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Reflections: On Learning To Swim

25/05/2016

“Believe in yourself, not only in swimming, but in life itself. You always have to have fun. You have to have an open mind. If you’re not enjoying it, don’t do it. Life’s too short.” Debbie Meyer

Reflections: Learning To Swim - like fish in water?

Reflections: Learning To Swim – like fish in water?

Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn. Benjamin Franklin
Swimming is a confusing sport, because sometimes you do it for fun, and other times you do it to not die. And when I’m swimming, sometimes I’m not sure which one it is. Demetri Martin

Swimming Memories: Even though my earliest childhood memories of fun times include long days spent at the beach, I can’t, for the life of me, tell you why/if I didn’t learn how to swim as a child. Spending my early years in Clacton-on-Sea, a seaside town in the UK, meant that we spent many days running up and down on the beach, playing in water and paddling around in the kiddie pool.  Even when my family went home to Nigeria in West Africa, at some point, we lived near Bar Beach and could easily walk there to dip our toes in the ocean. We could kick back at the beach and enjoy watching the brave surf and swim out to meet a small boat or a friend. But swimming? Memories of it were always a bit of a blur.

So, when a college friend in the US told me or perhaps she just asked me this question: – Why don’t black people swim? – I was flabbergasted! WTF! “How many black people do you know and where did you learn that ridiculous stereotype?” I fired back at her. She was equally baffled by it as she admitted she’d heard the line for eons and could never bring it up in conversation. The comfort of our friendship allowed her to raise the question, and I’m glad she did because, even though I was rightfully pissed that an entire group was being labeled as non-swimmers, I couldn’t swim! At least, I had no memory of swimming in the ocean or swimming laps in a pool.

As we talked about it, I recalled a memory of being pushed into the deep end of a pool by a friend who thought it was a funny prank. The quick action of a life guard saved me from a watery end, and whatever talent for swimming I might have developed over the years was lost on that day. I think the phobia put any further interest in hanging out poolside to rest, and I retreated from the practice until this conversation arose out of the blue. Determined to put that stupid generalization to bed, I promised her I would one day learn to swim … Life went on, and soon we got busy with exams and the demands of college life.

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“Most of us, swimming against the tides of trouble the world knows nothing about, need only a bit of praise or encouragement – and we will make the goal.” Robert Collier

Reflections: Learning To Swim - like fish in water?

Reflections: Learning To Swim – like fish in water?

Being happy outside the pool means fast swimming in the pool. Eric Shanteau
There is no end to education. It is not that you read a book, pass an examination, and finish with education. The whole of life, from the moment you are born to the moment you die, is a process of learning. Jiddu Krishnamurti

Fast forward to many years later: I’m married with twins and the local Y is offering a special class for adult swimmers and even a family swim-time class. Out of the recesses of my buried conversations about swimming, a light bulb flickered on, and I remembered the promise I had made to my friend and myself, and I decided it was time to learn how to swim. I must admit that my motivation had less to do with the benefits of swimming and the possibility of saving myself in the event of a boating event; it had more to do with stabbing a stereotype in the eye and proving yet again that generalizations are stupid at best… “Yeah, whatever!” you might add. But, I had to do it. I signed up for the family swim group, and simultaneously jumped right in to sign up for the adult swim class. Then, I panicked!

If Pigs can Swim, So Can I: But wait, as I considered the source of my anxiety, a funny thought popped into my head: If pigs can swim then so can I! An image of a pig swimming away in a pool made me laugh out loud and buoyed my spirit as I set off to my first lesson still a tad terrified. What bothered me about the whole thing wasn’t quite clear. I stepped into the warm pool wearing my new one piece swimsuit; I was surrounded by about 10-12 non-swimming adults, I wore a swim-cap on my head to protect my hair and we were all tossed colorful plastic life-rings to help us stay buoyant. I held unto mine for dear life. The class routine was simple and safe. We practiced kicks, hand movements and floating with our life savers. The first day was a cinch and I went home convinced that all was well with the world, and soon I’d be swimming with the sharks… Oops! perhaps swimming like one is a better analogy!

The next lesson went well until the teacher told us to let go of the pool’s ledge and submerge our heads under water. I told her I couldn’t do it because letting go meant … well, letting go of my life in the pool! She assured me all will be well but, I wasn’t convinced. That class ended on a sour note. The next time I tried a little and then again the following week. It took another week to let go and something kicked in. Call it self-preservation or a survival instinct because before I knew it, I was kicking away and found I had made my way halfway across the pool. Just as I marveled at my effort, a thought popped in my head and gbam! I was sinking to the bottom. This went on for a few more weeks and when the class and season ended, I was just on the verge of really getting into the groove of swimming

Can I swim? It depends… Writing this post has reminded me that I need to get back in that pool this summer and wash away the remnants of that original fear. The class is a long forgotten memory but, I bet my body will remember what to do. How about you? What skill have you wrestled with? Did you conquer it or give up? Don’t give up!

This post was inspired by a WordPress Prompt:  Discover Challenge: Learning –  For this week’s challenge, share a story (in whatever medium, format, or genre you choose) about learning something new. What were you trying to accomplish? Was it a success or a flop? Has that knowledge stayed with you, or is it buried deep in your brain’s dusty attic?   To help other participants find your response in the Reader, tag your post with #DiscoverWP.

Positive Motivation Tip:  Take a chance and learn something new… at least, you’ll have a story to share. 🙂

PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: All Photos : Learning & Swimming  via Pixabay and/or via Wikipedia

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

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37 Comments leave one →
  1. momknowsbest15 permalink
    26/05/2016 9:31 pm

    I remember my summers at the pool. The beach was a treat as it was further away.

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  2. Claire Algarme permalink
    26/05/2016 10:00 pm

    I never took any swimming lessons. But being in an archipelago where water is more abundant than land, I eventually learned how to do my moves, albeit not the technical way. I still cannot hold my breath for long, that’s my issue now, but at least I can float and can paddle my way back to shore. But you’re right, it’s also about being confident in oneself – to let go and to allow the water to bouy you.

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  3. Nicole Haas Etolen permalink
    27/05/2016 1:12 am

    Swimming is a very nice adventure. You are going to love it when you try it!

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  4. tp keane permalink
    27/05/2016 7:47 am

    ha ha ha, if pigs can swim so can I. You’re right, of course, I just love that. Kudos to you for learning to swim.

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  5. pjkuhn permalink
    27/05/2016 1:19 pm

    I learned to swim when I was in my 20s. We taught our girls because it’s a great safety practice. Now my grandchildren swim like fish.

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  6. Agnes Dela Cruz permalink
    27/05/2016 6:10 pm

    I enrolled my daughter in swimming lessons and she is almost done with the 10 day course. I will let her continue to learn even school starts.

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  7. sparkofsouthernmoms permalink
    27/05/2016 6:25 pm

    I can not swim…literally. Swimming as far as a reflection in life, yes. You have to tread water at least to make it through life and swim when you have reached your goals.

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  8. Lisa Rios permalink
    27/05/2016 8:05 pm

    The Debbie Meyer’s quote is just awesome to start with how you can relate swimming to our life. Life is all about having fun, staying with positive energy & believing in yourself to reach the goal you have set. Thanks for inspiring.

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  9. Nova permalink
    27/05/2016 8:32 pm

    perfect article for our plan with our 6 year old son, we want him to learn how to swim because it’s more important for kids not to drown when they get closer to water.

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  10. Shannon Peterson permalink
    28/05/2016 12:10 am

    We are actually doing swim lessons with my son right now! It’s scarier for me than him!

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  11. Rebecca Swenor permalink
    28/05/2016 12:19 am

    Swimming is something I have never learned but I can stay above water. I learned to doggie paddle and move my arms along with legs to stay above water. It is never an opinion to give up anything without trying your best first. Thanks for sharing your story.

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  12. Bhushavali permalink
    28/05/2016 2:20 am

    I’m disgusted at myself in the fact that I still don’t know swimming. I have to learn. It’s so damn necessary!!

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  13. Ana De Jesus permalink
    28/05/2016 3:22 am

    That is the most stupidest stereotype I have ever heard, your race doesn’t determine whether you can swim or not but like I learnt late!

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  14. JessicaACassidy (@wifetoalineman) permalink
    28/05/2016 4:44 am

    I remember I was 7 years old when I first learned how to swim. It was in the river.

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  15. Nicole Escat permalink
    28/05/2016 8:29 am

    Involve me and I learn. -Benjamin Franklin, I like this saying. Yes, it is easy to learn as long as someone involves you in learning. Don’t be afraid to discover new things!

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  16. Rosey permalink
    28/05/2016 11:55 am

    My youngest just learned last summer. We were up north so he didn’t get to swim much. I did put him in several swimming courses but none of them worked because he wasn’t ready. He came down here to Florida, and his older brother taught him in a week. 🙂

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  17. Alfonzowords permalink
    28/05/2016 2:47 pm

    I don’t know how you do it, but week after week you inspire me! brilliant post. I was absolutely captivated, Keep rocking your brand of awesomeness!

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  18. Jay Simms permalink
    28/05/2016 7:47 pm

    This is such a great read. I think this could apply to more than just swimming

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  19. 28/05/2016 11:57 pm

    I laughed because I’ve heard that so much before, that black people can’t swim. I’m one of them even though I grew up in the Caribbean, but it’s such a stereotype though, just like saying we love chicken and watermelon. 😀

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