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“Value yourself. The only people who appreciate a doormat are people with dirty shoes.” Leo F. Buscaglia

Motivation Mondays: VALUE YOURSELF

Motivation Mondays: VALUE YOURSELF

Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. Howard Washington Thurman
If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person. Fred Rogers

What is Sacred to You? What Do You Value Most? What is Worth Living/Dying For? I was having a chat with a dear friend recently about self-care and how important it is for us, as parents, to value our own well-being. She works for one of the major airlines and always regales me with her flight stories. Yes, I’m an aeronautics buff and I love talking about planes and related matters. So, we found ourselves talking about the wisdom in the instructions that flight attendants give passengers before takeoff… Do you pay attention? You must. One thing that always stands out is the instruction to parents of small children: If the Oxygen masks appear in flight, put yours on first and then help your child. It is sage advice because if we are unable to breathe, we won’t be helpful to our loved ones.

By the same token, if we expend all of our energy taking care of others and leave nothing in the tank to rejuvenate or nourish ourselves, eventually we will either get sick or keel over and die. When we value ourselves, we perform actions that prolong our lives, nourish our bodies and strengthen our minds to take on the tasks of daily life. The body is a temple and, if we treat it like a garbage can, eventually, it will fall apart and fill our body and mind with stinking toxins. What is sacred? I would say the gift of life/birth is a sacred act and to honor our life is to love it and treat it with reverence and gratitude.


Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.” Mahatma Gandhi



“Until you value yourself, you will not value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.” M. Scott Peck

Motivation Mondays: VALUE YOURSELF

Motivation Mondays: VALUE YOURSELF

You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. Louise L. Hay
A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life. Andrew Matthews

What Do You VALUE Most?
If you asked any group of parents that question, most would immediately mention their kids and their family. It is a standard response because men and, most especially, women have all been conditioned to say it and also because it is true… to a degree. Then we ask follow up questions: Where do you fit in that spectrum of value? Did you include yourself when you chose your kids and family as most valued? Some of us would give you a blank look, others might have a light bulb moment, and a few might share that they never considered themselves as valuable to their own family because they focused on their shortcomings not strengths. We forget that self-love is a gift we must give ourselves again and again. Instead of wasting time criticizing ourselves for not living up to some unattainable norm, we ought to take Louise L. Hay’s advice to Try approving (our)self and see what happens. I know that when I’m not stuck in a negative thought pattern, I get more accomplished and my overall sense of well-being increases. This doesn’t happen overnight because it takes practice and vigilance to re-frame our negative thoughts into positive action.

What do I Value Most? I value my mental health and overall well-being because if those are not in check and taken care of, the rest would be a sham. A few days ago, I was taking a walk on the Croton Aqueduct listening to some of my favorite hip-hop/rap artists. As I walked the pathway, I suddenly heard someone yelling behind me. “Hey, hey miss, lady hey!” It was a friendly voice so I turned around to find out what was going on. Behind me was another woman. She was grinning from ear to ear.  She beamed at me and said: “You were walking with such a swagger; in such a sexy way. I wanted to know what you were listening to.” It was hysterical. I just had to laugh. I told her what I was listening to and invited her to check out the sounds on Spotify or Apple and she nodded her head. It felt so good to make such a connection over something I enjoy… Music.  Music rejuvenates me and I am glad to reconnect back to it. Another point is that we do ourselves great good when we own what we love and are not afraid to enjoy it. Stand by your choices too. The beauty of our world is the diversity and all the choices we can make. I value that too.


A Story: We Become What We Believe
One day, the Master admonished his students: “Monks, I will teach you the parable of the raft – for getting across, not for retaining.” It is like a man who, while going on a journey, sees a great stretch of water, the near bank with dangers and fears, and the farther bank secure and without fears. But, there is neither a boat for crossing over, nor a bridge across.

It occurs to the man that to cross over from the perils of this bank to the security of the farther bank, he should fashion a raft out of sticks and branches and, depending on the raft, cross over to safety. Once he has done this, it occurs to him that the raft has been very useful and he wonders if he ought to take it with him on his head and shoulders.

“What do you think, monks? Is the man doing what should be done to the raft?” The Master asked
“No, lord.” The students replied in unison
“What should that man do then, monks? ” The master asked again

The students were silent.
The Master continued his teaching: “When he has crossed over to the beyond he must leave the raft and proceed on his journey. Monks, a man doing this would be doing what should be done to the raft. In this way I have taught you Dharma, (right action), like the parable of the raft, for getting across, not for retaining. You, monks, by understanding the parable of the raft, must not cling to right states of mind and, all the more, to wrong states of mind.” Source: Teachings of the Buddha by Jack Kornfield

Explanation: We perform actions that teach us to value what we know without attachment to future outcomes. When we value ourselves, we face our fears at the bridge, contemplate the right actions to take, then surrender the need to control the outcomes/fruits as we to continue on our journey through life.



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03/04 – Women’s History Month, National Nutrition Month, Irish-American Heritage Month, American Red Cross Month, 08 International Women’s Day, World Kidney Day, 04 Academy Awards
03/11 – 11 Daylight Savings, 14 Pi Day, 15 World Consumer Rights Day, 17 St Patrick’s Day
03/18 – 19 St Joseph, 20 International Day of Happiness, 21 World poetry Day, 22 World Water day, 24 Earth Hour
03/25 – Palm Sunday, 29 Holy Thursday, 30 Good Friday, 31 Passover


05/06   –  01 May Day, 03, National Day of Prayer, 03 World Press Freedom Day, 04 Star Wars, 05 Cinco De Mayo
05/13  –  13 HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY,  16 Ramadan starts, 19 Armed Forces Day,
05/20  –   20 Pentecost Day,  23 World Turtle Day, 24 National Brother Day
05/27  –   28 Memorial Day,  30 World MS Day,  31 World No Tobacco Day


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“Always take a stand for yourself, your values. You’re defined by what you stand for.” Oprah Winfrey

Motivation Mondays: VALUE YOURSELF

Motivation Mondays: VALUE YOURSELF


Erykah Badu – Certainly (Live1997)

When you adopt the viewpoint that there is nothing that exists that is not part of you, that there is no one who exists who is not part of you, that any judgment you make is self-judgment, that any criticism you level is self-criticism, you will wisely extend to yourself an unconditional love that will be the light of the world. Harry Palmer

What is Worth Living/Dying For? What is Sacred to You? What Do You Value Most? Honestly, I don’t know about you but, I don’t think anything is worth dying for. Standing up for our beliefs and living our own version of an authentic life are concepts worth fighting and living for. When we make life choices that suit our temperament and feed our dreams, we are living a worthy life. This is why I am not a believer of “SHOULDS” … as in what we SHOULD do at a certain age or stage in our lives. Do what makes you happy and live your life. More on this later…


This is the beginning of a new day.
God has given me this day to use as I will.
I can waste it or use it for good.
What I do today is important, because
I am exchanging a day of my life for it.
When tomorrow comes,
this day will be gone forever,
leaving in its place something
that I have traded for it.
I want it to be gain, not loss;
good not evil; success not failure;
in order that I shall not regret
the price I paid for it.  Author Anon


Have a happy, peaceful and productive week ahead!

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Positive Motivation Tip: Value yourself. love yourself. You are a special gift to yourself and to others.

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Until Next Time…
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Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
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51 Comments leave one →
  1. Eloise permalink
    24/05/2018 12:21 pm

    great read!
    I agree that most people put their kids and family first, I’m one of them! I’d do anything for my kids! However, I’m also aware of self-love / self-care… we can only really help others if we are happy with ourselves! So splurge a little love for yourself and you’ll be a better person to others, esp your kids! otherwise you’ll be a cranky old fart!)

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:40 pm

      Hahaha! Good one!

  2. Rachel Wong permalink
    24/05/2018 7:59 pm

    I think it’s so important to value ourselves. By understanding our self-worth, we can gain more confidence in our actions and feel more positive in our lives.

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:39 pm

      Yes and it helps us heal.

  3. MELANIE EDJOURIAN permalink
    25/05/2018 12:10 am

    I totally agree, mental health and overall well being are most important not only for myself but also my whole family. I try to work on making sure these are looked after from various angles.

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:39 pm

      Indeed… it is life affirming

  4. Geraline Batarra permalink
    25/05/2018 2:01 am

    This is such a nice post. Learning and knowing on how to value yourself is teaching others how to value you as an individual or as a person.

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:38 pm

      we need to do that often

  5. Fiona Crystal permalink
    25/05/2018 6:01 am

    Great post. I love especially because I live by it. we forget that we ourselves are the most precious of all. If we won’t value ourselves no one else can

    XOXO Fiona

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:38 pm

      we are precious…

  6. Lara Ziobro permalink
    25/05/2018 7:29 am

    Interesting – do believe we’re preconditioned somewhat to say our children and family, but for me it’s really true. I truly do value them the most, especially after a very tough last several years. I also value my freedom of expression, to write and put out into the world honest thoughts and opinions. That’s so important to me – and to teach our son to do the same.

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:37 pm

      I believe you…

  7. Eileen Mendoza Loya permalink
    25/05/2018 7:46 am

    This is the cause of a lot of unhappiness nowadays. We never learn to pause and give value to ourselves. What’s with all the rush? If we say we value our family, then stop drowning ourselves in work. Spend time with them. Make memories. Live for the now.

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:37 pm

      100% agreement. It takes some of us some time to get there

  8. Ana Ojha permalink
    25/05/2018 2:31 pm

    What a wonderful reminder! I truly believe in Dharma and Karma. You get only one life. Therefore, do right deeds, give value to yourself and to others too. And never take anyone for granted. I enjoyed this!

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:12 pm

      Yes dharma and karma are scales of justice in all of our lives.

  9. thegentlemanracer permalink
    25/05/2018 6:31 pm

    Great post! People really need to stay positive.

  10. Esme Sy permalink
    26/05/2018 1:53 am

    That quote from Harry Palmer is the ultimate seal of the deal for self-realization. There is no way you won’t appreciate how important you are to this world after reading that.

  11. Alison Rost permalink
    26/05/2018 2:02 am

    I think it’s really important that we learn how to value ourselves and that we know our value. It’s not easy to do so especially when there are people pulling you down. This post is such a good reminder for us all.

  12. Denni permalink
    26/05/2018 9:02 am

    Your posts are always so detailed and so motivational. Going to tweet some of these motivation monday topics

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:10 pm


  13. Sigrid Says Blog permalink
    26/05/2018 6:01 pm

    Yes, I do value myself now. I now spend money on myself without the guilt trip. I deserve it. I earn the money.

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:10 pm

      Exactly… you deserve it

  14. Christopher James Mitchell permalink
    27/05/2018 10:24 am

    You bring up some great points here! It all starts with the perception of ourselves!

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:09 pm

      True… thank you

  15. iiipphy permalink
    27/05/2018 4:22 pm

    I have learnt to value myself and my time. I have learned that I am important and in other to be able to make a difference in my world and in the lives of those around me, i must first love and appreciate myself.

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:08 pm

      Yes … we all are <3

  16. Msddah permalink
    27/05/2018 8:53 pm

    This post really resonates with me. In valuing ones self, it help sets the tone as to how people treat you. I love the first quote in this post. Thanks for sharing yet another inspiring post!

    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      27/05/2018 10:07 pm


  17. Ramona Cruz-Peters permalink
    30/08/2018 9:21 am

    Thanks for sharing. This is something I have to constantly work on for myself, to value myself and speak to myself positively.

  18. ktmommyscene permalink
    31/08/2018 7:05 pm

    it’s amazing how much a person can accomplish if they believe in themself

  19. Alexis permalink
    12/11/2018 10:06 am

    Finding value in ourselves is very important! Thanking you for sharing this and encouraging others.


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