Motivation Mondays: WORRY
“I’m very happy with my life. I am what I am. I don’t worry about anything that I can’t control. That’s a really good lesson in life.” Tom Watson
Bobby McFerrin – Don’t Worry Be Happy
When you begin to worry, go find something to do. Get busy being a blessing to someone; do something fruitful. Talking about your problem or sitting alone, thinking about it, does no good; it serves only to make you miserable. Above all else, remember that worrying is totally useless. Worrying will not solve your problem. Joyce Meyer
What does Worry mean to you? Why worry about what will be and what already is? We all worry about all sorts of things; our health, family, friends, wealth, work, plans, travels and even about our blog traffic. Being a worrywart can become a habit and soon we see ourselves in a permanent state of anxiety over all sorts of things; real and imagined. Does worrying change a situation? Of course not! If anything, it can create confusion and make us think, like Chicken Licken, that the sky is falling down. While accepting our challenges, and working to correct them might not produce an expected outcome, we are better off shifting our worries to concrete action. If nothing else, the effort will help us feel that we are being proactive. When we think about it carefully, we don’t always have to jump to action; reflection, contemplation, and meditation can offer us some perspective about our condition and give us relief. If we make some effort to focus our mind on a peaceful outcome, the shift can help us gain clarity and creative solutions.
A Story: The Traveler & The Shepherd
A worrisome traveler was always in the habit of interrogating people he met on his travels about the impending weather. Even though he checked himself, he would ask folks the same question, again and again. just to confirm what he already knew. They would tell him the weather was X and the worrisome traveler would continue on his journey, still worrying about the accuracy of the information he had received. One day, he met a wise shepherd and, turning to the Shepherd, the Traveler asked his usual questions.
Traveler: “What kind of weather are we going to have today?”
Shepherd: “The kind of weather I like.”
Traveler: “How do you know it will be the kind of weather you like?”
Shepherd: “Having found out, sir, that I cannot always get what I like, I have learned to always like what I get. So I am quite sure we will have the kind of weather I like.” All stories from 101 Zen Stories
“Perhaps travel cannot prevent bigotry, but by demonstrating that all peoples cry, laugh, eat, worry, and die, it can introduce the idea that if we try to understand each other, we may even become friends.” Maya Angelou
The Wailers/(Bob Marley) – Three Little Birds / One Love (Live at BoomTown Fair 2014)
It is not the end of the physical body that should worry us. Rather, our concern must be to live while we’re alive – to release our inner selves from the spiritual death that comes with living behind a facade designed to conform to external definitions of who and what we are. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
What do we get from worrying so much? Sometimes, we allow our worries to paralyze us so we can’t see the forest for the trees. When worry becomes a dominant factor in our lives, even the simplest things can develop into complicated monstrosities… In some societies, people use worry dolls, worry beads, and good luck tokens like Daruma dolls, to help them ward off the anxiety that comes with worrying so much. We use these dolls/tools as a way to bring fun/prosperity into our lives and stop the fear. But, in reality, the greater work needs to begin in our minds. When we spend too much time worrying over things that haven’t happened or things that we have no control over, it can become debilitating. We are better off focusing our energy on making peace with our fears and worries and trusting the process of finding solutions to problems. The popular Murphy’s Law says that “Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong,” and what goes up must come down, regardless of our efforts to thwart them. So, be at peace with your worries and make the necessary accommodations to help you get over the hump.
A Story w/ Humor: The Young Student & A Great Teacher
One day a young Buddhist on his journey home, came to the banks of a wide river. Staring hopelessly at the great obstacle in front of
him, he pondered for hours on just how to cross such a wide barrier. Just as he was about to give up his pursuit to continue his journey he saw a great teacher on the other side of the river. The young Buddhist yells over to the teacher, “Oh wise one, can you tell me how to get to the other side of this river?” The teacher ponders for a moment looks up and down the river and yells back, “My son, you are on the other side.”
Another Story: The Worried Twins
Once upon a time, twins were conceived. Weeks passed and the twins developed. As their awareness grew, they laughed for joy: “Isn’t it great that we were conceived? Isn’t it great to be alive?” Together the twins explored their worlds. When they found their mother’s cord that gave them life, they sang for joy! “How great our mother’s love is, that she shares her own life with us!” As weeks stretched into months, the twins noticed how much each was changing.
“What does it mean?” one asked.
“It means our stay in this world is drawing to an end,” said the other.
“But I don’t want to go,” said one. “I want to stay here always.”
“We have no choice,” said the other. “But maybe there is life after birth.”
“But how can there be? We will shed our life cord and how can life be possible without it? Besides, we have seen evidence that others were here before us, and none of them has returned to tell us there is life after birth. No, this is the end. Maybe there is no mother after all.”
“But there has to be,” protested the other. “How else did we get here?” “How do we remain alive? Have you ever seen our mother?” said one. “Maybe she only lives in our minds. Maybe we made her up because the idea made us feel good.”
So the last days in the womb were filled with deep questioning and fear. Finally, the moment of birth arrived. When the twins had passed from their world, they opened their eyes and cried for joy — for what they saw exceeded their fondest dreams.
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06/01 – SIMPLICITY
06/08 – POSSIBILITIES
06/15 – SACRIFICE
06/22 – DETERMINATION
06/29 – TRUST
07/06 – FREEDOM
07/13 – WORRY
07/20 – WEALTH
07/27 – GRACE
“You’re only here for a short visit. Don’t hurry, don’t worry. And be sure to smell the flowers along the way.” Walter Hagen
Jennifer Lopez – Worry No More ( feat Rick Ross)
Pharrell Williams – Happy (12PM)
I think my mother… made it clear that you have to live life by your own terms and you have to not worry about what other people think and you must have the courage to do the unexpected. Caroline Kennedy
Why worry when we can choose to do nothing/something about it? Be at peace with your worries. So far, the stories and message of this post teach us that worrying is enervating; it makes you feel down and saps your power and energy. True, but worry can also be the way our body, mind and spirit warn us to take better care of ourselves and our condition. Instead of staying perturbed by every thing that crosses our path, a good start would be to mull over the what and why of our worries and compartmentalize them into smaller chunks of information that we can process and respond to. When we take a challenging situation and look at the full, huge picture, it can get overwhelming. Instead, take parts or bits of it and work on resolving the issues and learning to let go. Start small and learn to breathe deeply…
A Story: The Zen Monk Makes Peace w/ His Worries…
A Zen monk named Ichhi labored his whole life in the kitchen of the great monastery at Lake Hakkone. He deemed himself a failed monk because he had been assigned the koan of “What is the sound of one hand clapping?” since his earliest days in the congregation and had never been able to solve it. It was now fifty-five years of seeming failure, and he was nearing the end of his lifetime. But as he lay dying he suddenly realized that he cradled a great peace in his soul. Gone was the striving for enlightenment, gone was the stridency of his loins, and gone was the haunting koan — for he had found the stillness of no longer striving in this exquisite silence alone in the attic in the soft dark at the end of his life. It was only then, when there remained no more questions nor need for answers (or even the need for breathing) that Ichhi heard at last the whooshing silence of one hand clapping.
Positive Motivation Tip: Worrying doesn’t change a thing about our circumstances. Decide to act or be at peace with your condition … then watch worry take flight.
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