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Motivation Mondays: Father’s Day Matters

12/06/2017

“I decided in my life that I would do nothing that did not reflect positively on my father’s life.” Sidney Poitier

Motivation Mondays: Why Father's Day Matters

Motivation Mondays: Why Father’s Day Matters

Dad, wherever you are, you are gone but you will never be forgotten. Conrad Hall
To be as good as our fathers we must be better, imitation is not discipleship. Wendell Phillips
When it comes to Father’s Day, I will remember my dad for both being there to nurture me and also for the times he gave me on my own to cultivate my own interests and to nurture my own spirit. Jennifer Grant

Why does Father’s Day Matter? On Sunday, June 18, we will have another chance to celebrate the Dads and Fathers in our lives and give thanks for all the men who made a positive impact on our lives. This day matters because it is a reminder that being a parent is an enormous responsibility and one that must never be taken lightly. For folks with sad or no memories of a father’s presence, it is an opportunity to pause and consider giving thanks to those who stood up for them in that role. For those of us with fond memories of our Dads, it is another chance to express our gratitude and remember that we can be a parental figure in the eyes of a child who needs love. Even though my Dad was a great and admirable figure looming over our household, he had very human qualities too. As an adult, I chose to remember his loving, generous spirit not his strict and sometimes unbending side. He was Dad to me and, in the eyes of a child, he was perfect and all knowing. In the eyes of a teen, Dad was annoying, and in the eyes of an adult, Dad’s life became our legacy and our foundation. We need all of these versions to complete the picture and memories as we curate what we will share with our kids and with the world.
Since I started writing this blog in 2008, I’ve written a post to celebrate my Dad and the many Dads I’ve admired over the years. I’ll add links to those posts here as a way to curate my posts on the topic. Take a look at all or any and enjoy.
Amidst the Deluge: Abundant Love for Father’s Day
On Father’s Day: The Gift of Wisdom
On Father’s Day: Memories of Love Lost & Found…

 

“It doesn’t matter who my father was; it matters who I remember he was.” Anne Sexton

Motivation Mondays: Why Father's Day Matters

Motivation Mondays: Why Father’s Day Matters

I admire my father greatly. Kojo Annan
We looked up to our father. He still is much greater than us. Wynton Marsalis
In our house, Mother’s Day is every day. Father’s Day, too. In our house, parents count. They do important work and that work matters. One day just doesn’t cut for us. Margaret Heffernan

 

Even though my Dad passed away some years ago, his fearlessness, generous legacy, worldview vision, wise teachings, philanthropy and blessings continue to guide and lift me and my loved ones up. I was raised Catholic but our friends were spread across the religious divide and we respected all. Dad always preached that the true testimony of our faith was how well we treated our fellow man/woman not just how well we memorized platitudes. Love thy neighbor as thyself was a tenet practiced in our household and he lived it till the day he died.   Was he perfect? Nobody is perfect but his spirit of service and compassion for those in need was legendary. In our lifetime, we have a choice; we can choose the path of poison or of perfume and what we believe, we become. One of my teachers always said that we must make friends with our mind so it can remind us to connect to our hearts and view others through a lens of compassion and not judgement. Instead of wasting time criticizing how others live, we should all work at living our best, good Samaritan lives… the world needs more of that. For those folks who have not had the best relationship with their Dad, I’d encourage you to honor those who have supported and lifted you, and find the space in your heart to forgive your father. To move forward, we must learn to let go of the past and all its hurtful memories. We don’t have to forget but we must learn to forgive.

Inspiration: Happy Father’s Day…
Remembrance: Happy Father’s Day
Happy Father’s Day & International Yoga Day: 20 Things That Matter

A Story – Become A Lake (Advice a dad would give)
An aging Hindu master grew tired of his apprentice complaining, and so, one morning, he sent him for some salt. When the apprentice returned, the master instructed the unhappy young man to put a handful of salt in a glass of water and then to drink it.
“How does it taste?” the master asked.
“Bitter,” spit the apprentice.
The master chuckled and then asked the young man to take the same handful of salt and put it in the lake. The two walked in silence to the nearby lake, and once the apprentice swirled his handful of salt in the water, the old man said, “Now drink from the lake.”
As the water dripped down the young man’s chin, the master asked, “How does it taste?”
“Much fresher,” remarked the apprentice.
“Do you taste the salt?” asked the master.
“No,” said the young man.
At this, the master sat beside the young man who so reminded him of himself and took his hands, offering, “The pain of life is pure salt, no more, no less. The amount of pain in life remains the same, exactly the same. But the amount of bitterness we taste depends on the container we put the pain in. So when you are in pain, the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of things… Stop being a glass. Become a lake.” Source The Little Zen Companion

 

The details for Motivation Mondays are below. Join in! The themes for May/June 2017 are:

 

MAY

05/01  – May Day, World Lyme Day, 02 National Teacher Day, 03 World Press Freedom, 04 National Day of Prayer,
05 Cinco De Mayo, 06 Kentucky Derby
05/14 –  14 Mothers Day, 20 Armed Forces Day
05/21 –  22 International Biological Diversity, 24 National Brother Day, 25 Ascension, 27 Ramadan starts
05/28 – 29 Memorial Day, 31 World No Tobacco Day

JUNE

06/05  –  World Environment Day,  08 National Best Friend Day,  08 World Oceans Day
06/11 –  11  Trinity Sunday, 14 Flag Day
06/18 –  18 Father’s Day,  19 Juneteeth,  20 World Refugee Day,  21 Summer Solstice/International Yoga Day, 23 Intn’l  Widow’s Day, 24 Ramadan Ends
06/25 – 25  Eid al Fitr,  26 Against Drug Abuse Day,

 

 

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“Man becomes man only by his intelligence, but he is man only by his heart.” Henri Frederic Amiel

Motivation Mondays: Why Father's Day Matters

Motivation Mondays: Why Father’s Day Matters

Motivation Mondays: Why Father's Day Matters

Motivation Mondays: Why Father’s Day Matters

My father always used to say that when you die, if you’ve got five real friends, then you’ve had a great life. Lee Iacocca
Mothers play an important role as the heart of the home, but this in no way lessens the equally important role fathers should play, as head of the home, in nurturing, training, and loving their children. Ezra Taft Benson
This is the price you pay for having a great father. You get the wonder, the joy, the tender moments – and you get the tears at the end, too. Harlan Coben

Our parents are our first foray into the world of ethics, power, and culture. We take not only what they teach us but, what they show us as blueprints to help us navigate the world. If we grew up in a household of haters or hypocrites, we either mirror same or reject it so vociferously that your garden variety two-faced bigot won’t stand a chance. If we grew up in a household of open minded folks who respect the rights of others to exist and share space and food with us, we will remember the same as we mature and that is the world I hope and pray for. My Dad had friends around the globe and because we traveled, we connected with diverse people and cultures. I believe that as our global community becomes more interconnected because of technological advances, our differences will become smaller because we will be reminded, again and again, that we are human first and we all have basic needs and love for our friends and families. It is for this reason that we must be vigilant in raising our kids to embrace the world with compassion and clarity about the rich, diverse cultures and people who make our global community what it is today.

Whether you celebrate Father’s Day or not, don’t discount the gift of love and grace your loved ones share with you. Honor them.  Have a wonderful Father’s Day!

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Have a Happy, Healthy 2017!

 

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Positive Motivation Tip: Express gratitude to your Dad and loved ones, and to all who add sunshine to your life.

Motivation Mondays is open to anyone who wishes to share a motivational quote, photo, personal challenge or a post that encourages others to start the week on an upbeat note.
Basic Instructions: Each week, I will have a motivation word to help us create a response. (See listed words for the months above/below)
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Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

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12 Comments leave one →
  1. Tiffany Meiter permalink
    12/06/2017 6:20 pm

    I agree it’s important to recognize the parents and the people that play the role. Parents spend a lot of time taking care of others that its nice to have a day to take care of them.

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  2. Robin Rue permalink
    12/06/2017 6:32 pm

    Father’s Day is totally different for me this year. It’s the first year without my mom here, so he’s the only parent I have left.

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    • 12/06/2017 8:19 pm

      Dear, dear Robin, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I remember seeing pictures of your mom on your blog. My condolences and love go out to you and your family. ❤

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  3. The Playful Parent permalink
    12/06/2017 6:52 pm

    What a great dedication to fathers day!

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  4. natalielovesbeauty permalink
    12/06/2017 7:36 pm

    Such a heartfelt post Elizabeth. I lost my father as a child so it is always a hard day for me, I miss him dearly but also remember the good times I had with him.

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  5. Nandyz Soulshine permalink
    13/06/2017 1:31 am

    Very true that it doesn’t matter who my father is as a person but how I perceive him. Father’s Day is always special for me and though dads might not be as hands-on as moms, their role in our lives is always special in their own way. Thanks for such a nice post.

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  6. 조이 Czjai (@RebelSweetHrt) permalink
    13/06/2017 1:42 am

    After my parents separated and my grandfather passed away, we stopped celebrating Father’s Day. This occasion became significant to me again only after getting married and giving birth to my son.

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