Skip to content

Motivation Mondays: LISTEN

28/11/2016
tags: , , , , , , , , , ,

“We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” Epictetus

Motivation Mondays: LISTEN - Are you a Good Listener?

Motivation Mondays: LISTEN – Are you a Good Listener?


Kids’ story – The Boy Who Finally Listened

Listening is such a simple act. It requires us to be present, and that takes practice, but we don’t have to do anything else. We don’t have to advise, or coach, or sound wise. We just have to be willing to sit there and listen. Margaret J. Wheatley
The first duty of love is to listen. Paul Tillich
I read, I study, I examine, I listen, I think, and out of all that I try to form an idea into which I put as much common sense as I can. Marquis de Lafayette

Are You a Good Listener? How well do You Listen to Others or even to Yourself? Tomorrow is the National Day of Listening, so this is a great day to reflect on the topic. From time to time, we’ve all been told to pay attention. Some of us listen more easily; others don’t. Why? Or, to start, we think four times faster than we talk, and the same principle applies when others are talking. Unless we make a concerted effort to hit the pause button on our inner chatter, focus on the person before us, and respond effectively, it is incredibly hard to hear everything said to us. When we are distracted, or our thoughts are straddling two worlds, it is even harder to respond without resorting to an automatic, canned response. How often do you find yourself chatting with a friend, family member, or colleague and the immediate response to whatever you are sharing is “Yeah, sure, got it!?” Did they really hear everything you said? Are they simply hitting that inner reply button that kicks in when we are eager to have our own thoughts heard, even if it means we don’t hear what others are saying? Another fallout of our inattentiveness is people second-guessing each other, jumping to conclusions, or responding without hearing all the facts. If we wish to be heard, we must become better listeners. It does take practice and a willingness to be present in our conversations.

How Does Not Being Heard Make You Feel? Everyone wants to feel validated and heard. Even when people disagree, fences can be mended if both sides feel heard. We can agree to disagree over an issue as long as we communicate our position clearly and respect the other person’s right to express theirs. Once both sides have presented their position, we may agree that, while we respect each other’s right to an opinion, we choose to stand by our own. Our credibility as clear-headed, thinking people won’t be challenged if we take a stand after hearing both sides. Simple, right? Well, not quite… Often, people stop listening the moment they hear an objectionable buzzword or trigger. Once that surfaces, they tune the other party out and the chance at healing or compromise is lost. As parents/teachers/bosses, we ought to make an effort to hear what our kids/students/staff are saying and sometimes honor their POV, even if we feel our position is stronger. Why? Because we build trust by supporting the effort others are making, and by encouraging them to explore their position, we open the door to greater transparency, dialogue, and trust. Until we hear others fully with all our heart, we can’t expect the same. Listening and being heard take reciprocity.

 

A Story: How Well Do You Listen? Source Unknown
The story is told of Franklin Roosevelt, who often endured long receiving lines at the White House. He complained that no one really paid any attention to what was said. One day, during a reception, he decided to try an experiment. To each person who passed down the line and shook his hand, he murmured, “I murdered my grandmother this morning.” The guests responded with phrases like, “Marvelous! Keep up the good work. We are proud of you. God bless you, sir.” Only at the end of the line, while greeting the ambassador from Bolivia, did his words actually register. Nonplussed, the ambassador leaned over and whispered, “I’m sure she had it coming.” Source Unknown.

 

A Story: Listening = Obeying – Zen Stories via Goodweb.cn
The Zen Master Bankei’s talks drew not only Zen students but people of all ranks and sects. He never quoted sutras or indulged in scholastic dissertations. Instead, he spoke directly from his heart. His large audience angered a Nichiren priest because adherents had left to hear about Zen. The self-centered Nichiren priest came to the temple, determined to debate Bankei. “Hey, Zen teacher!” he called out. “Wait a minute. Whoever respects you will obey what you say, but a man like me doesn’t. Can you make me obey you?” “Come up beside me, and I will show you,” said Bankei. Proudly, the priest pushed his way through the crowd to the teacher. Bankei smiled. “Come over to my left side.” The priest obeyed. “No,” said Bankei, “we may talk better if you are on the right side. Step over here.” The priest proudly stepped over to the right. “You see,” observed Bankei, “you are obeying me, and I think you are a very gentle person. Now sit down and listen.”

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” Ernest Hemingway

Motivation Mondays: LISTEN - Are you a Good Listener?

Motivation Mondays: LISTEN, Are You a Good Listener?

There is only one rule for being a good talker – learn to listen. Christopher Morley
Know or listen to those who know. Baltasar Gracian
To listen well is as powerful a means of communication and influence as to talk well. John Marshall
You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. Do not even listen, simply wait, be quiet still and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked, it has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet. Franz Kafka

Do People Accuse You of Being a Poor Listener? At different points in our lives, we might fall into a pattern of tuning out everything around us because we are focused on a personal challenge or the demands of a pressing assignment. In times like that, we might easily tune out what others say or find we can’t handle much chatter because we are trying to solve the issues before us. It’s important to notice this tendency and set aside time to listen to others and, perhaps, share with those we trust that we are having a hard time.

When Are You Least Effective as a Listener? I know that when my spirit is troubled or when I have a deadline to meet, I’m not at my best as a listener. In those moments, pretending to listen is the worst thing to do because people can easily pick up on our inattentiveness. When we switch out of a conversation/interview or counseling moment, people feel a vacuum in the exchange. So it is best to be honest and clear the air by intentionally setting aside whatever is weighing us down and being present for the other person. If we find that hard to do, we should articulate it clearly and let the person know it’s not them, but whatever issue we are currently struggling with… Even such an admission could open the door to an honest dialogue that benefits everyone… So, when the going gets tough, listen to Ella Wheeler Wilcox’s advice below and be compassionate with yourself and others in your life.

 

Listen! by Ella Wheeler Wilcox via FamousPoetsandPoems
Whoever you are as you read this,
Whatever your trouble or grief,
I want you to know and to heed this:
The day draweth near with relief.

No sorrow, no woe is unending,
Though heaven seems voiceless and dumb;
So sure as your cry is ascending,
So surely an answer will come.

Whatever temptation is near you,
Whose eyes on this simple verse fall;
Remember good angels will hear you
And help you to stand, if you call.

Though stunned with despair I beseech you,
Whatever your losses, your need,
Believe, when these printed words reach you,
Believe you were born to succeed.

You are stronger, I tell you, this minute,
Than any unfortunate fate!
And the coveted prize – you can win it;
While life lasts, ’tis never too late!

 

Happy Blog Anniversary

Happy Blog Anniversary

Today is the 8th Anniversary of this blog. What started as a motivational/training tool for my agents has evolved into a creative, inspirational, and informational outlet. Thank you for staying the course with me. Upwards and Onward!

 

The details for Motivation Mondays are below. Join in! The themes for October and November 2016 are:

OCTOBER
10/03 –  2-4 Rosh Hashana,  6 German-American Day,
10/10 –  10  Columbus Day, World Mental Health Day, 11 International Day of the Girl,  12 Yom Kippur
10/17 –   16 World Food Day / FAO World Food Day
10/24 –  24 United Nations Day,  28 National Chocolate Day, 29 National Cat Day, 30 Diwali
10/31 —  31 Halloween

NOVEMBER
11/01/6 –   01 All Saints’ Day/Day of the Dead,  02 All Souls’ Day, 03 Culture Day, 05 Guy Fawkes Day
11/07   –  07 Chocolate + Almonds Day, 11 Martinmas/Remembrance Day/Veterans Day/Armistice Day, 13 World Kindness Day
11/14 – 14 Full Moon, 15 Republic Day, 16 Day of Repentance,20 National Black Consciousness Day/Revolution Day
11/21 –   21 World Hello Day, 23 National Cashew Day, 24 Thanksgiving Day
11/28  –   29 New Moon/E-Greetings Day/National Day of Listening

Are You Looking for Ways to Stay Creative in 2016?

PostaDayPostaWeekCollage1
– Join the Daily Post Post-a-day or Post-a-week Challenge.

BHWritingLab_052016_post_PROMPT1A

— Join the BlogHer Writing Lab

 

 

More Below!
“Listen, wait, and be patient. Every shaman knows you have to deal with the fire that’s in your audience’s eye.” Ken Kesey

Motivation Mondays: LISTEN - Are you a Good Listener?

Motivation Mondays: LISTEN – Are you a Good Listener?

Listen to many, speak to a few. William Shakespeare
If you wish to know the mind of a man, listen to his words. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Nor shall derision prove powerful against those who listen to humanity or those who follow in the footsteps of divinity, for they shall live forever. Forever. Khalil Gibran
Your mind knows only some things. Your inner voice, your instinct, knows everything. If you listen to what you know instinctively, it will always lead you down the right path. Henry Winkler

 

How Can We Become Better Listeners? Listening is an active verb that requires attention, sincerity, and a willingness to set aside our own expectations/opinions and give the speaker the benefit of the doubt. Listening requires a conscious effort to stop ourselves from interrupting others’ train of thought. To listen truly, we must respect the other person’s request to be heard and, to do so, we must BE PRESENT! Why? Because being present as a listener demands that we focus our gaze on the other person, set aside our opinions, and even say out loud, “I’m here to hear you.” Verbalizing our presence/attention affirms it in both our mind and our body, and it helps us reorient our focus to the other person. Another important step is to repeat back or summarize what you heard so the speaker can confirm you heard them fully. When we reiterate what we’ve heard, it clarifies confusion, helps us focus on the facts being presented, and helps us avoid reaching for other fleeting interpretations we might consider or imagine. If you are easily distracted by sights and sounds, appearances, certain phrases, or trigger words, be attentive to those triggers and find a quiet place to talk with someone else. We all want to feel heard, and the better we listen, the better our relationships become. Go for it!

 

The Listeners by Walter de la Mare via FamousPoetsandPoems
“Is there anybody there?” said the Traveler,
Knocking on the moonlit door;
And his horse in the silence champed the grass
Of the forest’s ferny floor;
And a bird flew up out of the turret,
Above the Traveler’s head:
And he smote upon the door again a second time;
“Is there anybody there?” he said.
But no one descended to the Traveler;
No head from the leaf-fringed sill
Leaned over and looked into his grey eyes,
Where he stood perplexed and still.
But only a host of phantom listeners
That dwelt in the lone house then
Stood listening in the quiet of the moonlight
To that voice from the world of men:
Stood thronging the faint moonbeams on the dark stair,
That goes down to the empty hall,
Hearkening in an air stirred and shaken
By the lonely Traveller’s call.
And he felt in his heart their strangeness,
Their stillness answering his cry,
While his horse moved, cropping the dark turf,
‘Neath the starred and leafy sky;
For he suddenly smote on the door, even
Louder, and lifted his head:–
“Tell them I came, and no one answered,
That I kept my word,” he said.
Never the least stir made the listeners,
Though every word he spake
Fell echoing through the shadowiness of the still house
From the one man left awake:
Ay, they heard his foot upon the stirrup,
And the sound of iron on stone,
And how the silence surged softly backward,
When the plunging hoofs were gone.

 

Have a Happy Listening week ahead!

Any Zen Antics stories via Goodweb.cn

Share

Positive Motivation Tip:  The more we listen, the more we will feel heard. Listening takes two!

Motivation Mondays is open to anyone who wants to share a motivational quote, photo, personal challenge, or post that encourages others to start the week on an upbeat note.
Basic Instructions: Each week, I will share a Motivation word to help us create a response. (See listed words for the months above/below)
Email address: You may email or share your post as a comment, and I will add it to the round-up of related posts. email it to: contact(@)mirthandmotivation(.)com
Category tag: – Share your post using Motivation Mondays
Twitter hashtag: – Use this on Twitter #MotvnM
Dedicated Page: There is a dedicated page for Motivation Mondays. It has the same instructions and will include other helpful tools and a link to the round-up
Facebook Page: MotivationOnMonday.s Join our page and add your post and/or any motivational piece you think will help others.
Facebook Community: We have a Facebook community forum to complement the page. It’s another place to share uplifting posts and thoughts. Please join in and add your voice.

Badge: I created a fun badge using PicMonkey’s free photo-editing tools. You can create your own using WordPress’ integrated tool on your blog, or you can use mine. (see dedicated page)
Tag: – Motivation Mondays
Hashtag: – #MotvnM
Related Posts

PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: All Photos –  Thanksgiving via Wikipedia and/or  Thanksgiving via Pixabay

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

 

Save

Save

Save

Save

Save

Save

Save

from → Global & National Events, Grace & Gratitude, Love Life, Motivation Mondays, Positive Advice, Posts & Photos 2016, StoryTelling, TIPS & LISTS
177 Comments leave one →
  1. Amber permalink
    28/11/2016 6:06 pm

    I try to always listen when people speak to me. Granted, when my kids tell a story and it’s 30 minutes later, I’m thinking, “When are we going to wrap this up?”

    Reply
  2. Jane Porterfield permalink
    28/11/2016 5:02 pm

    A wise person once told me (in 1983) that there’s a reason we have two ears and one mouth – so we can listen twice as much as we speak.

    Reply
  3. Mihaela Echols permalink
    28/11/2016 5:12 pm

    Aww I love the one with the bears swimming together.

    Reply
  4. Wren permalink
    28/11/2016 6:09 pm

    I love your blog posts. Always very motivational and sweet. Thank you for the upbeat post. 🙂

    Reply
  5. Chloe permalink
    28/11/2016 6:11 pm

    Being a good listener is crucial for a healthy relationship. It is so easy to tune out when people talk about mundane things, like how work was for the day, but when someone actually shows they listen and care about your words, well it can make all the difference.

    Reply
  6. Melanie Smith permalink
    28/11/2016 8:46 pm

    Listen to other is so important this days. We have to know what other people think. Thank you for sharing!

    Reply
  7. heatherwnac permalink
    28/11/2016 8:55 pm

    I love that you wrote these all down! These are things I am working on teaching my 3 boys – but that I still need to work on – we all want to be heard!

    Reply
  8. joyroses13 permalink
    28/11/2016 7:16 pm

    A very important post! Good job! I know the Franklin Roosevelt one 🙂 LOL!

    Reply
  9. momknowsbest15 permalink
    28/11/2016 9:21 pm

    For the most part I am a good listener. My boys may talk too much at times so I tend to half listen.

    Reply
  10. savagesevenblog permalink
    28/11/2016 9:21 pm

    One of my psychology classes in undergrad we learned about actively listening and passive listening. great post. -Breyona sharpnack

    Reply
  11. Vyjay Rao permalink
    28/11/2016 10:47 pm

    Listening is the best gift that one can give to anyone. Most of us at some stage or the other are looking for someone who would just LISTEN. But listening is a fine art and not many are good at it.

    Reply
  12. Lucid Gypsy permalink
    28/11/2016 11:06 pm

    Do yo think it’s possible to be too good a listener Eliz? I seem to attract a lot of people who take advantage of my good ears.

    Reply
  13. The Walking Map permalink
    28/11/2016 11:50 pm

    Not being heard is very frustrating. However, I’m probably not the best listener. I tune out when I’m not interested in a subject. I never thought of listening twice as much as a speak, but that’s a clever observation. “Listen” is a song by The Clash!

    Reply
  14. Christina Aliperti permalink
    29/11/2016 12:35 am

    Two ears, one mouth. I tell my son this all the time. Being a good listener needs to be learned for some.

    Reply
  15. Jenni Petrey permalink
    29/11/2016 3:27 am

    Such a well written post, really enjoyed reading it.

    Reply
  16. Sondra Barker permalink
    29/11/2016 2:38 am

    Great post! I think just as important as it is to listen to others, its equally important if not more so that we listen to ourselves.

    Reply
  17. theforeverteacher permalink
    29/11/2016 4:16 am

    I love this!! It def drives me crazy when I talk to my husband and feel like he isn’t hearing me. I need to work on my listening skills as well…. I get so busy with my two kids and watching them… that at times I am not listening.

    Reply
  18. Waiting for Fireflies permalink
    29/11/2016 6:17 am

    I really like this post. Listening is so important, for everyone, including our kids. I have a really hard time listening to my kids when I’m trying to get something done, or when we are in a hurry. Thank you for the reminder to notice and figure out a way to listen when they need me to.

    Reply
  19. Azlin Bloor permalink
    29/11/2016 4:29 am

    Great post, I think folks definitely need to listen more. I find this especially true with kids. Love the poem.

    Reply
  20. Ana De-Jesus permalink
    29/11/2016 4:40 am

    I am a good listener but I am not good at listening to myself and trusting my own judgement. It is definitely something I need to work on.

    Reply
  21. Divya @ Eat. Teach. Blog. permalink
    29/11/2016 5:18 am

    I’m least effective as a listener when I’m attempting to multi-task. I feel like it’s hard for me to engage properly when I am focused on my phone and/or computer. My husband is a wonderful listener and he gives everyone his 100% attention. Being with him has helped me learn how to be better at focusing on one thing at a time.

    Reply
  22. Dexter Tan permalink
    29/11/2016 5:51 am

    I did not know that there was a National Day of Listening. Its a skill that sadly too many people lack as everyone jostles for space to be heard. The true way to stand out is really to listen and not just trying to always be heard. Great article with lovely poems.

    Reply
  23. Marceline Dementori permalink
    29/11/2016 6:07 am

    Listening is a skill that we must all learn especially when we become parents because our kids will need our ears for their eagerness to tell stories. It’s important to be present, you’re absolutely right. There’s nothing better than a person who know how to listen. It goes hand in hand with understanding.

    Reply
  24. fashionphases permalink
    29/11/2016 6:35 am

    I try my hardest to be a good listener. I do this by not interrupting them and looking at them when they are expressing themselves. However, if the person I am trying to have a conversation ignores me when I am talking, then I am not such a good listener.

    Reply
  25. Steve Goodwin permalink
    29/11/2016 7:49 am

    Listening is always one of the best forms of respect!

    Reply
  26. Tami Qualls permalink
    29/11/2016 9:14 am

    Epictetus’ quote really speaks to me. I tend to do the opposite.

    Reply
  27. Teresa Gilbert permalink
    29/11/2016 9:34 am

    Listening: Most people listen to reply not listen to listen!

    Reply
  28. adriana permalink
    29/11/2016 11:39 am

    I think how good of a listener you are says a LOT about you! It’s so important to try and hear what others are saying – especially if your opinions differ.

    Reply
  29. Brown Rhonda permalink
    29/11/2016 10:23 am

    This was a really good post. You made a lot of valid points. I know I’m not a good listener when I have a lot on my mind.

    Reply
  30. Mary Elizabeth Francisco permalink
    29/11/2016 10:32 am

    Aww, this is a very inspiring post, and so many things to learn, such a wonderful piece. Thank you so much for sharing!

    Reply
  31. Milton Coyne permalink
    29/11/2016 10:34 am

    “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” what a great quote…
    I really enjoyed the video and the story and I guess it is a great story that you can tell with the kids but the lesson of the story is applicable not just for kids but also for us adults

    Reply
  32. Kecia @ Online Income Mom permalink
    29/11/2016 10:43 am

    Great quote at the beginning. I have been trying really hard to listen and understand more than I just assume and speak.

    Reply
  33. Cindy Ingalls permalink
    29/11/2016 10:54 am

    It seems like the art of listening has been lost today. It’s important to hear what people are really saying, instead of talking to hear themselves talk.

    Reply
  34. Michele permalink
    29/11/2016 11:21 am

    Most people tell me I’m a very good listener which I do take as a compliment! It is true, however that most people talk a lot more then they hear–and it does take concentration to be a good listener!

    Reply
  35. Jennifer L Johnson permalink
    29/11/2016 11:37 am

    It is so easy to talk instead of really listen!! I know I am always thinking of what to say instead of listening to them.

    Reply
  36. Maria@closetohome permalink
    29/11/2016 1:51 pm

    I do think so many people talk more than they listen. Great post more should read.

    Reply
  37. My Journey With Candida permalink
    29/11/2016 1:16 pm

    Sometimes listening is one of the hardest things for me to do. I do try though.

    Reply
  38. Sarah Bailey permalink
    29/11/2016 1:30 pm

    I used to be a better listener than I am now, I don’t mean to be a bad one but my health issues mean my concentration isn’t so good and I go off into a daze even when I am trying my hardest to stay listening to someone. I hate that 🙁

    Reply
  39. Neely (@Neelykins) permalink
    29/11/2016 1:49 pm

    Ive always been told Im a good listener but sometimes I can tell I need improvement. I think its a great thing to be for people.

    Reply
  40. Via Bella permalink
    29/11/2016 3:38 pm

    I love this! It is a very good challenge to take on both myself and to teach my kids. Everyone can use practice listening.

    Reply
  41. Ann Bacciaglia permalink
    29/11/2016 4:01 pm

    I am always trying to improve my listening skills. The Listeners by Walter de la Mare is fantastic.

    Reply
  42. kylie cre8tone permalink
    29/11/2016 4:48 pm

    I’d always like to listen and I hope others will listen to me, too! Great way to communicate both ways!

    Reply
  43. Myteenguide permalink
    29/11/2016 6:48 pm

    I am a good listener to my friends and family.. It is my pleasure to listen especially when they sharing their stories.

    Reply
  44. chbernard permalink
    29/11/2016 6:51 pm

    I didn’t even know National Day of Listening was a thing! I think listening is something we can all continue to work on! I love all the quotes!

    Reply
  45. Helene Cohen Bludman permalink
    29/11/2016 4:56 pm

    I think I am a good listener most of the time. That’s what people tell me, anyway.

    Reply
  46. Myteenguide permalink
    29/11/2016 7:08 pm

    I used to love listening stories of my love ones.. I can gain some ideas by listening.

    Reply
  47. Jeypi Kyu permalink
    29/11/2016 5:19 pm

    gosh! now i just thought about it. am i really a good listener? great video and thoughts here, that story just made me realize that i need to pay more attention to what i hear and not just my thoughts about things. love this!

    Reply
  48. cybella28 permalink
    29/11/2016 7:20 pm

    Good listeners are hard to find. Thank you for the reminder to truly listen with your heart not your head.

    Reply
  49. kellyreci permalink
    29/11/2016 7:27 pm

    This is a great tips. I am not a good listener but after reading your blog I am now interested.

    Reply
  50. Sandra Crespo permalink
    29/11/2016 5:59 pm

    I love this ! Recently I was recently at my brothers in Colorado and we were having a conversation about listening and he commented smart people listen great perspective ❤️

    Reply
  51. Tyler permalink
    29/11/2016 6:06 pm

    I didn’t even know national day of listening was a thing! Thanks!

    Reply
  52. Anita Anderson permalink
    29/11/2016 8:29 pm

    This post is true about listening. We have to take the time to stop and really listen to one another.

    Reply
  53. Lindsay permalink
    29/11/2016 6:59 pm

    It can be tough to listen when you have something prepared to say, but I notice it’s worth the effort and more valuable to listen. Great post!

    Reply
  54. Hey Sharonoox permalink
    29/11/2016 7:06 pm

    I enjoyed watching the video clip of the boy who finally listened. It’s so important to have someone who actually listen. This week, I’ll be all ears… Have a great week!

    Reply
  55. Hip Mama's Place (@HipMamasPlace) permalink
    29/11/2016 9:39 pm

    Listening is such a skill and a talent, and requires a lot of patience. Not everyone will listen or can listen well. This post reminds us the importance of listening. I love it!

    Reply
  56. Milica permalink
    29/11/2016 11:04 pm

    You always have such a nice posts! Wonderful poem!

    Reply
  57. MJ Lushfabglameditor permalink
    29/11/2016 9:19 pm

    It’s so important to truly listen to others, sometimes we hear even more than they are willing to say out loud :).
    XO, MJ

    Reply
  58. carrie@thelavenderhytta permalink
    29/11/2016 11:33 pm

    Sometimes Listening is so hard to do but it is also so important. I have been actively working on my listening skills for the past couple of years and now I am working with our son to improve his (even though he is young).

    Reply
  59. Jess permalink
    29/11/2016 11:38 pm

    I always wait to listen not to speak, people say Im a good listener.But I think there is always room for more and more perspective. A great post, really! I loved it.

    Reply
  60. AWanderingVine permalink
    30/11/2016 12:06 am

    I love that story of Franklin Roosevelt! So funny, yet sad at the same time. I’m least effective as a listener when I’m stressed out or busy.

    Reply
  61. MomTraNeur permalink
    30/11/2016 12:13 am

    You are so right! Each one of us really need to be heard and we have to make an effort to listen as well. I grew up having “fiends” who seem to never listen to me while I listen to all their rants and raves. In time, it got taxing and hurtful that eventually the friendship stopped. If only they learned how to listen to me too then maybe we could have remained friends til the end.

    Reply
  62. Mom Does It All (@misteedawnw) permalink
    30/11/2016 12:30 am

    Such great quotes and photos this week. I think most people listen just to reply and not just to listen.

    Reply
  63. 3xhcch permalink
    30/11/2016 2:50 am

    In my line of work I really need to listen very well to the people who seek my help. The proper solution to their problems can only be arrived at only after I listen well and process their complaints. My listening is essential for them to get healed. I shouldn’t let them down. – Fred

    Reply
  64. Iza Abao, Two Monkeys Travel Group Writer permalink
    30/11/2016 1:03 am

    Listening is the key to success in relationships, career goals and many more. It has helped me improved my communication skills too. I listen to my friends and they do the same. It feels great when others listen to what you have to say and you should do the same. It boosts one’s confidence.

    Reply
  65. Jelena permalink
    30/11/2016 1:27 am

    These are really good questions. Something to think about. Very inspirational text imo!

    Reply
  66. Jill Conyers (@jillconyers) permalink
    30/11/2016 2:21 am

    I listen for a living 🙂 I also use “Listen” as part of one of the meditations I use when i teach yoga. It’s a favorite.

    Reply
  67. Valerie Gray (@valmg) permalink
    30/11/2016 4:24 am

    It stinks to feel like you aren’t being heard. Some folks don’t realize listen isn’t about hearing at all.

    Reply
  68. swapnilsurywanshid permalink
    30/11/2016 5:23 am

    It’s always better to be a good listener.
    Nice poem by Walter.

    Reply
  69. Rachel (@coffee_cakekids) permalink
    30/11/2016 3:59 am

    Listening is so important. People have too much to say and never listen to others properly.

    Reply
  70. Rosey permalink
    30/11/2016 6:03 am

    I like the inspiration behind the words. Its nice to hear them, or read them as the case may be, even when you know them in your heart.

    Reply
  71. Maple Syrup and Teacups permalink
    30/11/2016 6:41 am

    I was often told that I was a bit chatty in school and didn’t listen but as i grew up, I became the person that my friends would talk about all their concerns to because they said I was a good listener. I took it as a compliment. I think it’s good to just stay silent and listen to what others have to say instead of simply waiting for an opportunity to say your opinions too. Great post for Wednesday morning.

    Reply
  72. franckxethee permalink
    30/11/2016 6:54 am

    Listening is really an important aspect of communication. It’s important that we listen and not just hear to ensure we got the right message.

    Reply
  73. nlampert permalink
    30/11/2016 7:52 am

    I think it’s so important to demonstrate active listening. Nowadays so many people listen to each other while they’re on their phones or multi-tasking and even if you are genuinely listening, it’s hard for someone to really feel like they’re being heard in that situation.

    Reply
  74. Shub permalink
    30/11/2016 8:14 am

    Listening is such an important part of communication. Unfortunately many a times, we just focus on talking.

    Reply
  75. Karlyn Flores permalink
    30/11/2016 8:22 am

    Such a good post and I really love the poem.

    Reply
  76. Annette Yedlin permalink
    30/11/2016 9:37 am

    Such great content thank you for sharing. I have always though to be a good listener but will definitely be taking in a bit more.

    Reply
  77. nmetolen75 permalink
    30/11/2016 11:22 am

    I think I am a pretty good listener. At least I try to be. I’m shy, which helps, since I don’t like to do the talking!

    Reply
  78. Sondra Barker permalink
    30/11/2016 1:16 pm

    Ah listening, this is such an important part of life; not only to hear, but to truly listen.

    Reply
  79. toughcookiemommy permalink
    30/11/2016 1:22 pm

    It’s so important to be open to listening to others. That is the best way to have interpersonal relationships.

    Reply
  80. Jennifer L Johnson permalink
    30/11/2016 2:37 pm

    I love this!! So important to make sure that you listen to what is being said, not just anticipate your response.

    Reply
  81. Julie Syl Kalungi permalink
    30/11/2016 2:47 pm

    Indeed everyone likes t feel validated, we all love to be listened to. We must do the same when others are trying to communicate with us. It is simply great etiquette. If we listen more, we will be able to understand our potential customers and existing customer’s needs 🙂 Awesome Share. Loved the lil kids story in the video too 🙂 thanks Elizabeth!

    Reply
  82. Lisa Rios permalink
    30/11/2016 6:03 pm

    Such a beautiful quote from Epictetus and the pictures are quiet unique as you always do. I hope that I am a good listener atleast to others as I always spend time when someone has a advice or few words of good things to say. It is bit upsetting when not being heard, but at the end of the day you can never force someone to listen!

    Reply
  83. Wildish Jess permalink
    30/11/2016 7:30 pm

    I feel like when I’m in the zone I am a fantastic listener. Then other times I can be distracted and talk over people.

    Reply
  84. Christina Aliperti permalink
    30/11/2016 9:25 pm

    I had to come back and read this again and also have my son read it. It helps for him to hear things from people other than his mother lol.

    Reply
  85. katyashadeofteal permalink
    30/11/2016 10:11 pm

    I would like to think I’m a good listener. But I know I can make improvements everywhere, especially when it comes to listening to my kids.

    Reply
  86. Bhushavali permalink
    30/11/2016 10:19 pm

    I don’t know if I am a good listener but I’m trying to be. But my man is an amazing listener and I know the power of healing that it gives when someone just listens as we pour our heart out.

    Reply
  87. phyliciamarie permalink
    30/11/2016 10:54 pm

    Was that story about F. Roosevelt ever proven true? It’s so effective in filtering out those who don’t listen. Also, i’m trying to be a better listener, because we learn more when we listen rather than talk.

    Reply
  88. Joanna permalink
    01/12/2016 6:21 am

    I think it’s a very bad feeling knowing that you are not heard, that you talk but the person in front of you has their attention somewhere else. It pretty much makes us feel small and insignificant, especially when we are pouring our hearts out.

    Reply
  89. The Mad Mommy permalink
    01/12/2016 8:04 am

    Being heard seems so important. However, hearing yourself is one of the most important things we can do!

    Reply
  90. DecoPix (@TiinaTibs) permalink
    01/12/2016 11:24 am

    You have chosen such clever pictures for impressing listening! I have noticed that I don’t always listen to what the others are saying because I’m too busy doing my own things. I definitely need to change as I want to be present and haer what others have to say and support them more.

    Reply
  91. Megan Ogden permalink
    01/12/2016 1:30 pm

    Most people only listen to respond, not to actually listen. I am so guilty of that! I am a horrible listener.

    Reply
  92. Anna-Maria permalink
    01/12/2016 2:09 pm

    I love these kind of post so much, always something new to learn and so thought provoking. Never stop!!! xx

    Reply
  93. Eileen Mendoza Loya permalink
    01/12/2016 11:38 pm

    Having worked in the customer service industry for a significant number of years, I have been taught the art of active listening. It taught me how to really listen and to empathize with the customer. This is the same thing I teach over and over to my trainees.

    Reply
  94. blanca permalink
    02/12/2016 1:15 am

    I wish everyone knew how to listen. I have a family member who never answers your questions. She just replies back with something completely unrelated. Drives me crazy.

    Reply
  95. Tyler permalink
    02/12/2016 7:08 am

    If there was one skill I wish people would spend time developing, it’s listening. Especially right now. There’s so much noise and nobody is listening. Thanks for this post.

    Reply
  96. planningthemagic permalink
    02/12/2016 11:06 am

    I can definitely work on being a better listener. It’s something I’ve been working on awhile because I recognize the importance.

    Reply
  97. nbosken permalink
    02/12/2016 10:51 am

    Wow, there’s so much I want to say about this post. First, as I played the video, I was also on my phone … distracted. I also find that story about Roosevelt to be very entertaining. It’s crazy that no one noticed it. Lastly, I’m an American living in Spain. So when hanging out with Spanish people, listening in your second language is even harder. You have to really concentrate.

    Nina
    aworldofdresses.com

    Reply
  98. Dreammerin permalink
    02/12/2016 1:46 pm

    Beautiful post! Now it makes me wonder… Very inspirational! I love it!

    Reply
  99. Tauyanm permalink
    02/12/2016 7:23 pm

    being a mother, listening to my daughter is one of the important things that i need and make sure that I do for her. when she tries to talk to me and tell me something, i’ll make sure that I sit down or stop and let her know and feel that I am listening.

    Reply
  100. Jason Panuelos permalink
    02/12/2016 9:06 pm

    I need to improve my listening better and I’m so happy I came across this. Listening is one the most important things in the world, after all 😀

    Reply
  101. jennifer L permalink
    02/12/2016 9:18 pm

    It’s amazing how much we can learn about ourselves by the way we listen to others. One of the reasons what I try to be the best the best listener I can be.

    Reply
  102. lex permalink
    03/12/2016 12:18 am

    the quote does its magic and passes the message clearly. we should listen more than speak so as to speak right.

    Reply
  103. TheGracefulMist permalink
    02/12/2016 10:54 pm

    Thank you for sharing the first quote. I`ve always quoted it but didn`t actually know who said it first. Listening requires a sincere heart and patient understanding.

    Reply
  104. Zwitsy permalink
    03/12/2016 3:42 am

    This topic reminds me a lot of my HS days. Listening is definitely one of the keys to success. If we will just learn how to open our ears to understand, what a wonderful world it could be?

    Reply
  105. AlwaysReiding permalink
    04/12/2016 9:54 pm

    I consistently try to evolve and work my listening skills. I think everyone would be much better off if they listened just a little more.

    Reply
  106. Kathy permalink
    05/12/2016 8:59 am

    I think this is a wonderful post. I think everyone should always listen to what someone has to say. You never know if something someone says may change your life!

    Reply
  107. Anosa permalink
    05/12/2016 11:13 am

    This was a great read, I like consider myself as a good listerner.

    Reply
  108. Terri Ramsey Beavers permalink
    06/12/2016 11:40 am

    I’m not a good listener, but I get that from my mom. I need to listen more and be quiet more as well.

    Reply
  109. Garf permalink
    12/12/2016 12:47 pm

    I always need help to get motivated on Mondays. My body and mind don’t seem to work that day. Hahaha

    Reply
  110. Lyosha Varezhkina (@lyoshathegirl) permalink
    03/10/2018 7:49 pm

    First of all I love the poem. It is so beautiful, so inspiring!
    Second of all I want to talk about listening. I think the biggest gift person has is ability to listen. It is the most major part of communication. A lot of people hear but not listen. Listening for me means understanding, ability to make a chain of what is written, ability to ask a question if needed. It is not seen as often as I would want it to be seen.

    Reply

Trackbacks

  1. Motivation Mondays: ABUNDANCE | Mirth and Motivation
  2. Motivation Mondays: HUMAN RIGHTS | Mirth and Motivation
  3. Motivation Mondays: The Holiday Season | Mirth and Motivation
  4. Motivation Mondays: What Matters? | Mirth and Motivation
  5. Motivation Mondays: A NEW START #2017SurvivalTips | Mirth and Motivation
  6. Motivation Monday: PERMISSION | Mirth and Motivation
  7. Motivation Mondays: Why Does #MLKDAY Matter? | Mirth and Motivation
  8. Motivation Mondays: Chinese New Year of The Rooster | Mirth and Motivation
  9. Motivation Mondays: Transformation | Mirth and Motivation
  10. Motivation Mondays: TODAY | Mirth and Motivation
  11. Motivation Mondays: Happy Valentine’s Day | Mirth and Motivation
  12. Motivation Mondays: Honoring Presidents’ Day | Mirth and Motivation
  13. Motivation Mondays: STAY CENTERED | Mirth and Motivation
  14. Motivation Mondays: International Women’s Day #BeBoldForChange | Mirth and Motivation
  15. Motivation Mondays: NURTURE | Mirth and Motivation
  16. Motivation Mondays: International Day of Happiness & Spring | Mirth and Motivation
  17. Motivation Mondays: A QUESTION Of BALANCE | Mirth and Motivation
  18. Motivation Mondays: World Health Day – Depression #LetsTalk | Mirth and Motivation
  19. Motivation Mondays: Reflections On Easter & Passover | Mirth and Motivation
  20. Motivation Mondays: Earth Day for Environmental & Climate Literacy | Mirth and Motivation
  21. Motivation Mondays: Live Life Fully | Mirth and Motivation
  22. Motivation Mondays: REST | Mirth and Motivation
  23. Motivation Mondays: Celebrate Mother’s Day! #mothersday | Mirth and Motivation
  24. Motivation Mondays: EXPECTATIONS | Mirth and Motivation
  25. Motivation Mondays: BREATHE | Mirth and Motivation
  26. Motivation Mondays: Honoring Memorial Day | Mirth and Motivation
  27. Motivation Mondays: MODERATION | Mirth and Motivation
  28. Motivation Mondays: Father’s Day Matters | Mirth and Motivation
  29. Motivation Mondays: Relief or Relieved? | Mirth and Motivation
  30. Motivation Mondays: PERSEVERANCE | Mirth and Motivation
  31. Motivation Mondays: Dream BIGGER – Independence Day | Mirth and Motivation
  32. Motivation Mondays: MINDSET – #WorldPopulationDay | Mirth and Motivation
  33. Motivation Mondays: ANGER | Mirth and Motivation
  34. Motivation Mondays: PARENTING | Mirth and Motivation
  35. Motivation Mondays: Revisiting Friendship | Mirth and Motivation
  36. Motivation Mondays: Life Is a GIFT | Mirth and Motivation
  37. Motivation Mondays: ASK | Mirth and Motivation
  38. Motivation Mondays: ECLIPSE | Mirth and Motivation
  39. Motivation Mondays: STRUGGLE | Mirth and Motivation
  40. Motivation Mondays: LABOR of LOVE | Mirth and Motivation
  41. Motivation Mondays: Patriot Day – Remembering 9/11 | Mirth and Motivation
  42. Motivation Mondays: STAY STEADFAST | Mirth and Motivation
  43. Motivation Mondays: Suicide Prevention Awareness Month | Mirth and Motivation
  44. Motivation Mondays: SAILING | Mirth and Motivation
  45. Motivation Mondays: PERCEPTION | Mirth and Motivation
  46. Motivation Mondays: LOYALTY | Mirth and Motivation
  47. Motivation Mondays: UN Day – Transcend Differences | Mirth and Motivation
  48. Motivation Mondays: Overcoming Adversity | Mirth and Motivation
  49. Motivation Mondays: Be GRATEFUL | Mirth and Motivation
  50. Motivation Mondays: THANKFUL | Mirth and Motivation
  51. Motivation Mondays: GIVING BACK | Mirth and Motivation
  52. Motivation Monday: HUBRIS | Mirth and Motivation
  53. Motivation Mondays: PRESCIENCE | Mirth and Motivation
  54. Motivation Mondays: MORAL COMPASS | Mirth and Motivation
  55. Motivation Mondays: Cherish Christmas & Holidays | Mirth and Motivation
  56. Motivation Mondays: Happy New Year | Mirth and Motivation
  57. Motivation Mondays: Stumbling Blocks | Mirth and Motivation
  58. Motivation Mondays: Walk in the Light #MLKDay | Mirth and Motivation
  59. Motivation Mondays: Own It! | Mirth and Motivation
  60. Motivation Mondays: Disrupt Your Paradigms | Mirth and Motivation
  61. Motivation Mondays: Heart Of Transitions | Mirth and Motivation
  62. Motivation Mondays: Beyond Valentine’s Day | Mirth and Motivation
  63. Motivation Mondays: Black Panther Movie Review – Lessons On Leadership | Mirth and Motivation
  64. Motivation Mondays: REST - Mirth and Motivation
  65. Motivation Mondays: A QUESTION Of BALANCE - Mirth and Motivation
  66. Motivation Mondays: Suicide Prevention Awareness Month - Mirth and Motivation
  67. Motivation Mondays: BREATHE - Mirth and Motivation

Your Comment is Appreciated!

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.