“You’ve done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.” Ralph Marston
Determination To Change: We must be especially careful about controlling our anger, which is like a double-edged knife — it injures both the angry person and the one to whom the anger is directed. Whenever we feel anger, how turbid our mind becomes! The mind becomes so restless that we are not able to sit, stand or lie down peacefully. As a result, our blood gets heated up, leading to many diseases. However, in the heat of our anger, we are unaware of the changes taking place within us.
Many smile at others only after much thought. Smiling at someone will make us familiar to that person. What if he or she asks for something in the name of that familiarity? Is that person in need of money? Only after such considerations are many people prepared to smile at someone. However, with anger, the case is totally different. Forgetting everything, we express our anger totally.
And yet, there are times when we are careful in controlling our anger. Usually, people do not ex¬press their anger towards their superiors because they know that there will be adverse results such as a transfer to another workplace or a delay in promotion. We might even lose the job. Therefore, under such circumstances, people usually exercise utmost self-control. The problems encountered by those who did not control themselves are considered lessons by others.
But when it comes to subordinates, no one bothers to control his or her temper. Actually, this is where one should check oneself, because our subordinates cannot retaliate; they depend on us. Via AmmaShop/Immortal Bliss
Determination to Change: What does determination mean to you? What are you determined to let go? To accomplish? To overcome? I was reading an article over the weekend, (see excerpt above), about how we use anger to destroy and hurt ourselves and others, and how important it is for each of us to find the determination to let go of destructive behaviors. The article got me thinking about the type of emotional bondage we create for ourselves when we are determined to stay angry, hateful and hurtful towards others. Determination can be used in many ways and for so many purposes; both good and evil. As I worked on this post, I couldn’t help but think about the terrible acts of violence we read about and witness in our world on a daily basis. I thought of the 9 lives lost in South Carolina at the hands of a gunman who was determined to let his rage get the better of him. Dylann Roof was determined to make news, and his rage contributed to the zeal with which he carried out the attack at the AME Church. When we are in a position to inflict harm on others, we must stop and think about the reverberations, the destruction and the consequences our actions will have on our lives and the lives of our loved ones for years to come. What are you determined to let go? Let’s start with anger, hate and all forms of prejudicial thoughts.
“Determination gives you the resolve to keep going in spite of the roadblocks that lay before you.” Denis Waitley
A Story: The Angry Court Jester: A court jester was narrating a story. From time to time, he would crack jokes. The king did not understand the story clearly. Mistakenly thinking that the court jester was mocking him, the king angrily slapped the jester, who recoiled in pain. He gnashed his teeth in anger. But knowing that the person who struck him was the king, no less, the jester was unable to utter even a word. No matter how much he tried, he was unable to control the fury he felt for having been slapped for no reason. He slapped the person standing next to him. That man asked the jester, “What did you do? I didn’t do anything to you. Why then did you slap me?”
“What’s the big deal? Just slap the person next to you. Life is like a big wheel. When it turns, we can see everyone getting what he or she deserves. Now, don’t hesitate. Give it to the next person.” This was the court jester’s answer.
This is exactly what we see around us today. We vent our anger and hatred on the people near us. In fact, they might be totally innocent. Without doubt, sooner or later, we will get back what we gave. Via Immortal Bliss
Determination to Overcome: What emotional stumbling block are you determined to get rid of? What positive traits are you determined to cultivate? What negative traits are you determined to overcome? The Court Jester story above while it could be viewed as funny, in some instances, is a reminder of how some of us take our emotional discontent and dump it on others who might not even be aware of our anger or pain. It is a reminder to be vigilant about our relationships with our superiors and our subordinates. When we are in position of authority, we must be mindful about how we wield our power. Leadership requires wisdom and self-control. Ironically, the same energy that we channel into being furious can be channeled into being focused on positive achievements. WE need to anchor ourselves in that arena and work at healing our hurts with professional help.
The King misunderstood the Jester’s humor and reacted with anger. The Jester felt frustrated that he couldn’t strike back at the King and so he vented on the nearest person. In the same way, we carry our baggage of past slights and dismissals with us and, if we are not careful, we dump it on innocent victims who become the easiest target for our unresolved rage. Instead of expressing such willful anger towards strangers, take a moment to re-evaluate the source of your anger and then find a creative outlet for it. We all have traits that are unbecoming but, we can form a strong barrier against them by taking action to seek help, and to express ourselves in non-violent or anti-social ways. What negative traits are you determined to overcome?
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“I ran and ran and ran every day, and I acquired this sense of determination, this sense of spirit that I would never, never give up, no matter what else happened.” Wilma Rudolph
A Story: Sadness & Joy – Once, in some place, a wife and husband were lying together on a bed in the garden in front of their house. A whirlwind began to blow. It lifted the bed and carried the couple away. They finally landed a hundred kilometers away. Luckily, they were not harmed. The wife started sobbing uncontrollably. The husband asked, “Why are you crying? We have landed in one piece. We weren’t injured at all. There’s not the slightest scratch even on our bodies. Why then are you crying?”
The wife instantly said, “I’m not crying from grief, but joy.”
“Why are you so happy?”
Hearing the husband’s question, the wife said, “Look, since our marriage, in all these years, isn’t this the first time that we have traveled together? Thinking about it, I couldn’t help crying in joy.” Such is today’s family life. Via Immortal Bliss
Determination to Grow: How determined are you to grow? To accomplish new ways of being and seeing the world? What I love about the story above is the fact that the wife was able to turn her frustration around by choosing her attitude. He busy husband had spent many years building his career and neglecting his wife. In that moment of fear and change, she was able to dig deep and see a flicker of hope and joy in the incident. We can only imagine that if the wind carried them out of their home, it probably destroyed the home too. When we are determined to see beyond the limiting beliefs that keep us angry and chained, we can become even more determined to build successful relationships with our loved ones and others… It take effort and determination. Like Wilma Rudolph, we can choose to outrun our limitations or stay mired in them. The choice is entirely ours. The world is as we choose to see it. How determined are you to grow?
Positive Motivation Tip: What are you determined to change or overcome? Tempus fujit … start NOW!
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