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“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

10 Tips: Cultivating An Attitude Of Gratitude & Thanksgiving

10 Tips: Cultivating An Attitude Of Gratitude & Thanksgiving

Want to be Happy? Be Grateful? Brother David Steindl-Rast

When you are grateful fear disappears and abundance appears. Anthony Robbin
In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. Anon
Thanksgiving Day is a jewel, to set in the hearts of honest men; but be careful that you do not take the day, and leave out the gratitude. E.P. Powell
No woman can control her destiny if she doesn’t give to herself as much as she gives of herself.  Suze Orman
In daily life we must learn that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy. Brother David Steindl-Rast

1. Begin each day with an expression of Thanks… Thank your body, your mind, your space, your Creator, all around you and all who you will be in contact with each day
2. Cultivate an attitude of giving thanks and giving back. Perform a random act of goodwill in thought, deed and action every day. A smile, a quiet prayer for someone else, a helping hand, a compliment, volunteering time, a gift, and even a call will help us help others.
3. Make a commitment to remember the grace in small things and to trust that disappointments are lessons
4. Be Present in your life and exchanges with others and see the grace in your interactions.

Today, I reached for an old copy of my Oprah Winfrey’s – O, The Oprah Magazine – from November 2014, on The Power Of Gratitude. I had kept it because it was rich with insightful articles and sharing on Gratitude and Thanksgiving. It got me thinking about what has buoyed my spirit these past few years as I struggled to move my life in a new direction. Sometimes, we forget that it’s the little things that get us going and help us make incremental leaps in our lives. So, in the spirit of Thanksgiving, I am sharing 10 tips that have served me well. Do we have bad, down days? Of course, it is part of our life experiences to have ups and downs, and the key is to reflect, respond, and release the stuff. When we take time to express our gratitude and give/share it to others, more of the grace that gratitude inspires will come knocking on our door. Above and below, I have shared 10 Tips to help us all cultivate a spirit of active gratitude.

When a house is on fire,
the vessel salvaged
is the one that will be of use,
not the one left there to burn.
So when the world is on fire
with aging and death,
one should salvage [one’s wealth] by giving:
what’s given is well salvaged. Buddha

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” Oprah Winfrey

10 Tips: Cultivating An Attitude Of Gratitude & Thanksgiving

10 Tips: Cultivating An Attitude Of Gratitude & Thanksgiving

10 Tips: Cultivating An Attitude Of Gratitude & Thanksgiving

10 Tips: Cultivating An Attitude Of Gratitude & Thanksgiving

Gratitude is our ability to see the grace of God, morning by morning, no matter what else greets us in the course of the day.  Craig Barnes
As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. John F. Kennedy
Gratitude is one of the sweet shortcuts to finding peace of mind and happiness inside. No matter what is going on outside of us, there’s always something we could be grateful for.  Barry Neil Kaufman
Gratitude is when memory is stored in the heart and not in the mind.  Lionel Hampton

5. Cultivate a spirit of forgiveness; Learn to forgive others, to let go of judgements, old hurts and slights
6. Be grateful for all the good that has crossed your path; the mentors, good Samaritans, friends, family and strangers
7. Maintain a journal and/or write a list of things you are grateful for each day. It could be 1-5 or more. Read: Oprah’s Gratitude Journal

In addition to the many vignettes shared in that November issue,  O, The Oprah Magazine, staffers asked a number of contributing writers/editors to fill in the blanks to a number of questions. The questions also gave me a chance to reflect and be reminded that we don’t journey through life alone. We all meet guides and helpers along the way; both good and bad ones. Instead of being resentful about our bad experiences, we must learn to forgive and move forward. By forgiving others, we forgive ourselves and release the hatred and anger we hold inside. Do you hold grudges or do you believe in forgive and forget? Remember: They are all teachers/teachings on the path to wisdom and growth and we must be grateful for all of our experiences. Variety is what makes life’s lessons richer. Here are the questions and you can answer them in the comments or write them in your journal.
A. I’ll never stop being grateful for…..
B. My favorite way to say Thank you is….
C. The best Thank you I’ve ever received was….
D. When I was a kid, I didn’t realize how grateful I should have been for….
Come back later for my answers

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“The real gift of gratitude is that the more grateful you are, the more present you become.” Robert Holden

10 Tips: Cultivating An Attitude Of Gratitude & Thanksgiving

10 Tips: Cultivating An Attitude Of Gratitude & Thanksgiving

10 Tips: Cultivating An Attitude Of Gratitude & Thanksgiving

10 Tips: Cultivating An Attitude Of Gratitude & Thanksgiving

Happiness cannot be far behind a grateful heart and a peaceful mind. Anon
Gratitude, like faith, is a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it grows, and the more power you have to use it on your behalf. If you do not practice gratefulness, its benefaction will go unnoticed, and your capacity to draw on its gifts will be diminished. To be grateful is to find blessings in everything, This is the most powerful attitude to adopt, for there are blessings in everything. Alan Cohen
Gratitude and complaining cannot coexist simultaneously. You must choose the one that best serves you. Hal Elrod
Wealth can also be that attitude of gratitude with which we remind ourselves everyday to count our blessings. Chris Gardner

8. Take stock of your struggles and successes; applaud your progress and forgive your missteps
9. What makes you happy? Are you where you want to be? Write it down and create a collage of your dreams/goals from old magazines and printouts.
10. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude by celebrating the life you have instead of waiting for the life you want. Celebrate the good and bad days, the ups and downs and the struggles that have sharpened your understanding and mellowed the fire in your belly. Celebrate!

The more we view our experiences as gifts, and express gratitude for them, the greater our chance of receiving more gifts of grace. Our actions and participation are important aspects of the work needed to create more of it. All we do in life, every action, thought, word, and belief we hold is part of an effort to connect with that joyful, happy place inside our being and an attitude of gratitude solidifies it all. Have a Happy Thanksgiving and Holiday Season!

“Sow a thought, and you reap an act;
Sow an act, and you reap a habit;
Sow a habit, and you reap a character;
Sow a character, and you reap a destiny.” Samuel Smiles

This post was also inspired by a prompt from WP Daily Post: I Can’t Stay Mad at You: Do you hold grudges or do you believe in forgive and forget?

Positive Motivation Tip:  Be Grateful for the breath you take and all you experience and say thank you!

PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: All Photos Copyrighted and from my Personal Collection

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

84 Comments leave one →
  1. Amanda permalink
    25/11/2015 3:04 pm

    I really wish people would spend more time thinking about all of the things they have to be grateful for all year round. I have so many things to be thankful for–family, friends, health, and happiness. Happy Thanksgiving!

    • 30/11/2015 10:31 am

      Yes, I wish the world and all its inhabitants would remember to say thanks for something every day… More Peace, Less War! <3

  2. Liz Mays permalink
    25/11/2015 3:58 pm

    These are really good ideas. Number 7 would be really helpful to keeping things in perspective and remaining humble.

  3. Chelley permalink
    25/11/2015 5:39 pm

    It is so important to be thankful and grateful all the time- that is for sure.

  4. Kristen Wilson permalink
    25/11/2015 6:10 pm

    I think it is great that so many people do the November days of thanks.. however I personally think we should be thankful more than just in November. This is a great post and a great reminder of the ways we can be thankful!

  5. Coupon Diva permalink
    25/11/2015 7:06 pm

    we all have a LOT to be thankful for in our lives 😀

  6. Krystal Miller permalink
    25/11/2015 9:20 pm

    I love the journal idea. I’m trying to appreciate and be thankful this season.

  7. Liz Mays permalink
    25/11/2015 9:27 pm

    I’m glad Thanksgiving lets us pause and say thank you. However, I hope we can all practice gratitude more often.

  8. 25/11/2015 9:52 pm

    I love the quote by Oprah Winfrey. We should be thankful for what we have and don’t expect too much of the things we’ve been praying for. You’ll be surprised that you’ll end up having more. Happy Thanksgiving Day Eliz! Hope you have a wonderful celebration.

  9. 25/11/2015 10:52 pm

    Have a very Happy Thanksgiving dear Eliz!

  10. michelle permalink
    25/11/2015 11:00 pm

    i love the idea of using experiences as gifts

  11. Ana De-Jesus permalink
    25/11/2015 11:26 pm

    I need to be grateful that I am better off than some people and appreciate that I have freedom of speech which others don’t.

  12. sheraw permalink
    25/11/2015 11:33 pm

    Wow,learning that happiness doesn’t make us grateful but that it’s gratefulness that makes us happy really connects things for me. When life seems to be gloomy,there is always something to be grateful for. I pray that I remember that and live in that state forever. Life is way to short not to. Thank you for your post.

  13. Yonca permalink
    25/11/2015 11:47 pm

    Inspiring post! Happy Thanksgiving!

  14. 25/11/2015 11:49 pm

    wonderful tips! i shared it on my wall. This is inspiring 🙂

  15. karlyn permalink
    26/11/2015 1:19 am

    Happy Thank Giving Day to all of such. Wish we are all had a happy day

  16. Fashionable Librarian permalink
    26/11/2015 1:31 am

    I cannot emphasize it enough how important it is to give thanks on a regular basis

  17. Eileen Mendoza Loya permalink
    26/11/2015 3:49 am

    As much as I would like to avoid it, but I still hold one – just one grudge against a person. I cannot find it in me to forgive him. He caused so much pain on me and my children that I wish I would never ever see even his shadow! This is what I pray for – that I learn to forgive and move on from a traumatic relationship in the past.

  18. deanna permalink
    26/11/2015 5:32 am

    Such great ways to show gratitude! Today I am grateful for time with my family.

  19. Nicole Herose Cochingco Escat permalink
    26/11/2015 7:28 am

    We should be thankful in all aspect of our lives. Happy Thanksgiving to all of you.

  20. Mandie permalink
    26/11/2015 9:50 am

    Great post! We are thankful each day but I love that the family all gets together today. Happy Thanksgiving!

  21. Ronnie Epsi permalink
    26/11/2015 9:59 am

    “Begin each day with an expression of Thanks’ – This was interesting for me to see and links to my spiritual beliefs as well. It’s an important aspect to Judaism to wake up every day in appreciation and thanks.

  22. mya.k permalink
    26/11/2015 11:01 am

    The candles look so cute.

  23. Angie Scheie permalink
    26/11/2015 11:42 am

    These are some great ways to cultivate gratitude on a daily basis. Great post!

  24. Shaylee Field permalink
    26/11/2015 12:50 pm

    I absolutely believe that being grateful will make you much happier! This is a wonderful post to help remind us of that 🙂

  25. Jessica Beal Harlow permalink
    26/11/2015 3:18 pm

    I like the idea of keeping a gratitude journal. It’s easy to forget all of the seemingly small blessings when there are negatives that can take over your mindset. A written acknowledgment of them does make a big difference.

  26. The *New* Classy permalink
    26/11/2015 4:00 pm

    This is a great post for Thanksgiving. I hope that you and your family had a great one.

  27. Fernando Ceballos Lachica permalink
    26/11/2015 4:52 pm

    It feels so great when everybody give thanks to the Lord for the blessings HE gave us all and for the future of mankind. Gratitude comes from within, and could be opened-up by the beating of the heart.

  28. Claudette Esterine permalink
    26/11/2015 5:26 pm

    Even when things are not the way I might have first thought, I remain grateful and I give thanks for the chance to improve my strength and turn things around.

  29. Mom Does It All permalink
    26/11/2015 11:24 pm

    These are such great tips! I have so much to be thankful for, I could never even write it all down!

  30. Sargas permalink
    27/11/2015 12:17 am

    You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you.

    Sarah Ban Breathnack – 🙂 love that wise words

  31. Miss Millennia Mag permalink
    27/11/2015 2:44 am

    Wow here some nice quotes and the quote I like the most is “No woman can control her destiny if she doesn’t give to herself as much as she gives of herself.” Suze Orman

  32. Rosey permalink
    27/11/2015 5:47 am

    My circumstances haven’t changed but my attitude has and my gratitude for life has been restored. I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving.

  33. Anna permalink
    27/11/2015 7:10 am

    As people celebrate Thanksgiving today, may we always be grateful for the blessings receive, for the friendships and experiences we have, they make us who we are today 🙂

  34. Franc Ramon permalink
    27/11/2015 7:33 am

    Happy Thanksgiving. I think it’s really great to start a day being thankful and cultivating that attitude for the rest of the day.

  35. sinyees permalink
    27/11/2015 8:02 am

    There is no any pratice or celebration of thanksgiving in my country. So I actually not really sure when is the thanksgiving day. Anyway, we should learn to appreciate what we have now and feeling thankful for everything happens in our life.

  36. Mia Foo permalink
    27/11/2015 8:25 am

    i think being grateful is something that should be so basic in life, and yet so difficult to achieve. i wonder where had we gone wrong, but education (or overly pampering parents?) seems to cultivate a wrong sense of self-entitlement in the younger generation. we seem to be taking many things for granted and it really time we make a change for the better.

  37. 27/11/2015 8:43 am

    Love the orange in this shots. So festive

  38. thedealmatchmaker permalink
    27/11/2015 9:23 am

    I agree.. always be thankful for everything! My mom told me to always be happy and I’ll get more

  39. Sunshine Kelly permalink
    27/11/2015 10:07 am

    Happy Thanksgiving Day, may you have a blessed year with your family. Thanks for the information to remind me.

  40. Onica permalink
    27/11/2015 6:16 pm

    There is always a lot of things to be thankful. Just always be glad on what you receive.

  41. Nova permalink
    27/11/2015 8:00 pm

    Like your article, i am also thankful for most of the things that I have, it might be materials as well as blessings in life.

  42. Shann permalink
    27/11/2015 9:03 pm

    Great tips on gratitude. Love those candle pictures too.

  43. Nicole Herose Cochingco Escat permalink
    28/11/2015 12:34 am

    These are true and great advice, yup, we need to let go hurt and forgive others. Happy Thanksgiving Day!

  44. Karla (Karla Around The World) permalink
    28/11/2015 4:04 am

    “Make a commitment to remember the grace in small things and to trust that disappointments are lessons” — Disappointments in life teaches how to appreciate the things we have, and makes us work even harder to get what we want. Thanks for another lesson!

  45. Lisa Rios permalink
    28/11/2015 5:29 am

    I think we must be thankful for everything that we are given with. When we look at people who are in a much worse position than us, then you know the value of being thankful to the Creator & keep moving on.

  46. Nicol permalink
    28/11/2015 5:45 am

    i like the colour scheme in this XD very autumnal! i’ve always wondered why thanksgiving was such a big thing over there. colleagues told me about it and now i know 😀

  47. Anna permalink
    28/11/2015 6:52 am

    I love these candles soothing, relaxing, and a symbol of an important celebration 🙂

  48. Fred permalink
    28/11/2015 6:55 am

    We should always be thankful for what blessings we have. Some people only see the faults in life and get miserable. All they need to do to be happy is to count their blessings and be thankful.

  49. Yvonne Bertoldo permalink
    28/11/2015 3:15 pm

    There are just so many things that we have to be grateful about. And celebrating a thanksgiving day is a great way for us to remember and thank the Lord and all the people that made something special just for you.

  50. Amber NElson permalink
    29/11/2015 3:35 pm

    I love that quote by Oprah. It is so true too.

  51. 29/11/2015 3:37 pm

    I am grateful for family and friends that support me daily thanks for sharing.

  52. Shann Eva permalink
    29/11/2015 4:56 pm

    I like those prompts from the magazine, and I think I will journal with them. Great ideas to show thanks.

  53. Yonca permalink
    29/11/2015 4:57 pm

    Very inspiring! I have goals but reaching them is not the only happiness for sure. Even I’m not there yet, I’m happy and thankful that I have a life, good health, family and hope!

  54. Yonca permalink
    29/11/2015 5:02 pm

    I’m not sure if my comment went through.
    Very inspiring! I’ve goal but it is not the only happiness. Even I’m not there yet, I’m happy and thankful that I’ve a life, good health, family and hope.

  55. michelle permalink
    29/11/2015 5:59 pm

    #3 is so beautiful! that one really spoke to me and i would really like to focus on remembering the grace in small things

  56. Adriana permalink
    29/11/2015 6:25 pm

    These candles and quotes are equally gorgeous!!! Thanks for sharing this inspiration! : )

  57. Terri Ramsey Beavers permalink
    29/11/2015 10:17 pm

    Some people are really Grinchy year round and I wish they’d read your post. I love your quotes which are perfect for your message.

  58. Victoria permalink
    30/11/2015 8:04 am

    These are some great tips. I especially agree with #1.


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