Motivation Mondays: HAPPINESS
“Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.” Helen Keller
Happiness is both abstract and concrete…
Happiness fills us up and helps us fill others up,
May you always have happiness knocking at your door,
May your sadness be replaced with abundant happiness
May the Happiness you spread return in multiple forms. elizabeth obih-frank
What Does Happiness mean to you? What does HAPPINESS mean to me? What stands in OUR way? If our purpose in life is to be happy, what saps our joy and keeps many of us from experiencing even moments of happiness? Perhaps we need to start focusing our energies on what truly makes us happy. If my idea of happiness is enjoying a swim in the pool or taking a long walk on the aqueduct, why chuck it out for endless hours of whining about things we have little control over? If your idea of happiness is enjoying the company of real life friends and good music, why set it aside for something less real and incredibly draining? Happiness is based on the series of actions we take to lift ourselves up and the choices we make. Yet, we deny ourselves the bliss of being happy for reasons that are as individualized as we are; some psychological and some intentional. Intentional? Yep, some folks thrive on whining, and a simple shift in attitude from negative to positive could make a big difference. The most important step we can take on our road to motivating ourselves to be happy is to continually ask ourselves the question: What is stopping me?
“True happiness involves the pursuit of worthy goals. Without dreams, without risks, only a trivial semblance of living can be achieved. Dan Buettner.
May you be blessed with friends who truly care,
Friends who are willing to take a dare,
Friends who don’t tell you only what you want to hear,
Friends who say a prayer when you’re filled with fear,
Friends who bless you and, in times of sadness, shed a tear
Friends who stick around and wave a flag to help you cheer… elizabeth obih-frank
What sacrifices are you making in your life and why? The first few steps to maintaining joy in our lives is to practice self-care and spend time with people who lift us up; friends, and family, mentors and supporters. If we find ourselves thanking the universe for a friend/family/supporter, and holding happy thoughts about them, we have found that special brand of grace in our lives and in our friendships; nurture it and watch it grow. Since this is National Women’s Health Week, be vigilant about nurturing your body, mind and spirit. Join the #RelaytheRed Challenge and commit to do one heart healthy action for yourself for the rest of the week. You read about it on my post: The Heart Truth®: Take #RelaytheRed Pledge
I shared in another post about growing up around women in my community who spent a lot of time taking care of others but never taking care of themselves. Of course, everyone spoke highly of these women because they were self-sacrificing, and living up to an imaginary ideal that even they knew they would never fully attain. On the surface, their behavior was admirable. But, on closer examination, it was tragic. They were not happy women. They were not free. Do work that elevates you and helps you fill your happiness quotient. If your work feels chore-like or makes you feel like a martyr then something is off. Mothering should be joyful. Service to others should feel good even with the challenges that come with any type of work. Find a way to be happy with your choices and add other options to your life so you can stay connected to your interests and to the world… We need all of the above.
A Story: Nasrudin Steals Happiness by: Author Unknown
Nasrudin saw a man sitting dispiritedly at the side of the road. And asked him what troubled him.
“There is nothing of interest in life, my brother,” said the man.
“I have sufficient capital in order that I don’t have to work, and I am only on this trip in order to seek something more interesting and entertaining than the life I have at home.” “So far I haven’t found it!”
Without another word, Nasrudin seized the travelers knapsack and made off down the road with it, running like a rabbit. Since he knew the area, he was easily able to out distance the man. The road curved, and Nasrudin cut across several switchbacks, with the result that he was soon back on the road, well ahead of the man he had just robbed. He put the knapsack by the side of the road and waited for the distressed traveler to show up.
Soon the miserable man appeared, following the tortuous road, and feeling more unhappy than ever because of his loss.
As soon as he saw his property lying there, by the side of the road, he ran towards it, shouting with joy.
“That’s one way of producing happiness!” said Nasrudin.
“Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is.” Maxim Gorky.
A Moment Of Happiness by Rumi
A moment of happiness,
you and I sitting on the verandah,
apparently two, but one in soul, you and I.
We feel the flowing water of life here,
you and I, with the garden’s beauty
and the birds singing.
The stars will be watching us,
and we will show them
what it is to be a thin crescent moon.
You and I unselfed, will be together,
indifferent to idle speculation, you and I.
The parrots of heaven will be cracking sugar
as we laugh together, you and I.
In one form upon this earth,
and in another form in a timeless sweet land. via allpoetry.com
Do you experience snatches or long periods of happiness? If your happiness is infrequent, determine what triggers the feelings of lack, make peace with your situation and decide that you are doing the best you can to address the issues that bother your spirit. You see, we have this misconception that unless we a full bank account, all the sexy gear around us, charming suitors and other extravaganzas, we don’t deserve to be happy. We forget that happiness doesn’t always have to be tied to “things.” Let go of the limited expectations and start to just be present and grateful for what is. As your gratitude grows, your happiness will grow; join the two by finding things to make you laugh and add to your happiness; it is a CHOICE! The poem above by Rumi is food for thought; see the joy in the simplest of events.
The details for Motivation Mondays are below. Join in! The themes for April and May are:
04/06 – PERFECTION
04/13 – MISTAKES
04/20 – GROWTH
04/27 – MINDFULNESS
05/03 – APPRECIATION
05/13 – HAPPINESS
05/20 – FITNESS
05/27 – SERVICE
“So many conditions of happiness are available; more than enough for you to be happy right now. You don’t have to run into the future to get more.” Thich Nhat Hanh
What would your happy world look like? When we spend time nurturing ourselves, and freely pursuing our interests while nurturing those around us, our happiness tank is full. First, we must accept that we are okay and that the work we do is necessary for our survival Just like the flight attendants tell us to put our gas masks on first beofre helping our kids on a descending plane, we must fuel our bodies and minds with rich nutrients and oxygen. When we give ourselves space to become are fit and stable, we are in a better position to help others. Our actions impact our choices and can make us happy or sad. If you can spend time being miserable, find time to embrace happiness too. It is your right and we all deserve those happy, joyful days and activities… Let’s go do it!
A Story: The Ass and His Masters by: Author Unknown
An ass, belonging to an herb-seller who gave him too little food and too much work, made a petition to Jupiter to be released from his present service and provided with another master. Jupiter, after warning him that he would repent his request, had him sold to a tile-maker. Shortly afterwards, finding that he had heavier loads to carry and harder work in the brick-field, the Ass petitioned for another change of master. Jupiter told him that it would be the last time that he could grant the request, then sold the Ass to a tanner. The Ass soon found that he had fallen into worse hands, and noting his master’s occupation, said, groaning: “It would have been better for me to have been either starved by the one, or to have been overworked by the other of my former masters, than to have been bought by my present owner, who will kill me, tan my hide, and make me useful to him after I am dead.” He that finds discontentment in one place is not likely to find happiness in another.
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Positive Motivation Tip: Happiness is a choice we make and we can see it in the tiniest events or in the largest gifts… Choose it for your health.
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