June 29

Motivation Mondays: TRUST

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“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” Stephen Covey

Motivation Mondays: TRUST -  Open Doors to Trusting Self & Others
Motivation Mondays: TRUST – Open Doors to Trusting Self & Others

Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement. Golda Meir

TRUSTING YOURSELF: What does TRUST mean to you? Often when we think of the word, we jump to our beliefs around trusting others, but TRUST begins with us. SELF-TRUST is the key to building confidence in our abilities and achieving our goals. Before we can learn to trust others, we must first learn to trust ourselves. Whenever you find people who claim they have trust issues, it has more to do with experiences, fears and unresolved events that have tainted their ability to trust. To move forward, we must rebuild our trust in ourselves and know that with time, effort and grace, we will strengthen that quality to trust again. Trusting ourselves is the foundation to our intuition, decision-making and goal setting. Trust is like a door we open to ourselves and to others. We have to walk in and close that door, and build up our confidence levels and develop other important skills. When those skills are sharpened, our trust quotient increases. How do you know when you have developed self-trust?

A Story: The Trusting Frog
A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, when two of them fell into a deep pit. All the other frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep it was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. She fell down and died. The other frog continued to jump as hard as she could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at her to stop the pain and just die. She began jumping even harder and finally made it out. When she got out, the other frogs said, “Did you not hear us?” The frog explained to them that she was deaf – she thought they were encouraging her to jump out of the hole the entire time. She trusted them to encourage her, and she trusted herself to get out of that hole.

“Look for 3 things in a person – intelligence, energy and integrity. If they don’t have the last one, don’t even bother with the first two.” Warren Buffet

Motivation Mondays: TRUST - Trusting Self & Others
Motivation Mondays: TRUST – Trusting Self & Others

The toughest thing about the power of trust is that it’s very difficult to build and very easy to destroy. The essence of trust building is to emphasize the similarities between you and the customer. Thomas J. Watson

TRUSTING OTHERS: What trust issues do you have? As pointed out above, trust begins with us and then flows into our trusting relationships with others. When we feel confident that others have our best interest at heart, we act boldly and with a degree of inner trust that we can do it. In the quote above, Mr. Buffet mentioned  three things to look for in a person. Integrity comes with the knowledge that we can deliver on our promises to ourselves. That trust becomes something we seek in others; when we know who we are and what we trust in ourselves, we look for those qualities in others. When we begin a trust relationship, it is critical that we take our commitments seriously and avoid any miscommunications or acts of carelessness. When a trust is broken, it takes tremendous work to patch things up… and in some cases, the damage is irreversible. When I think of trust, I am thinking also of a soul connection with others and a commitment to treat each other, and others, with love and respect. If there is no respect in a trust agreement, the chances of fissure are greater. Where are your trust issues holding you back?

A STORY: The Story of the Three Turtles
One day, three turtles named Mick, Andy and Roy decided to go on a picnic.
Mick packs the picnic basket with beer and sandwiches.
The trouble is that the picnic site is ten miles away and it takes them ten days to get there. When they get there, Mick unpacks the food and beer and says “OK Roy, give me the bottle opener.” “I didn’t bring it,” says Roy “I thought you packed it.”

Mick gets worried; he turns to Andy and says, “Did you bring the bottle opener?” Naturally, Andy, who prefers political discourse to food related matters, didn’t bring it. So they’re stuck ten miles from home without a bottle opener.
Mick and Andy beg Roy to go back for it, but he refuses as he says they will eat all the sandwiches. After two hours, and after they have sworn on their tortoise lives that they will not eat the sandwiches, he finally agrees.

Roy sets off down the road at a steady pace. 20 days pass and he still isn’t back. Mick and Andy are starving, but a promise is a promise. Another 5 days go by and he still isn’t back; but a promise is a promise.
Finally, they can’t take it any longer so they take out a sandwich each, and just as they are about to eat it, Roy pops up from behind a rock and shouts: “I KNEW IT… I’M NOT GOING!” Needless to say, they never spoke to Roy again… What would you have done?

The details for Motivation Mondays are below. Join in! The themes for June and July are:
06/01 – SIMPLICITY
06/08 – POSSIBILITIES
06/15 – SACRIFICE
06/22 – DETERMINATION
06/29 – TRUST

07/06 – FREEDOM
07/13 – WORRY
07/20 – WEALTH
07/27 – GRACE

More Below!

“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.” William Shakespeare

Motivation Mondays: TRUST -  Open Doors to Trusting Self & Others
Motivation Mondays: TRUST – Open Doors to Trusting Self & Others

Someone who thinks the world is always cheating him is right. He is missing that wonderful feeling of trust in someone or something. Eric Hoffer

BUILDING TRUST: How do we build TRUST? If we want to learn to trust, we must learn to not be so suspicious of others motivations. Believe in the good of others and Trust will come more easily. Use discernment and build on your own trust level and then the rest will become easier to develop and grow. Barbara Misztal, in her book: Trust in Modern Societies: The Search for the Bases of Social Order, Polity Press, points out three basic things that trust manifests in the lives of people: It makes social life predictable, it creates a sense of community, and it makes it easier for people to work together. Trust brings tremendous possibilities into our lives. It nurtures our relationships and helps us grow and expand our reach. The more we work on trusting ourselves and developing trusting relationships, the more likely we will be able to learn to build it elsewhere.

A Story: The Great Warrior’s TRUST
There once lived a great warrior. Though quite old, he still was able to defeat any challenger. His reputation extended far and wide throughout the land and many students gathered to study under him. One day an infamous young warrior arrived at the village. He was determined to be the first man to defeat the great master. Along with his strength, he had an uncanny ability to spot and exploit any weakness in an opponent. He would wait for his opponent to make the first move, thus revealing a weakness, and then would strike with merciless force and lightning speed. No one had ever lasted with him in a match beyond the first move. Much against the advice of his concerned students, the old master gladly accepted the young warrior’s challenge.

As the two squared off for battle, the young warrior began to hurl insults at the old master. He threw dirt and spit in his face. For hours he verbally assaulted him with every curse and insult known to mankind. But the old warrior merely stood there motionless and calm. Finally, the young warrior exhausted himself. Knowing he was defeated, he left feeling shamed. Somewhat disappointed that he did not fight the insolent youth, the students gathered around the old master and questioned him. “How could you endure such an indignity? How did you drive him away?” “If someone comes to give you a gift and you do not receive it,” the master replied, “to whom does the gift belong?” Source: Zen Stories to Tell Your Neighbors

Positive Motivation Tip: To TRUST others, we must first learn to trust ourselves… Start there!

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PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: Zen Stories via Read.Goodweb, All Photos: Doors/Doorways, Turtles, Turtles, Frog, Frogs, Warrior, via Wikipedia  and/or my Personal Collection

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet


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  • I don’t trust very many people in this world, but the ones I do – it’s with my life.

  • I struggle with trust quite a bit. It takes a while to build trust and it’s easy to lose when someone doesn’t act with integrity.

  • I love this! Trust is the glue of life so true. In today’s world it is sometimes hard to trust but I have to admit I do try. I love the stories BTW thanks so much for sharing!

  • What a meaningful line — trust is the glue of life. Trust really holds relationships together. Relationships break down without trust. Beautiful. – Fred

  • It’s very true that we must trust ourselves first. That’s the important first step.

  • Sometimes it is hard to trust yourself, but with self-confidence it makes it much easier. Everything is a domino effect, both good and bad.

  • Wow, I had never heard the trusting frog story–there is so much to be learned from it. I will definitely use it when I’m back teaching in my classroom again. Thanks for sharing!

  • I sometimes feel like I give trust out too freely. I usually trust people until they give me a reason not too. I do watch for red flags and set appropriate boundaries.

  • I always like looking at different doorways and gates, you never know what lies behind.

  • I have a hard time trusting not only myself, but others. I’ve just had a lot of stuff happen…but really I just need to learn to trust God more.

  • Those pictures with the doors how nice love that idea. Now regarding trust that is something that is given yet when lost is very difficult to recover so I build trust by being authentic and responsible.

  • They say distrust is the termite of any relationship, and I could not agree more.

  • lol on the turtle story! What a silly skeptic he was… I’d have given him the beer w/no opener and ate the sandwich right then and there. 😉

  • Trust is so fragile and precious. Too much, too little, who to give it to, who not to.

  • I love the story of three turtles . It makes me more inspiring thank you for sharing this

  • Those are some great doors. I agree that trust starts within us. We have to trusts ourselves first before we can start trusting others. If we trust ourselves enough, we can build confidence and start achieving our goals.

  • The story of the 3 turtles is a little tricky – but the trust issue was so bad. Roy, I think, was out-of-line there. If I don’t trust a person or a group, I would have just gone straight out telling them about it. It would probably fix things and these people would most likely be in their best behavior knowing that that’s how I feel.

  • It is indeed a beautiful quote with an in depth meaning “Love all, trust a few,do wrong to none!”. I wish we could actually follow that in our daily life but we end up loosing that trust with a simple misunderstanding.

  • I like the story of the Great Warrior. It’s like that, never underestimate small people to become a leader, or a woman to become a President…TRUST is always earned.

  • It can be so hard to trust others, but this article is full of useful information on how to be the best you can be.

  • What a great read this is! It is very timely. I think I will have to learn to really trust myself, I always doubt myself of my capabilities, I think I should trust myself first then see where it will take me.

  • I love those stories. I like to think I trust individuals but it does take a long time to get there.

  • Love that quote from Warren Buffet. I try to instill integrity in my son. I think it’s so important to do the right thing even when no one is looking.

  • Trust is a vital component to any relationship!! I find that trusting myself is the hardest sometimes.

  • It can definitely be hard to build trust. This is one thing I find very difficult is trusting others.

  • I can easily give my trust to someone but when it is ruined, it will never be the same.

  • Trust is very important in any relationship. It is just sad nowadays, you really have to think gazillion times whether to trust a certain person or not.

  • Oh, Liz! I saw a lot of frogs! I don’t like frogs. Anyway, I am just happy that I am surrounded with trustworthy people. For those who betrayed my trust, I am cautious around them.

  • It’s hard to be trusting in a society like this. Growing up has taught me to be skeptical than sorry 🙁

  • It’s so hard to earn someone’s trust but so easy to break it. A trustworthy person is sometimes hard to find.

  • Trust is ultimately a very essential virtue for a relationship to thrive. It builds, lifts, it gives life a better meaning. Without it, the world would be so full of resentment, loneliness, and anxiety. Unfortunately, it makes it difficult to give our full trust to just anyone these days with the proliferation of evil and wickedness around us.

  • I have a hard time trusting myself. I guess that’s why I have a hard time driving, thus overcoming my fear. I know myself to be clumsy, forgetful so I have a hard time handling responsibilities.

  • Trust is really important whether it’s self-belief or faith on others. Things get easier when we trust ourselves and others.

  • Trust is the hardest to gain and easily to lose. One wrong act, all the trust you had for that person is gone and cannot be regain easily

  • Sad reality, trust is hard to gain yet easily lost once you make a wrong act to someone. Trust can’t be regained that easy.

  • Trust is something we shouldn’t live without. It’s easy to withhold it because of the negativity in this world, but if we manage to give our complete trust, we would be happier.

  • Nice stories especially that of the turtle. Trust is something one should earn as the Chinese says. But to me, trust can be likened to a fragile thing that should be handled with care. If broken, you can’t shape it back to its original state.

  • I have learned to value trust in a hard way. I have lost the trust of my friend just because I was stupid enough to disclose it just to get even. A trust lost is a trust hard to earn back. 🙁

  • Love the post about TRUST, as it should be gained and must not be given away; especially nowadays, things need to be sure first before we fully trust a person we just barely meet.

  • Such a great topic to discussed. Trust is everything a humble man should have.

  • The photographs of all those doors and your write up are beautiful. Thank you for sharing it with us 🙂

  • I tried to think that most people can be trust but sometime they failed me. Now I am more careful trusting others. I need to know the person for sometime first then only I can trust them.

  • you got me thinking there. all these times i’ve been thinking “i can’t trust this person” etc etc… but now on deeper thinking, i realised that the person i trust the least seems to be myself.

  • trust is one of those that can be easily destroyed in a blink of an eye and may not be rebuilt no matter how hard you try. such a vulnerable thing

  • I’ve heard and read the two stories: on the deaf frog and the great warrior’s trust before. If the frog is deaf, how did he reply the other frogs who are inside? Haha, that’s a lame question my friend asked me. As for the warrior’s trust, I like how you turn the wisdom into trust, having self-trust and self-confidence, definitely something I did not think of!

  • Trust is something that is hard for me. I trust very very few people and its usually those that are closest to me. Once you lost my trust, its gone forever.

  • I tend to trust more people than I should but I always thing that Maybe if I show them to trust they will become trustworthy people. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t. I will always give people that first trust but if they brake it I feel they don’t deserve it after that. Thanks for sharing.,

  • When you trust yourself, you have confidence and the will power to do the things you want and explore towards your success

  • Life must be so dark without trust. Definitely we have to put in the effort to find the people who deserve it! 🙂

  • Trust need to be earned. It isn’t easy for a person to trust us, so do we don’t trust people easily.

  • I have lost the trust of a few people and I don’t think they will ever fully get it back. I would hate for someone to view me that way. Trust is very important.

  • Enjoyed all your stories and each resonated well because once or twice in my life, I’ve been in similar situations. Although trust is hard to build and hard to give to others once it had been lost, I like the mindset of removing all suspicious motives on other people to make it easier to trust again.

  • this is a nice collection, my mom always reminds me to learn to trust the people I’m dealing with. But unfortunately with all the bad news I read and hear, it’s really hard to do it.

  • Trust is vital for people who have values in life. Others break this main ingredients while treading their whole lives. An essential traits that needs to be aware of. Fernando Lachica

  • I just caught someone in a lie about why they couldn’t come to my son’s upcoming birthday party and found out that they got an offer to go to a lake house. The worst part? This is my son’s grandma who wasn’t truthtful with us about our reasoning. Clearly it is going to be hard to trust anything she says, which is incredibly sad.

  • I absolutely love this post, I feel trust is a vital part of a healthy relationship with yourself and with others. Thank you for sharing this with us! 🙂

  • Trust is such a difficult thing for so many people. It has a lot to do with our culture. If we can teach our children to trust and establish relationships of trust with them, we can help them with future relationships.

  • I agree, it is really hard to trust other people if we have trust issues. But we can’t also blame people because it is really hard to trust people nowadays.

  • Trust is certainly very important ..without trust friendships and bonds cannot be forged.

  • It takes a lot for me to trust people because of some trust issues I have, but once you’re in it’s pretty hard to get out of my circle!

  • The story about the turtles made me chuckle. Yeah, I’d be mad at Roy, but part of me would have to admire his dedication at waiting to work his friends over behind a rock for so long. LoL! – Jerusha

  • Trust is so important to have and I feel
    It’s the most easiest thing you can lose. People need to value trust more.

  • Trust is very important and I am very careful with whom to trust when it comes to people that’s why i try to choose the people i deal with.

  • Trust is so easily broken. Sometimes such a tiny thing can break it and it can never be fixed. I take it very seriously!!

  • Thank you for sharing such an insightful post. I think trust, like respect, has to be earned.

  • It can definitely be hard to trust others. However, opening yourself up to letting others in makes life so much more beautiful and rich.

  • This is such a great post loved the stories about the frog and the tortoise, I do not have trust issues but find it had to rebuild when someone breaks it

  • I need to work on this, I’m not a trusting person at all. I’ve always been like that though. It seems like every time I do trust someone they end up stabbing me in the back. So my circle of trust is a small one. I do need to work on that though.

  • You can not fully trust any human. Everyone is faulty. However, I liked a lot of what you said.

  • The turtle’s photo is beautiful! It’s amazing how they can trust each other like that!

  • I love the door pictures. I like to take pictures of interesting doors if I happen to see one I like.

  • I will not spoke to Roy again too, because he don’t trust his friends… Trust is really important in friendship, once its gone friendship will be destroyed too and very difficult to build again.

  • I won’t spoke to Roy either, he don’t trust his friends at all. Trust is important in friendship once gone friendship also will be destroyed and very hard to rebuild.

  • I browse through this entry again. I told myself… Oh no, it’s that frog post again!. Yes, I am scared of them.

  • Trust is one of the most important thing that every person must have. At least we need to start within ourselves we must have trust to all the people we love so that they can also trust us

  • I heard the story about the 2 frogs before from one of the sermons I listened to. It was very humorous but has a really deep meaning.

  • Trust is something that is hard to earn and easy to lose. It is an essential in all kinds of relationship.

  • Nowadays, it is very hard to trust anyone. There are instances that even family members are not trustworthy.

  • Trust is very important. Once it’s broken, it will never be the same again. You will always have doubts even if you think you re-gain the lost trust. Thank you for another inspiring post Eliz.

  • I truly love reading your blog. It always inspire me in so many ways- TRUST is one thing that I valued most, without it I don’t think there’s happiness, there’s always that feeling of doubt. I always be honest and truthful to my family and friends. Thanks for the inspiration.

  • Trusting yourself can be really difficult sometimes, but is really the key to having healthy relationships with other people. When you trust yourself, you know when you can trust other people.

  • Definitely trust is important ! Once broken, it maybe be regain but never the same again.

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