“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” Stephen Covey
Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement. Golda Meir
TRUSTING YOURSELF: What does TRUST mean to you? Often when we think of the word, we jump to our beliefs around trusting others, but TRUST begins with us. SELF-TRUST is the key to building confidence in our abilities and achieving our goals. Before we can learn to trust others, we must first learn to trust ourselves. Whenever you find people who claim they have trust issues, it has more to do with experiences, fears and unresolved events that have tainted their ability to trust. To move forward, we must rebuild our trust in ourselves and know that with time, effort and grace, we will strengthen that quality to trust again. Trusting ourselves is the foundation to our intuition, decision-making and goal setting. Trust is like a door we open to ourselves and to others. We have to walk in and close that door, and build up our confidence levels and develop other important skills. When those skills are sharpened, our trust quotient increases. How do you know when you have developed self-trust?
A Story: The Trusting Frog
A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, when two of them fell into a deep pit. All the other frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep it was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. She fell down and died. The other frog continued to jump as hard as she could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at her to stop the pain and just die. She began jumping even harder and finally made it out. When she got out, the other frogs said, “Did you not hear us?” The frog explained to them that she was deaf – she thought they were encouraging her to jump out of the hole the entire time. She trusted them to encourage her, and she trusted herself to get out of that hole.
“Look for 3 things in a person – intelligence, energy and integrity. If they don’t have the last one, don’t even bother with the first two.” Warren Buffet
The toughest thing about the power of trust is that it’s very difficult to build and very easy to destroy. The essence of trust building is to emphasize the similarities between you and the customer. Thomas J. Watson
TRUSTING OTHERS: What trust issues do you have? As pointed out above, trust begins with us and then flows into our trusting relationships with others. When we feel confident that others have our best interest at heart, we act boldly and with a degree of inner trust that we can do it. In the quote above, Mr. Buffet mentioned three things to look for in a person. Integrity comes with the knowledge that we can deliver on our promises to ourselves. That trust becomes something we seek in others; when we know who we are and what we trust in ourselves, we look for those qualities in others. When we begin a trust relationship, it is critical that we take our commitments seriously and avoid any miscommunications or acts of carelessness. When a trust is broken, it takes tremendous work to patch things up… and in some cases, the damage is irreversible. When I think of trust, I am thinking also of a soul connection with others and a commitment to treat each other, and others, with love and respect. If there is no respect in a trust agreement, the chances of fissure are greater. Where are your trust issues holding you back?
A STORY: The Story of the Three Turtles
One day, three turtles named Mick, Andy and Roy decided to go on a picnic.
Mick packs the picnic basket with beer and sandwiches.
The trouble is that the picnic site is ten miles away and it takes them ten days to get there. When they get there, Mick unpacks the food and beer and says “OK Roy, give me the bottle opener.” “I didn’t bring it,” says Roy “I thought you packed it.”
Mick gets worried; he turns to Andy and says, “Did you bring the bottle opener?” Naturally, Andy, who prefers political discourse to food related matters, didn’t bring it. So they’re stuck ten miles from home without a bottle opener.
Mick and Andy beg Roy to go back for it, but he refuses as he says they will eat all the sandwiches. After two hours, and after they have sworn on their tortoise lives that they will not eat the sandwiches, he finally agrees.
Roy sets off down the road at a steady pace. 20 days pass and he still isn’t back. Mick and Andy are starving, but a promise is a promise. Another 5 days go by and he still isn’t back; but a promise is a promise.
Finally, they can’t take it any longer so they take out a sandwich each, and just as they are about to eat it, Roy pops up from behind a rock and shouts: “I KNEW IT… I’M NOT GOING!” Needless to say, they never spoke to Roy again… What would you have done?
The details for Motivation Mondays are below. Join in! The themes for June and July are:
06/01 – SIMPLICITY
06/08 – POSSIBILITIES
06/15 – SACRIFICE
06/22 – DETERMINATION
06/29 – TRUST
07/06 – FREEDOM
07/13 – WORRY
07/20 – WEALTH
07/27 – GRACE
“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.” William Shakespeare
Someone who thinks the world is always cheating him is right. He is missing that wonderful feeling of trust in someone or something. Eric Hoffer
BUILDING TRUST: How do we build TRUST? If we want to learn to trust, we must learn to not be so suspicious of others motivations. Believe in the good of others and Trust will come more easily. Use discernment and build on your own trust level and then the rest will become easier to develop and grow. Barbara Misztal, in her book: Trust in Modern Societies: The Search for the Bases of Social Order, Polity Press, points out three basic things that trust manifests in the lives of people: It makes social life predictable, it creates a sense of community, and it makes it easier for people to work together. Trust brings tremendous possibilities into our lives. It nurtures our relationships and helps us grow and expand our reach. The more we work on trusting ourselves and developing trusting relationships, the more likely we will be able to learn to build it elsewhere.
A Story: The Great Warrior’s TRUST
There once lived a great warrior. Though quite old, he still was able to defeat any challenger. His reputation extended far and wide throughout the land and many students gathered to study under him. One day an infamous young warrior arrived at the village. He was determined to be the first man to defeat the great master. Along with his strength, he had an uncanny ability to spot and exploit any weakness in an opponent. He would wait for his opponent to make the first move, thus revealing a weakness, and then would strike with merciless force and lightning speed. No one had ever lasted with him in a match beyond the first move. Much against the advice of his concerned students, the old master gladly accepted the young warrior’s challenge.
As the two squared off for battle, the young warrior began to hurl insults at the old master. He threw dirt and spit in his face. For hours he verbally assaulted him with every curse and insult known to mankind. But the old warrior merely stood there motionless and calm. Finally, the young warrior exhausted himself. Knowing he was defeated, he left feeling shamed. Somewhat disappointed that he did not fight the insolent youth, the students gathered around the old master and questioned him. “How could you endure such an indignity? How did you drive him away?” “If someone comes to give you a gift and you do not receive it,” the master replied, “to whom does the gift belong?” Source: Zen Stories to Tell Your Neighbors
Positive Motivation Tip: To TRUST others, we must first learn to trust ourselves… Start there!
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