Most of us grew up with the warning to hold our tongue if we had nothing good/better to say. Aside from those with foot in mouth issues (you know, the blabber mouths), most of us think before we speak most of the time. So when I read this prompt, it made me laugh out loud because while it’s healthy to be forthright, it’s somewhat dangerous to let it all hang out; especially those bad and ugly thoughts that fleet through our minds on a daily basis. What thoughts do we share? Which do we hold back and why?
#Trust30 is an online initiative and 30-day writing challenge. The #Trust30 Prompt: Imagine your future self, ie, you 10 years from now. If he/she were to send you a tweet or text message, 1) what would it say and 2) how would that transform your life or change something you’re doing, thinking, believing or saying today?
Take for instance this suggestion from Seth Godin (a bonus question for continuing the #Trust30 challenge): Find something that happened on the day and date you were born. Write about it. This is a perfectly fine topic, however, my initial reaction was: “Why would I want to do that? Do I really want to share that much? Em, no.” Someone else reading it might think, “What a lame response, write or don’t, no need to discuss it.” but then, they say something different as a comment. We self censor daily, not just because we don’t want to hurt others feelings or that we might be afraid, but also because we change our minds or choose to focus our energies elsewhere. What do you think about the story below? 😉
Recovering Thinker by Bill
It started out innocently enough. I began to think at parties now and then to loosen up. Inevitably though, one thought led to another, and soon I was more than just a social thinker.
I began to think alone – “to relax,” I told myself – but I knew it wasn’t true. Thinking became more and more important to me, and finally I was thinking all the time.
I began to think on the job. I knew that thinking and employment don’t mix, but I couldn’t stop myself. I began to avoid friends at lunchtime so I could read writings of Plato, Saint Augustine of Hippo, Jesus Christ, and Aristotle. I would return to the office dizzied and confused, asking, “What is it exactly we are doing here?”
Things weren’t going so great at home either. One evening I had turned off the TV and asked my wife about the meaning of life. She spent that night at her mother’s.
I soon had a reputation as a heavy thinker. One day the boss called me in. He said, “Skippy, I like you, and it hurts me to say this, but your thinking has become a real problem. If you don’t stop thinking on the job, you’ll have to find another job.” This gave me a lot to think about… Read the rest
There are times to speak boldly and act on our words and times to be contemplative; or mindful. When we have a vision for our lives and want to commit to a purpose fully, we must speak our mind and do so with clarity and boldness. Even if we change our minds the next day, we must still infuse our words with energy. If I were to send a tweet to my bolder self, it would simply say; Be true to yourself; Stay true to your purpose. How will it transform/change my life? More than anything, it will help me stay focused… and that is a good thing.
Above is a funny story about social conformity and how others react to our thoughts. I’ve added a link so you can read the rest of the story. What does the story really tell us about speaking what we think? Is there a lesson there?
“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
In case you are wondering, as you read this post, what does one part of a post have to do with the other…? My post is about speaking what we think today and I choose the second prompt because for once, I wanted to not feel tied down by rigid expectations of how a post should start and end… Since we are all works in progress, I liked the idea of a post that started one way, meandered through another and then finished on yet another note.
To make today worthwhile, in my mind, I chose to make a post that fit what I was thinking; create a post with minimal rules, exploring a topic of interest, while avoiding the usual blog format or correctness. What do you think? Are there times you just want to process a thought without the usual packaging? Do you always feel compelled to conform and why? Do Share. Thank you! 🙂
This post was inspired by two prompts from RalphWaldoEmerson.me: Imagine your future self, ie, you 10 years from now. If he/she were to send you a tweet or text message, 1) what would it say and 2) how would that transform your life or change something you’re doing, thinking, believing or saying today? and RalphWaldoEmerson.me: What is one thing you can do that would make today worthwhile? What’s stopping you from getting started right now?
Positive Motivation Tip: Speak what you think, create what you wish, with or without moderation… and then stand by it.