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“Bravery is the capacity to perform properly even when scared half to death.” Omar N. Bradley

Motivation Mondays: SCARED - Halloween and other Scary Things and Phobias

Motivation Mondays: SCARED – Halloween and other Scary Things and Phobias

Old age has got to start creeping up on me one day soon, and frankly I’m very scared. I don’t want to be old. I’ve always felt so young. And I want to stay that way. David Niven
I don’t shy away from any questions. I’m not scared of any question. I’ll give you an answer. A lot of people are scared of having actual opinions out there. People are so scared of criticism… I’m not scared of people disliking me. Ronda Rousey
I’m scared of audiences. Adele

What SCARES you? Today is Halloween Day and it’s a perfect day to talk about the word – SCARED. We all have our share of things that scare us and you can tell from the quotes included on this post that aging, dying, speaking/singing in public, shaming, clowns, the unknown, and many other things add to our list of fear factors that send us running out the door or into a closet to hide. We live in a world where people are constantly being bombarded by messages, stories, and events that scare us and then on a day like this one, we dress up, go trick-a-treating, and scare the heck out of each other for fun… Ironic right? Sadly, there are people who use scary tactics to manipulate others by threatening to hurt folks, feeding on their fears, and exaggerating the truth, and these scary approaches can have a long-term impact on our psyche; they can make us distrustful, hateful and even vengeful. So we need to be aware of our triggers and be mindful of how we interact with people and situations that can exacerbate our scare-meter.
Do you know what the top 10 Scary Things are? When I was researching material for this post, I wanted to know what top things scared people. As I read a bunch of articles, some are shared on this post,  I was reminded that scary things can also be viewed through the lens of phobias we have around certain things or situations. Scary situations force us to retreat, become irrational and even lash out. But we can motivate ourselves to work through them by seeking professional help, taking small steps to understand why we are scared, and making lifestyle changes that can help us shift direction. Here are 10 top scary things to make you think: Public speaking, Spiders, Enclosed spaces, heights, dead people/zombies, thunder and lightning, the dark, dentists, snakes, flying/dying… and the list goes on. Which ones on the list scare you?

A Story: Be Scared and Ride The Waves Anyway!
Once there lived a village of creatures along the bottom of a great crystal river. The current of the river swept silently over them all — young and old, rich and poor, compassionate and cruel — the current going its own way, knowing only its own crystal self. Each creature in its own manner clung tightly to the twigs and rocks of the river bottom, for clinging was their way of life, and resisting the current what each had learned from birth. But one creature said at last, “I am tired of clinging.
Though I cannot see it with my eyes, I trust that the current knows where it is going. I shall let go, and let it take me where it will. Clinging, I shall die of boredom.”
The other creatures laughed and said, “Fool! Let go, and that current will throw you tumbled and smashed across the rocks, and you will die quicker than boredom!” But the one heeded them not, and taking a breath did let go, and at once was tumbled and smashed by the current across the rocks. Yet in time, as the creature refused to cling again, the current lifted him free from the bottom, and he was bruised and hurt no more. And the creatures downstream, to whom he was a stranger, cried, “See a miracle! A creature like ourselves, yet he flies! See the Messiah, come to save us all!” And the one carried in the current said, “I am no more Messiah than you. The river delights to lift us free, if only we dare let go. Our true work is this voyage, this adventure.”
But they cried the more, “Savior!” all the while clinging to the rocks, and when they looked again he was gone, and they were left alone, and began making legends of a Savior. Zen Stories via Goodweb

READ: Top 10 Scary Things
What Really Scares People: Top 10 Phobias


“Courage is being scared to death… and saddling up anyway.”  John Wayne

Motivation Mondays: SCARED - Halloween and other Scary Things and Phobias

Motivation Mondays: SCARED – Halloween and other Scary Things and Phobias

I think that the roots of racism have always been economic, and I think people are desperate and scared. And when you’re desperate and scared you scapegoat people. It exacerbates latent tendencies toward – well, toward racism or homophobia or anti-Semitism. Henry Louis Gates
One of the reasons it’s important for me to write about war is I really think that the concept of war, the specifics of war, the nature of war, the ethical ambiguities of war, are introduced too late to children. I think they can hear them, understand them, know about them, at a much younger age without being scared to death by the stories. Suzanne Collins


What impact does being scared have on how we interpret human behavior? Whether we hold irrational feelings towards people who are different from us or we are sacred of what we imagine our enemies will do to us if given the chance, when we are scared, we allow it to dictate how we treat others. When we are scared, we imagine the worst about those we think are responsible for our situation and instead of responding in a calm and rational manner, we attack others without just cause. Being scared can be a great motivator for seeking answers that help us made peaceful and responsible decisions. But, we must make the effort to see beyond our feelings of fright; it will take being proactive or even seeking professional intervention to deal with the emotional stranglehold that being scared has on the individual. In dangerous times, some people thrive on being scared and use it as a reason to commit atrocities against others.  Our motivation to change direction in difficult times is important, and we must be vigilant to not get caught up by a mob mentality.

READ: Top Ten Things That Scare People Most
What Really Scares People: Top 10 Phobias

The details for Motivation Mondays are below. Join in! The themes for September  and October 2016 are:

09/05 –   Labor Day,  International Day of Charity,  8 International Literacy Day,
09/12 –  15 Day of Democracy Day,  17 Constitution Day
09/19 –  21 International Day of Peace/ World Peace Day, World Rhino Day
09/26 – National Preparedness Month, National Childhood Cancer Awareness, National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, National School Success Month, National Childhood Obesity Awareness

10/03 –  2-4 Rosh Hashana,  6 German-American Day,
10/10 –  10  Columbus Day, World Mental Health Day, 11 International Day of the Girl,  12 Yom Kippur
10/17 –   16 World Food Day / FAO World Food Day
10/24 –  24 United Nations Day,  28 National Chocolate Day, 29 National Cat Day, 30 Diwali
10/31 —  31 Halloween

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“When you’re scared, when you’re hanging on, when life is hurting you, then you’re going to see what you’re really made of.” Sylvester Stallone

Motivation Mondays: SCARED - Halloween and other Scary Things and Phobias

Motivation Mondays: SCARED – Halloween and other Scary Things and Phobias

You can’t be scared of death. When that time comes, it comes. Sean Taylor
I used to get a shiver if I thought about holding balloons, because I was scared of floating away. Fiona Apple
Storms and darkness scared me, but somehow it encouraged me to learn about nature and I think nothing’s dark, dark is beautiful too. Bai Ling

What can we do about the things that scare us? For starters, consider the source of your fears and examine the underlying reasons, messages, or family connections to that scary thing. Have you tried another approach to help alleviate the situation? When we have a phobia, seeking help is a great option and that is if we are truly eager to overcome it. Otherwise, find another path to helping you reduce the hold that scary thing has on you…. we must try! Have a Scare-free Halloween!


A Story: Halloween Harry!
Five friends were walking home after a Halloween party. They decided to cut through a cemetery to get home faster. As they walked across it, they heard loud banging noises and a voice complaining. Out of curiosity, they approached and saw a dark form which made them jump. A loud voice said “What do you want?” They composed themselves and walked up to an older man chipping away at a headstone with a hammer. “You almost scared us to death,” one of the five said as the others laughed. ” Why are you here!?” They asked in unison. “My family members are a bunch of idiots! They mis-spelled my name, so I had to climb out to fix it.” said the old man glaring at them. HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

READ: Top 10 Things People Fear Most
Top 10 Scary Things

Have an un-scary week ahead!

Any Zen Antics stories via


Positive Motivation Tip:  We are all scared of something… Press ahead by being present.

Motivation Mondays is open to anyone who wishes to share a motivational quote, photo, personal challenge or a post that encourages others to start the week on an upbeat note.
Basic Instructions: Each week, I will have a motivation word to help us create a response. (See listed words for the months above/below)
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PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: All Photos –     via Wikipedia, and/or  Halloween, Thunder & Lightning,  via Pixabay

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
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41 Comments leave one →
  1. duffelbagspouse permalink
    16/04/2017 3:37 am

    Bravery is a characteristic we never really know we have until we have to display it.

  2. Renata Feyen (@seadbeady) permalink
    31/10/2019 5:51 am

    Public speaking does scare me a lot however singing in public is something that I love to do – other things that scare me on the list are heights, thunder and lightning, the dark and snakes 🙂

  3. trent peek permalink
    31/10/2019 6:07 am

    When I was a kid anything that had a mask scared the crap out of me. Now what scares me is my bills. Thanks for the post.

  4. ♡Stephanie Stebbins♡ (@stephsteb) permalink
    31/10/2019 6:19 am

    Mine are cockroaches and dentists *shudder* I can’t even with either one of those!

  5. Chad permalink
    31/10/2019 6:32 am

    As usual, this is awesome and thank you!!! I hate fear but as you said, it can be used as a huge catalyst to move forward.

  6. Celebrate Woman (@DiscoverSelf) permalink
    31/10/2019 6:35 am

    There are so many fears. But they are all inside of us. Overcoming them, one-by-one, gives our lives a beautiful route.

  7. Lydia permalink
    31/10/2019 11:37 am

    I won’t say I’m scared right now somehow John Wayne’s quote resonates with me.

  8. Samar permalink
    31/10/2019 3:13 pm

    We all are scared about something or someone. It’s just that, we don’t let that come in our way.

    Well, I wasn’t talking about our wives 😉

  9. Norma permalink
    31/10/2019 3:30 pm

    Halloween is a great time to think about everything that scares us. Kids enjoy more going to trick or treat than the scary aspect of Halloween.

  10. catherine santiago jose permalink
    31/10/2019 6:09 pm

    I have a lot of things that really scares me off but one thing I am for sure, that I can be brave even if I am scared for something or someone.

  11. sincerelymissj permalink
    31/10/2019 8:38 pm

    Getting old scares me too but also large bodies of water. I get super anxious on boats.

  12. delhifundos2014 permalink
    31/10/2019 9:02 pm

    Happy Halloween to you and yours. Doing things that scare us helps us to become stronger, braver and more reactive people in general. Some things are really scary because they bring us back to negative memories.

  13. MUDPIEFRIDAYS permalink
    31/10/2019 11:46 pm

    This is true and very right. But of course we people choose what happen and what to do when our most fearing day comes. And character always matter.

  14. TweenselMom (@TweenselMom) permalink
    01/11/2019 12:07 pm

    It’s nice that you tackle fears on this time of the year. There are just so many kinds of fears, but the one most special and not to be stayed away from is fear of God.


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