? What are we trying to achieve or escape? Success is great but excess is … ? Not so long along, on my way into NYC, a car sped by, made a sharp turn and almost hit a concrete barrier. The driver sped away in a hurry to meet, I presume, his maker. 10-15 minutes later, there he was, pulled over to the side of the road with those familiar neon sign flashing lights behind him. Yep, he got pulled over by a cop and whatever/wherever he thought he had to be/do … had to WAIT. We are constantly rushing to do, be, have, that sometimes, with nary a thought about our well-being or the well-being of those we love, we just crash and burn out.
What’s the RUSH? What does success truly mean to us? It’s important to be motivated about things that matter to us, but we need to prioritize our time. We also need to make time for self-nourishment and rejuvenation. Stephen Spielberg said it so beautifully above; we are so plugged in to our gadgets and our online social media activity (I’m guilty too) that we miss the creativity and joy that comes from seeing nature, taking a walk on the beach, and enjoying the simple yet life affirming good around us. Stop for a moment. Stand up. Take a deep breath. Release the tension and the adrenaline… Look around you and fix your gaze on something you haven’t paid attention to in a while. A busy, busy, rushed life is not a truly productive life. There must be focus, purpose, and time for self and others. Some of us work our friends and family right out of our lives. Stop and take stock. As Socrates aptly said, “Beware the barrenness of a busy life.”
“Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.” John Lennon
Being busy does not always mean real work. The object of all work is production or accomplishment and to either of these ends there must be forethought, system, planning, intelligence, and honest purpose, as well as perspiration. Seeming to do is not doing. Thomas A. Edison
What’s OUR rush? Ants are known to be very productive insects. They work all day long carrying building, ferreting and doing whatever it takes to keep their Queen happy. They have a focus for their work and many die doing it. Admirable yes, but we are not ants. As Thoreau asked in the first quote, what are we busy about? I know many of us have families to feed, mortgages/rent to pay, bills shouting our names and what not, but what about our well-being. Even as bloggers, we find ourselves reading posts that advice to do more, more, more… Join this, join that. Monetize, proselytize, improvise, incentivize, economize….. Ad nauseam. Where do we draw the line in the sand and say enough? – “ENOUGH! I will focus on a few things at a time and when I’ve mastered them, I might add a few more.” Unless you work with a virtual assistant, have a team or secretary at hand or family members eager to learn and help you, you must be protective of your time and be vigilant about what you choose to do and how you choose to spend your time.
What does SUCCESS mean to you? Sure, we all want to be successful and enjoy the accolades that come with public recognition, but at what price? If you read my Unforgettable post, it should give you pause and make you think about all those you know who are “Gone, but not forgotten.” How do you want to be remembered? Which of the 10 Regrets in the infographic above will be added to your memorial? What are we perspiring over and is it worth it? Last week, I missed the Monday rush of blogging activity because I was helping my daughter put 4 huge binders of her Senior Project in Asian Studies together. She’d spent a year working on a Japanese to English translation and her completed work was 1,200 printed pages long. I was a bit frustrated that I was missing out on Monday and a tad concerned that I might not post my Acceptance blog post. But part way through it, I made a mental shift… Seriously, as a parent/daughter/sister/friend, what would you rather do? Read the infographic again if you are not sure. Motivation is not just about us and our goals, it’s also about supporting others to achieve their goals.
The details for Motivation Mondays are below. Join in! The themes for December are:
12/01 – Acceptance
12/08 – Busyness
12/15 – Compassion
12/22 – Joy
12/29 – Regret
“No matter how busy you are, you must take time to make the other person feel important.” Mary Kay Ash
“When you begin to worry, go find something to do. Get busy being a blessing to someone; do something fruitful. Talking about your problem or sitting alone, thinking about it, does no good; it serves only to make you miserable. Above all else, remember that worrying is totally useless. Worrying will not solve your problem.” Joyce Meyer
What do YOU know for sure? All my life, one thing that has stayed true in my heart is that when we help others achieve their goals, we are ultimately helping ourselves feel fulfilled. What joy exists in selfishness and self-aggrandizement? If everything we do is driven purely by our ego, we will always live in fear of loss. Some of the nicest people I’ve met are very successful people. They treat others with respect and encourage people to go out and succeed. They are wearing their success well. Then there are others who wear their success like armor, ready to do battle with anyone who comes near. To them, everyone is suspect or a foe, no one is a friend. What a life.
Where are going WE with all the BUSYNESS? If we all spent time mapping out our successes and our challenges with a strategy to take some time out to rejuvenate and be attentive to others, we would be less stressed. Another thing I’ve come to learn is that we can’t take it with us. Take time to enjoy your successes. Take time to heal from your failures. Take time to be with yourself. Take time to be with your friends and family. Take time to listen, breathe, smile, rest, love, live, and do nothing. Stop the busyness, your life wants YOU back.
Motivation Mondays is open to anyone who wishes to share a motivational quote, photo, personal challenge or a post that encourages others to start the week on an upbeat note.
Basic Instructions: Each week, I will have a motivation word to help us create a response. (See listed words for end of November and all of December below)
Email address: You may email or share your post as a comment and I will add it to the round-up of related posts. email it to: contact(@)mirthandmotivation(.)com
Category tag: – Share your post using Motivation Mondays
Twitter hashtag: – Use this on Twitter #MotvnM
Dedicated Page: There is a dedicated page for Motivation Mondays. It has the same instructions and will include other helpful tools and a link to the round-up
Facebook Page: MotivationOnMondays Join our page and add your post and/or any motivational piece you think will be helpful to others.
Facebook Community: We have a Facebook community forum to compliment the page. It serves as another way to share uplifting posts and thoughts. Please join in and add your voice.
Badge: – I created a fun badge using PicMonkey’s free photo editing tools. You can create your own, use WordPress’ integrated tool on your blog or you are welcome to use mine. (see dedicated page)
Tag: – Motivation Mondays
Hashtag: – #MotvnM
Positive Motivation Tip: Acceptance begins with us; our perceptions of ourselves and the things that stand in our way of joy. Then it shifts to our perceptions of others and the prejudices we uses as excuses for our intolerance. Embrace and love yourself so you can learn to embrace others.
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