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Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved?

19/06/2017

“Heavy hearts, like heavy clouds in the sky, are best relieved by the letting of a little water.” Christopher Morley

Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved? World Refugee Day

Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved? World Refugee Day


 
Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved? World Refugee Day - Be the light...

Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved? World Refugee Day – Be the light…

 

Each day, and the living of it, has to be a conscious creation in which discipline and order are relieved with some play and pure foolishness. May Sarton
Those who enjoy their own emotionally bad health and who habitually fill their own minds with the rank poisons of suspicion, jealousy and hatred, as a rule take umbrage at those who refuse to do likewise, and they find a perverted relief in trying to denigrate them. Johannes Brahms

Tomorrow is World Refugee Day and this gives us a chance to celebrate the courage, strength, and perseverance of millions of people who, over the years, have been forced to flee their homes because of strife, persecution, and hope for a better life. As these refugees arrive in new countries, they receive relief or rejection and are forced to make a decision to seek asylum, stay put in limbo or seek solace elsewhere. Until they find a welcoming home in a nation that accommodates refugees, there is no true sense of relief; it is merely a temporary, stop gap feeling that is interspersed with moments of sheer terror and despair. Once they are settled in a country or community that welcomes them, as they would a long lost sibling, they are relieved and go about starting their lives over, motivated by their feelings of gratitude and a determination to make their lives matter. The lives of Refugees can be viewed through the lens of disenfranchisement, struggle, and wistful dreams of a day when they can return to the homeland. The crisis of living dislocated lives haunts many, and making the acculturation shift to adjust in a new culture can be very difficult. They view the new country as an oasis of temporary joy; their heavy hearts still tied inextricably to the land and loved ones they left behind. So are they in a state of relief or relieved?

As a child of war, my family came close to that refugee state. What spared us a life of being transplanted from our home into the unknown was that, on the day the war ended, the only airport open was packed with lots of families and expatriates attempting to flee the country.  So many families gathered, in a desperate final effort, to leave from that makeshift ragtag escape route at the end of a brutal and destructive civil war. The airport was merely a strip of tarmac in the middle of the forest, and that last night of surrender that served as the last gasp that ended the Biafran war was fraught with fears of imminent annihilation. Many families sought relief at the airport in the hope that one of the rickety combat/red cross relief jets would ferret them to a new place. Few escaped by air that night, and the rest of us fled into the interior in search of a hiding place, until we could get reassurances that we won’t become the last victims of a genocide. We had some relief when we found a family in the interior who welcomed us into their home with open arms. A day later, armed robbers descended on the family home as news got out that there were some refugees staying there who looked like they had riches to be taken. My Dad, a smart man with nerves of steel, faced the robbers and calmly reasoned with them while negotiating for our lives. The incident remains one of my proudest memories of my father’s wisdom and calm in the face of great danger; there is more but I will save it for another time. So in our case, relief was replaced with terror and demands for a ransom and … finally we were reprieved and relieved.

Food For Thought: Charity begins at home; each of us has a duty to extend our help to those in need. Even with its domestic issues, this beautiful, great country, the USA, remains the wealthiest nation on our planet. We can afford to help others and still continue to help our own. An act to make another happy, inspires the other to make still another happy, and so happiness is aroused and abounds. Thousands of candles can be {lit} from a single candle, and the life of the single candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.

 

“When you taste super-success after tasting super-failure, there is huge relief.” Akshay Kuma

Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved? World Refugee Day

Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved? World Refugee Day

Relieved – no longer feeling distressed or anxious; reassured.happy that something unpleasant has not happened or has ended: . Learn more.
Relief – feeling of reassurance and relaxation following release from anxiety or distress

 

What does Relief or Relieved mean to you? When we think of both words, we think of words that offer comfort from pain, fear and suffering. They are close in meaning yet each has a distinction that sets it apart from the other. Such is the power of words…. When we are relieved, we are in a state of resolution and we feel a period of great distress has subsided. Our pain and struggle is in the past and a new day has arrived with hope and better prospects. The word “Relieved” offers a positive solution to a challenge we faced. We have answers and our motivations are aligned with staying on top of whatever caused us pain. Relief on the other hand can be/is temporary. When we receive relief, we are grateful for the break that comes through the kindness of others or the treatment by a medical professional, and we know that we will need to stay motivated to get to our goal of being fully free of what ails us.

We see this in action, every day, in our lives or in the lives of others around us. When we are forced into a tenuous situation; arguments with friends, challenges on the job, accidents or the many ways life throws us curve-balls, our inner drive is to do everything we can to overcome those interruptions or objections and get our lives back on track. Sometimes, our sheer will wins the day and, at other times, we see the mighty hand of an intelligent force guide us in a new and improved direction that helps us learn and grow from the experiences. So, not all disappointments are intended to destroy us and if anything, we see the human spirit rise and shine in the face of violence, inhumane attacks and depraved aggression. In times like we see in our bruised and brutalized world today, there is hope for relief and we must not give up.

The details for Motivation Mondays are below. Join in! The themes for May/June 2017 are:

 

MAY

05/01  – May Day, World Lyme Day, 02 National Teacher Day, 03 World Press Freedom, 04 National Day of Prayer,
05 Cinco De Mayo, 06 Kentucky Derby
05/14 –  14 Mothers Day, 20 Armed Forces Day
05/21 –  22 International Biological Diversity, 24 National Brother Day, 25 Ascension, 27 Ramadan starts
05/28 – 29 Memorial Day, 31 World No Tobacco Day

JUNE

06/05  –  World Environment Day,  08 National Best Friend Day,  08 World Oceans Day
06/11 –  11  Trinity Sunday, 14 Flag Day
06/18 –  18 Father’s Day,  19 Juneteeth,  20 World Refugee Day,  21 Summer Solstice/International Yoga Day, 23 Intn’l  Widow’s Day, 24 Ramadan Ends
06/25 – 25  Eid al Fitr,  26 Against Drug Abuse Day,

 

 

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More Below!
“Can I see another’s woe, and not be in sorrow too? Can I see another’s grief, and not seek for kind relief?” William Blake

Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved? World Refugee Day

Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved? World Refugee Day

Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved? World Refugee Day

Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved? World Refugee Day

The blues are what I’ve turned to, what has given me inspiration and relief in all the trials of my life. Eric Clapton
Life is where you’re at. Whatever you’re doing is enough. You don’t need to do everything well all the time. When you live your life like that, it’s a huge relief. Cindy Crawford

What can we do to help others find relief in sorrow? When we take time to help others feel relief or relieved, something deep inside of us feels relieved because, by nature, most of us are social beings and are motivated by our desire to show others that we care, are compassionate, and can empathize with the struggles of our fellow men and women. However, like in any arena, there are those who lack those qualities and thrive on the misery and pain of others. They are sociopaths, psychopaths or ill-informed folks who cannot function unless others are experiencing grief and the deepest pain. They don’t grasp the secret of generosity because they operate from a poverty mentality. To assist a person or a community in need is NOT  to deprive your community of their needs.  We offer help because we can. We do so because we know our resources won’t be exhausted because we’ve given another soul a bed and food to eat.

Please would you think about it? When you extend your hand in charity to others, do you stop and calculate how many bags of chips your help would buy you?  No. We often give because we know we can afford to give. We give from our largess not from a stingy belief that by giving we are depriving ourselves of more. We are NOT. In the teachings of the great Buddha it is said that:  “An act to make another happy, inspires the other to make still another happy, and so happiness is aroused and abounds. Thousands of candles can be < lit > from a single candle, and the life of the single candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.  When we understand that life is about give and take, about reciprocity, we will start to appreciate the opportunity to give to others. Did you know that many of the wealthiest nations across the globe have created their wealth with the natural resources that come from  struggling nations?  To help is not just to give charitably but to recognize the debt we owe each other. Holding on to everything as if by giving some to the neediest will make it all disappear is selfish;  we cannot let such character traits or beliefs override our common sense.

 

Have a Happy, Healthy 2017!

 

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This post was partly inspired by a WP Daily Post prompt – Relieved

Positive Motivation Tip:  Be a source of relief for others….

Motivation Mondays is open to anyone who wishes to share a motivational quote, photo, personal challenge or a post that encourages others to start the week on an upbeat note.
Basic Instructions: Each week, I will have a motivation word to help us create a response. (See listed words for the months above/below)
Email address: You may email or share your post as a comment and I will add it to the round-up of related posts. email it to: contact(@)mirthandmotivation(.)com
Category tag: – Share your post using Motivation Mondays
Twitter hashtag: – Use this on Twitter #MotvnM
Dedicated Page: There is a dedicated page for Motivation Mondays. It has the same instructions and will include other helpful tools and a link to the round-up
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PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: All Photos via Refugees Wikipedia  and/or Freedom, Refugees  via Pixabay

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

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12 Comments leave one →
  1. Keeping Up With Candy permalink
    22/06/2017 8:01 pm

    Although I do REALLY feel bad for the refugees, I still believe we should take care of home first before helping our neighbors.

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    • 23/06/2017 2:11 am

      Charity begins at home; each of us has a duty to extend our help to those in need. Even with its domestic issues, the US is the wealthiest nation on our planet. We can afford to help others and still continue to help our own. An act to make another happy, inspires the other to make still another happy, and so happiness is aroused and abounds. Thousands of candles can be < lit > from a single candle, and the life of the single candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.

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  2. alisonrost permalink
    22/06/2017 8:44 pm

    I had goosebumps reading the story of your family. I can’t imagine what that must have been like, especially seeing your father so bravely trying to negotiate with people out to do you harm. I follow as closely as I’m able the plight of refugees around the world. While some in our country say that we shouldn’t help and instead put ourselves first, I beg to differ. Certainly we can’t help fully in every situation, but I think we have a moral obligation to help as much as we’re able.

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    • 23/06/2017 2:08 am

      Thank you Alison! Indeed, as members of the human race, we have a moral obligation to not sit on the sidelines and watch our fellow man/woman die. But for the grace… ❤

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  3. elizabethbrico permalink
    23/06/2017 1:11 am

    Wow. The story of your family’s escape is incredible. Your father sounds like an amazing man. What a memory to be able to hold in your heart of the man who raised you. You also must have an insurmountable inner strength to have undergone such trauma and still be the beautiful, peaceful, intelligent person you so clearly are. My mom and her family came from Cuba under refugee status. Nothing awful happened in terms of violence, but I know the humiliation and displacement were traumatic to my mom, who was 13 at the time. I can only imagine…I have a lot of sympathy for refugees, and I wish more people in power did too.

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    • 23/06/2017 2:06 am

      Thank you Elizabeth! What some folks tend to forget is that becoming a refugee is not a life goal for anyone. Most flee out of desperation and dream of returning to their native lands. If we can imagine ourselves in such a position, I hope we will want the same help from other more powerful nations. We love our families and want the best for them… so do all the desperate refugees fleeing oppressive leaders and warring factions in their homelands.<3

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  4. Yadira Castro permalink
    23/06/2017 1:47 am

    Beautiful poem/quotes to start such great article, it is people like you who make a difference in the life of refugees creating such awareness. Relief and relieved should be available to us all.

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  5. TheGracefulMist permalink
    25/06/2017 1:36 am

    Helping those who are sorrowful can be done even through the smallest ways. We can`t do everything but we can do something.

    ❀ Grace ❀

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  6. Ronnie Epsi permalink
    25/06/2017 1:17 pm

    My father too was a refugee as a child. His and my grandparent’s hardships have taught me to be kind to others in need. I spent most of my youth doing for others and worked in non-profit for many years. I always want to feel like I am making the world a slightly better place, even if it is a drop in the ocean.

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