Motivation Mondays: Own It!

I cannot completely agree with your thoughts. He brought it to the media. She had to let people know that she is not all of the things that were said about her by him or the others commenting.

My mother always told me , if it bothers you after 3 days than say something. I hadn’t heard of this event between the two happening, of course I’ve been MIA for social media and just had my pre scheduled posting working for me. It’s unfortunate that these attempts took place. HAs either party expressed there apologies for the rash actions that have taken place. YOu are right you have to own up to your mistakes, your mistakes will help lead others to success, for they will hopefully learn from you.

I think you should think before you post. Always think 300%. Also, don’t post everything. Save some for yourself.

I have to admit I really felt so sorry for her. She’s at that age where naivety and reality are bound to clash and maybe she should have done a bit more research before sending the mail. From what I’ve seen the owner of the White Moose Café seems to enjoy being a
bombastic bastard. I suppose that’s his brand, just like her’s is sweet faced innocence.

Yeah I heard about Elle Darby! “The blogging world is littered with the carcasses of failed attempts” this can’t be more true omg! I myself have already contributed once to those carcasses with my old blog. I hope that this one will succeed! Thank you for the motivational post!!

I love your posts – always so much information and cool stuff to read and look at. I always need some Monday motivation so thanks for that. Think your writing about self-awareness is great.

I love the idea of doing that one thing which we think we cannot do. It challenges us to push our limits and only makes us stronger. Perfect weekday motivation. Cheers!!

We are human prone to do many wrongs in life, what required is that when we commit mistake we should accept it and do each bit to improve.

The biggest take away from this for me was to step back before reacting. It can be hard but in the very public recent case, both could not have engaged. I am not sure the negative attention was worth it for either party. I guess only time will tell. As much as possible I will choose to step back and reflect before reacting.

So much meaningful content here!!! This rang so true to me today: “Stay anchored in the facts and let the emotional, hurling salvos go.” Thank you for sharing!!!

I love your starting quote from Operah, we should own it. To be honest you have to fail sometmes to make mistakes which can aid you in growing as a person. If you never see a reason to improve yourself, would you still have the want to try? Theres a lot of debatable things in response to the asking of having a free trip. Sometimes if you don’t ask you don’t get – as the saying goes but why would you ever just ask for something for free from someone you don’t know and who doesn’t know you – that seems a little rude. I do make connections with brands but always as a friendlt inquiery, I’d never ask for someone out riight. I guess both parties will have learnt some things from this experience mainly about how they both handled it, I don’t know if there was point to both call each other out so pubically. Sorry I rambled, your posts always get me thinking!

If I ever have an embarrassing moment I try to own up to it but normally I don’t get embarrassed about anything.

I do love that you say not to respond until you have had time to think about what you are going to say. Sometimes, that’s difficult to do when it’s so easy just to tap that keyboard. This also resonated with me. I have always said this:
The biggest competition is myself. I am not looking to follow others or pull them down. I’m planning to test my own boundaries. Rain

Well, its true in the blogging world. It can be ruthless, or fun. I’ve been doing it just about as long as you and it has changed a lot from it’s beginning days of monetizing. Being respectful on both ends is really important and definitely not too boastful.

Nice to see you raising awareness for Elle Darby. The way she was treated is completely unacceptable, and quite frankly I hope that hotel loses lots of business.

I am always looking forward to your Monday motivation posts! I did hear about that girl who was asking stay for free. I feel like she should have did her research on the hotel first before asking about free promotion because they have ten times more followers than her. It wouldn’t make sense.

Great motivation and such a nicely written post!
-Ashley

Really great tips and inspiration! I totally agree with your stance & it’s certainly encouraging in blogging

Love the tip of waiting to respond – I need to practice that one more often!

I feel like we al need to own our industry. We also need to recognize where our niche is… and not call ourselves out in moments like this.

I can relate to this so much. Failing is one of my favourites and I welcome it. I like that you talk about owning your feelings and acknowledging.

Thanks for the motivational post.. Quite interesting read.

I’m not normally a fan of Oprah, but I LOVE that quote. Own it, girl. xo

This hotel issue was all over my Facebook feed all week. After all that drama (which I think is still ongoing), bad publicity is still publicity.

I’ve worked on both ends of this, both as a blogger for the past 9 years and working in PR/digital marketing. My experience working with bloggers made me realize that many of them are awful partners. Because of this, as a blogger I put extra effort into being a great partner because I know that if there’s a good relationship, agencies/companies will work with me again. There are many companies I have collaborated with for years!

As a digital marketer, the worst problem I had with bloggers occurred with review items. Bloggers are very communicative until they receive a product and then they disappear, particularly if it’s a review that needs to go live prior to Christmas. I assume this is because they overbook themselves with the number of reviews out of pure greed for more items.

I had a situation where I sent $200 value products for review to numerous bloggers and somehow 35% of them had car accidents (what a coincidence), didn’t respond to my emails and didn’t get the review up by agreed deadline. One other blogger claimed the product didn’t work and then sold it online on eBay with no mention of it being faulty!

There was one blogger who stood out from the pack for being communicative, attentive, providing everything by deadline and writing a great and honest review with photos. We ended up making her brand ambassador and she got a lot more money and work from us down the line.

On the other hand, the faulty bloggers never heard from us again. We put them in a ban list for future work.

There are too many bloggers that think they can get away with whatever they want and they are above contracts, agreements and law. Unfortunately, I didn’t see how terrible it can be to collaborate with bloggers until I was on the end as a marketer.

What a great read. LOVE the Quote “Success doesn’t count unless you earn it fair and square”.

Thank you for sharing this –– I love what you’re saying here. Blogging really does take a lot of determination and skill to pull through for the long-term. x

In this situation, I believe the one at fault was the hotel owner. He acted like a complete disrespectful jerk and I could insert a variety of words to describe him. There is no right to be so sassy and outright mean online. She handled it in a level-headed way and I believe her video was an appropriate response.

This reminds me of a sentence I came across in a novel I recently read: “That which we manifest is before us,” We have a better chance to succeed if we set out to achieve something in a positive frame of mind. And what if we fail? We shall have to endure the shame and blame of it, then go on, stronger and wiser. It seems that in the virtual “global village” of our days, people are even quicker to blame and judge. That’s sad, but we can learn a lesson from that, too. If we choose to. 🙂

Honestly this week I am lacking motivation and this was useful.

I do think we should try harder after we fail. Failing inspires me to do even better the next time after I own up to my mistakes. Great quote from Oprah, she is so wise.

Such a great post! I’m loving all of the motivation! xo

I just can not comprehend how one person can do such a thing to another human being. All he had to say was no thanks. End of story.

I loved your post, Elizabeth! Cyberbullying and public shaming can completely shatter a person from within. It is so important to remember these tips if anything of this sort happens to someone.

I had honestly not heard of this incident before reading this. I am over 30 and don’t believe she should have attacked a certain age group in her response. That whole situation was handled badly.

I didn’t think her request was all the bad. I saw the email somewhere and it was polite and professional. The establishment could have just said no thanks instead of blasting her as they did. Plus they continue to pile on on their Facebook page..I haven’t seen her response video. If she complains about people over 30, then yeah my sympathy goes down for her too.

I keep seeing bloggers bring up this thing that happened, but I never caught the part about her being only 22 and calling out everyone over 30! That was indeed super dumb. She has got so much to learn, and not just about blogging!

Another great post. I actually think you can learn so much from failing at something the first time around and you learn to appreciate things more.

Yikes. I haven’t been around the blogging world for a long time and I’m still working on contacting company’s for sponsored posts. It’s a very intimidating thing to approach for somewhat newbies like myself and I can only imagine the hardship in such situations. But in no way would I ever throw what I want out there up front. I’m sure both parties both lost and learned something in this situation.

I definitely try my best to own it each day no matter what.

I’m glad I haven’t seen Elle’s youtube video. I don’t want to give her anymore hits. I think its so shameful to put people down that are older. Older just means wiser and more intelligent. I hope she learns something from this.

I too feel Elle was wronged, but then she could have handled it little more maturedly. I guess at 22 that is difficult.

OMG! I might be hiding under a rock. I haven’t heard anything about this. I am a fairly new blogger (5 months and 5 days) and I am honored and surprised that companies approach me, but I only write what I want and share what I want. Before blogging, I have enjoyed a great life of gifts afforded by my association with celebrities, but that’s another story. I will be 40 years old in 2 months and the thought of age being used in an argument really touched me. I never approached a company, I certainly don’t think I ever will, I prefer to pay my own way and give a truly honest review. Because you never know what treatment you might get just because they know you are doing a review. Enough of my soapbox, I love this post and will be emailing it to my family and friends, because there is a lot to learn here.

Entitled is definitely what comes to mind when I heard about this story. I agree that many influencers are gifted free things, and in some cases, a collaboration would be mutually beneficial. In this particular case, her audience (young and likely, not able to afford a 5-star hotel in Dublin) would likely not be staying in that hotel to warrant the “free exposure”. She was obviously looking for a free hotel for her pre-Valentine’s Day holiday. That said, a simple quiet exchange between the two would have sufficed. There was no need to blast either party.

Hello,
I hear about this YouTuber in the Austrian television and I have to say that I was really amused about it. Some people think that everythink is for free. Sometimes you get what you deserve. I am amused. Thank you for sharing this article.

When faced with an embarassing situation, I guess the only way to get out of it is to apologize for the mistake, be sincere, own it, and move forward. Being mature is being responsible for your actions.

This whole issue has me going back and forth. 5 nights was a bit much to ask, but I also know hotels who have offered 5 night stays in suites. I have hotel contacts who encourage us to share with other bloggers because they love collaborating (large hotels I might add). He was so rude and so childish about the whole thing.

These are great tips!

That’s a lot of interesting news! I feel bad for the blogger who was exposed but I think she needs to be more polite in asking for free services. There’s a better way to say it.

This is so amazing post as always. I like all the quotes you have mentioned. Wherever we are today is the fruit of our own doing. At one point or the other, we do get the sight of that.

Oh goodness, I’ve always loved Charles Swindoll’s quote: Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it. So true. Working a lot on my response to life this year!

People are born not to be perfect at anything. It’s just that we have to accept our mistakes and improve. There’s always a space for change.

Up to the individual to work and achieve their goals. I don’t need so called celebrities who live in a very different world to tell me how to achieve my goals. We have much better family and friends to help and influence us.

All I can do is get up everyday and try to own it. If we don’t have that motivation to succeed, try something new or get out and about then what’s the point of a new day?

When I heard about this story I was shocked that the hotel owner put her on blast like that! But you are right, own it! Everyone has embarrassing moments and we just have to own it, pick up and move on!

Monday is a great day.

This is such a powerful post! It tells a lot of truths!