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Welcome to Mirth and Motivation! This is a Lifestyle/Motivational blog offering an eclectic mix of mirthful and motivational pieces: Life Tips / Advice, Affirmations/Wellness, Women’s Lives, Food, Travel, Interviews, Inspirational posts, Reviews, Peace, AND Social Media ruminations on people, places, and events that shape our lives. I invite you to stay awhile, read some posts, and share your thoughts with this growing online blog community.
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“The answers to our many dilemmas reside within our understanding about who we truly are.” Joseph Rain
Dilemma Definition: A situation in which a difficult choice has to be made between two or more alternatives, especially ones that are equally undesirable.
1.1A difficult situation or problem.
1.2Logic – An argument forcing an opponent to choose either of two unfavorable alternatives. Oxford English Dictionary
Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better. Sydney J. Harris
What does the word – DILEMMA – mean to you? What motivates our decisions/choices? Do you experience daily dilemmas or just occasional ones? When we talk about the complexities of life, we are often referring to those moments when the choices we need to make are not so obvious. Life throws us a curve-ball, from time to time, and the choice or direction to turn to is as blurry as a foggy autumn day. How do we decide which way to turn? How do we pull ourselves out of the quagmire that has landed on our doorstep? The answers are not easy but we can and must dig deep within for the best answer that meets our needs and that speak to our personal moral codes.
You see, dilemmas force us to face ourselves, our fears, and our weaknesses and make hard, decisive decisions that will have an impact on our future. Sometimes, the impact might might be short-lived and lead us in a new direction;. At other times, the impact might be long lasting and even damaging so we must go within our hearts and contemplate our choice; this is what some say is a call to follow our conscience. Now before we get all worried about this, I’d add that dilemmas offer us great crossroads to traverse and push us to look at why we feel stuck. In a time of moral/ethical dilemma, we must face our dark thoughts, our prejudices and decide which door to walk through. Which door will you choose?
A Dilemma/Judgment Tale: Who Must the Boy Choose?
In an ancient village, far and deep in the forest, a community was grappling with a tough decision. A beloved elder in the village had been accused of killing the Chief’s beloved horse and first son. A tribunal was set up and he was sentenced to death by a slow bonfire. Many in the village were not convinced that he committed the crime but, the star witness against him was the Chief’s Senior Adviser. The Senior Adviser was a cruel and vengeful man who bullied the community and exacted quick and deadly justice on anyone who stood in his way. Behind closed doors, many villagers wept and discussed how they wished someone would step forward and exonerate the kind elder. “He could not have committed such a heinous crime,” they said. But, who will come forward and speak the truth?
As night turned to day, a young boy tossed and turned on his raffia bed. It was the Senior Adviser’s son who knew exactly what happened. You see, the Senior Adviser had private hopes to one day become Chief of the village and he planned a scheme to get rid of the heir to the throne. His son saw him do it, and he was disturbed that his father had pointed an accusatory finger at the one man in the village who had practically served as a foster father to the little boy when his own father was away at a long and protracted war with a neighboring village. The young boy felt that he needed to make a decision but his tender heart was torn. In this time of crisis, he realized that he must choose between his loyalty to his own father, who was a cruel and unjust man, and his loyalty to the kind, elderly village who was once a loving foster-father to him. One thing was certain: Someone was going to be punished for the crime! Who did he choose? Who would you choose? Adapted African Stories via Britannica.com
“A moral dilemma is equally absorbing whether the stakes are the destiny of nations or the happiness of one or two people – at the most.” Alexander McCall Smith
Some kid asked what a dilemma is. And I replied: When a starving man has to choose between a plate of food, and, a roll of toilet paper. Mokokoma Mokhonoana
Eternal Dilemma: Too tired to stay up, yet too awake to fall asleep
Ethical Dilemma: complex situation that often involves an apparent mental conflict between moral imperatives
False Dilemma: A logical fallacy where only two alternatives are considered when other options might exist.
Moral Dilemma: A conflict in which you have to choose between two or more actions and have moral reasons for choosing each action
How do Dilemmas operate in/shape our lives? What motivates our decisions/choices? Our upbringing plays an enormous role in how we respond to difficult and unpleasant choices. Some people won’t bat an eyelid over a choice that involves harming someone else, while some folks would put themselves in the line of harm to avoid making such a choice. When we are faced with a dilemma, all of our upbringing, our cultural beliefs, and the influences that have seeped into our subconscious mind come into play. Some folks draw a line in the sand and are determined to never cross it, while others play Russian roulette with their decision-making.
The truth is that when we have to make a decision that entails picking one of several lousy options, we have to weigh the possible outcomes and what the extent of our loss will be. Do we stay or walk away from an untenable situation even if it means job loss and financial ruin? Do we expose a scheme that will hurt our company even if it means being blackballed? Do we identify a family member who has done wrong even if it means jail time and family shame? All of these dilemmas force us to examine ourselves and determine how much pain and suffering we can endure… But, at the end of that decision is freedom from a yoke that will imprison us if we don’t act. What will you do? Think of a dilemma you faced in the last 5-10 years; how did you handle it and was the outcome one you have made peace with?
A Dilemma/Judgment Tale: Which Wife is Most Deserving Of Praise?
A great hunter who was revered in many villages across the African plains had not returned home from a hunt. Everyone was worried and a search party was sent out to look for him. He had left the tracks created by his hunting group in search of a large ox he saw. He knew that if he brought that ox home, he would have enough to feed his three wives and many children for weeks. Unfortunately for the hunter, a lurking tiger had the same idea and fate brought them together in one terrible and tragic moment. The tiger won and dragged the ox to feed his brood. As the search continued, the missing hunter’s first wife had a vivid dream in which she saw what had happened to him. She shared the dream with her fellow wives and it was at that moment the second wife remembered that she had had a similar dream the night before and that she had been guided by a mysterious voice to the ravine where his body had fallen.
The three women tied their wrappers tight, and followed the second wife as she led her fellow wives to the place where their beloved husband had died. As they keened and called for the villagers to come and retrieve his remains, the third wife told the other two that an ancestor had come to her in a dream and gave her sacred words to whisper in his ears. They encouraged her to go ahead and do so. Lo and behold, when the third wife said the words, the hunter opened his eyes and came back to life; the third wife had helped restore him to life! When the elders arrived shortly after and heard the news, they all agreed that one of the wives was deserving of the greatest honor ever bestowed on a woman in the village. An argument ensued as they debated which wife deserved the award and title. Which of the three wives deserved the highest praise and honor ?
The details for Motivation Mondays are below. Join in! The themes for August and September 2016 are:
08/01 – 2 New Moon, 5 Summer Olympics begin in Rio, 07 Friendship Day & Sisters Day, 07 International Forgiveness Day,
08/08 – 08 Peace Festival, 09 Book Lover’s Day, 09 World’s Indigenous Peoples, 12 International-Youth-Day, 13 International Lefthander’s Day, 14 Tisha B’av,
08/15 – 15 Assumption of Mary, 15 National Relaxation Day, 18 Full Moon, 18 Bad Poetry Day, 19 Nat’l Aviation Day &
World Humanitarian Day
08/22 – 22 Be An Angel Day, 22 National Tooth Fairy Day, 26 National Dog Day, 26 Women’s Equality Day, 27 Global Forgiveness Day
08/29 – 29 National Heroes’ Day, 29 More Herbs, Less Salt Day, 30 Toasted Marshmallow Day
09/05 – Labor Day, International Day of Charity, 8 International Literacy Day,
09/12 – 15 Day of Democracy Day, 17 Constitution Day
09/19 – 21 International Day of Peace/ World Peace Day, World Rhino Day
09/26 – National Preparedness Month, National Childhood Cancer Awareness, National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, National School Success Month, National Childhood Obesity Awareness
Are You Looking for Ways to Stay Creative in 2016?
– Join the Daily Post Post-a-day or Post-a-week Challenge.
— Join the BlogHer Writing Lab
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“The longest journey is the journey inwards. Of him who has chosen his destiny, Who has started upon his quest for the source of his being.” Dag Hammarskjold
The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition to impel man to unfold his powers. Erich Fromm
Everything you possess of skill, and wealth, and handicraft, wasn’t it first merely a thought and a quest? Jalaluddin Rumi
Not all those who wander are lost. J.R.R. Tolkien
For this challenge on – QUEST – I thought I’d venture down a few paths I’ve taken over the last couple of months/years. I love to hike and take walks to clear my head and refocus my thoughts on my daily tasks. I often venture out with an idea or two percolating in my mind but, as the journey/hike/walk progresses and my feet develop a meditative rhythm, new ideas bubble up. The fascinating thing about the meaning of the word QUEST is that it entails a search for something more; the holy grail, happiness, love, and even the unknown. If we already know the outcome of our journey, it would no longer be a Quest. So even something as mundane as a daily walk is a quest for clarity; a quest for new discoveries and a quest for improved health … It’s a journey inwards to ourselves and all add meaning to our lives.
“The great quest of life has always been to discover truth.” Joyce Meyer
Man of La Mancha – Musical by Dale Wasserman
Lyricist: Joe Darion
Quotes via Goodreads
“It is the mission of each true knight…
His duty… nay, his privilege!
To dream the impossible dream,
To fight the unbeatable foe,
To bear with unbearable sorrow
To run where the brave dare not go;
To right the unrightable wrong.
To love, pure and chaste, from afar,
To try, when your arms are too weary,
To reach the unreachable star!
This is my Quest to follow that star,
No matter how hopeless, no matter how far,
To fight for the right
Without question or pause,
To be willing to march into hell
For a heavenly cause!
And I know, if I’ll only be true
To this glorious Quest,
That my heart will lie peaceful and calm
When I’m laid to my rest.
And the world will be better for this,
That one man, scorned and covered with scars,
Still strove, with his last ounce of courage,
To reach the unreachable stars!”
Just like the Man of La Mancha, we set out on this journey we call life, looking for answers and a better understanding of our purpose here on earth… We want the truth (truth that speaks to each of us personally) and we are willing to work hard at arriving there. The journey is often fraught with challenges, missteps and varying degrees of difficult. Interspersed throughout our lives are bright spots, happy memories and successes that spur us on. Our quest doesn’t have to meander in many directions but, it is worth the path and journey we take… go find yours.
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“Style is very personal. It has nothing to do with fashion. Fashion is over quickly. Style is forever.” Ralph Lauren
Fashion changes but style endures Coco Chanel
Confidence is the best fashion accessory. Vivienne Westwood
You can’t try to be somebody you’re not; that’s not style. If someone says, ‘Buy this – you’ll be stylish,’ you won’t be stylish because you won’t be you. You have to learn who you are first, and that’s painful. Iris Apfel
On a cold, dank night
Stylish sauntered in … wearing
A paper bag hat
Nary a misstep
She smiled, brightening the dull room
No chains and gauche gowns
Stylish worked the room that night
Not … fashionable
In response to today’s one-word prompt, we take a closer look at a word that even many fashionistas have a hard time grappling with … Style. Where does fashion end and style begin?
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