“Dreams are like stars…you may never touch them, but if you follow them they will lead you to your destiny.” Anon
Why are some people considered lucky and others unlucky? Why do some people achieve phenomenal success while others struggle to make ends meet? What determines whose dreams gets realized and whose doesn’t? If you had ten people in a room and posed these questions, you’d probably get ten different answers … therein lies the mystery of destiny, dreams, and good old karma. The answer is not so simple as “do the work and the rest will follow…” Sure, working hard is honorable but, sometimes nothing follows but more work. Why? Ponder the anecdotal story below to help us understand the workings of the path to dreams and destiny.
A woman walks into a dealership to buy a car. She has driven by the dealership many times before and has fallen in love with a particular model and color. An enthusiastic salesman approaches her and goes through the drill; they talk numbers, expectations, and even go for a test drive. They return to the office and the lady is waiting for the next move. The salesman invites her to take her time and wishes her a lovely day. He assumes she’ll let him know when she’s ready. She nods her head and leaves… surprised. Why? He never asks for the sale. He doesn’t close the deal. She won’t be going back. I know this because she told me the story of how she bought her second car… somewhere else.
What happened to the car salesman goal for the month? Perhaps we don’t ask for what we want because we are afraid of rejection. But, how would you fulfill your destiny if you keep your mouth shut and your hands tied behind your back? Perhaps, we don’t ask because we don’t believe we’d get?
“I can’t control my destiny, I trust my soul, my only goal is just to be. There’s only now, there’s only here. Give in to love or live in fear. No other path, no other way. No day but today.” Johnathan Larson
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” Anon
So what really determines how or when we achieve our dreams? Kismet? Destiny? Determination? Karma? Our thoughts not sabotaging our dreams? Timing and luck? Asking for help and believing you’ll get it? Our choices? I’m inclined to say that we need elements of all of the above because it takes more than hard work, free will, or even determinism to realize our dreams. Does everything happen for a reason or do our actions and thoughts simply bear fruit – as an expected outcome? Our emotional quotient and character play a hand in realizing our dreams and, of course, whether we like it or not, there is something to be said about luck; good old luck! Some believe that when we make extra effort, we enter the zone and then serendipity produces what we call luck. Luck is what some refer to as being at the right place at the right time. Maybe. X followed the exact steps as Y. X found success while Y languished. Why? What do you think?
“Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe.” Gail Devers
I love reading autobiographies because we can follow the genesis of a human story from the earliest memories to where the individual decides to stop the story in the book. Many stop at a peak point; a moment of realization that the dream they held dear or never expected has come to roost. Each story is different; each person has come to their achievement with a different set of obstacles/challenges … and some never planned or expected their life to unfold the way it did. Hard work is constantly bandied around as the magic pill for success but, it is not a given. There are people who give their all to their dreams and have the talent to boot, but then life happens and they never realize their dreams. Sometimes, they are diverted elsewhere. Sometimes, they end up nowhere. Why? What causes that to happen? I agree with Gail that all things are possible if we believe … Possible? Yes. Probable? No. If our goals are realistic and we act with courage to accomplish them, the chances are greater that we might succeed but, who knows, as there are no guarantees.
“It’s choice–not chance–that determines your destiny.” Jean Nidetch
Jean Nidetch is the founder of Weight Watchers and her story underscores the idea that success comes because we prepare, plan and follow a course of action. There is more… Jean needed to lose some weight and followed a regimen offered through the NYC Board of Health. After losing some weight and finding herself tempted to go back to her old eating habits, she pulled a group of friends together to support one another and it grew from there. How many have started support groups that didn’t grow beyond the original group? Did Jean have a vision of a worldwide organization? She made a choice to lose weight and it shaped her destiny but is that everyone’s story? Nope. Sometimes, I wonder that perhaps some are called to serve in a global capacity whilst others work behind the scenes. Yet another group might have neither the inclination nor the drive to achieve, and that is the choice we make too. No?
“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped” Anthony Robbins
If you’ve read Anthony Robbin’s story, you know what led him to turn his life around and create the successful company he now runs. He followed his decision to end the pity party and get back in top form and, it paid off. We can all make that commitment to honor our higher self and end up … somewhere else? One thing I know for sure is that on our journey to meet our successful self, we must agree to change. Our agreement is vital. The elders in my father’s village had a popular saying; Onye kwe, Chinya ekwee – “When you agree, your destiny, your Creator, your guides also rally to agree… then success comes.”
Today, a friend sent me a sermon from Rick Warren and it’s titled God Has a Plan for Your Life. The essence of it is that we are destined to run a particular race set out for us, not the one we imagined or that others imagined for us… A quote from the sermon says. “God doesn’t want rabbits to fly and eagles to swim. They are shaped to do what they are supposed to do,and you are shaped to do what God wants you to do.” Who decides? You? God as mystical destiny? Both? I can live with that… What are your thoughts? Do you believe in destiny or self-determination or both? What is guiding your life and your dreams? Do you expect to achieve your dreams/goals? Do share! Thank you. 😉
This post was inspired by a prompt from WP Daily Post: Why do some people’s dreams get realized and others don’t?
Positive Motivation Tip: What you believe you become. What you dream, you might touch. What is destined, will meet you somewhere … someday.
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