“Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” Don Miguel Ruiz
I’ve been meaning to write on another Daily Post prompt that caught my eye because I love the idea of the unexpected; a word or sentence you find at random that slowly yields its message or meaning to us. The prompt was to grab a sentence from the nearest book and develop a post as below. I picked up the book Lean Forward Into Your Life by Mary Anne Radmacher and The River of Life poem was referenced in the sentence. The key point of the poem was that regardless of our attitude or response to events around us, the river of life continues to flow and it is not stopped by our reactions or decisions. The river flows on; carrying us all forward to meet our individual and collective fate. Life is about kismet. We can choose the positive or we can linger, deny or choose to stay angry or sad; the river carries on.
The specific chapter I opened in the book was about not taking things so personally and going with the flow of life. When someone inadvertently offends you, resolve it, discuss it and move on. If we choose to say nothing, then, we shouldn’t hold it against the person, nor use the old passive/aggressive approach as it serves no purpose but to keep us tied to the hurt. Move on…
If feasible, we should find an amicable recourse and if that fails, get on with our life and plans. Sometimes, we hold onto situations and fixate on the woulda/coulda/shoulda as if that would change things. We are better off looking for concrete solutions; once we are sure our perceptions are accurate. Time, like life, is short; an outburst isn’t always about us. Let’s move forward, washing off the imagined and even real hurts in the flowing river… Do we hold grudges or resolve conflicts? It is our choice.
The Assignment: Grab the nearest book (or website) to you right now. Jump to paragraph 3, second Sentence. Write it in a post.
The Book: Lean Forward Into Your Life by Mary Anne Radmacher
The Spot: Paragraph 3, (sorry it’s one sentence).
Write It: ‘My friend, Jonathan Huie, expresses the sense of ” don’t take it personally” in his poem.’ The River of Life.’
Come back soon as I will post the excerpt on the poem. Update -Poem & More below! 🙂
The River of Life by Jonathan Huie (excerpted)
The River of Life flows without emotion
The River surges. The River quiets.
The River overflows its banks. The River dries to a trickle.
The River swirls and storms. The River becomes calm.
The River runs clear. The River runs dark.
The River is indifferent to what benefit or what harm is caused by its water.
The River is the River, and that is all there is to it.
The River of Life knows no obstacles.
The River can cut through solid rock – in its own time.
The River of Life is not powerful – and it is not weak.
The River of Life is not gentle – and it is not strong or rough
The River of Life is not deep or shallow.
The River of Life is not nourishing or punishing.
The River of Life is simply the River of Life.
The River of Life just IS. There is no more to it.
One can flow harmoniously wit the River – or one can struggle fearfully against the river – and the River just flows.
One can accept the River – or one can deny the River – and the River just flows.
One can worship the River of Life – or one can curse the River of Life – and the River just flows.
I choose to flow with the River of Life. Jonathan Huie (2003 – inspired by Byron Katie‘s School for the Work)
If we reflect on a time when someone said something to us that seemed outrageous, we probably learned a great lesson; it was not our reality but the projections of the other. We can choose to be like the river and just flow on, washing away the negative stuff and all that comes with it. We can wallow in the pain and get stuck, pointlessly, in the mud. Don’t waste your precious time. Flow on…
Do you give others the benefit of the doubt? How do you handle situations when you are inadvertently offended? Is any situation worth expending extra energy? How? Why? Do share your thoughts, opinions, comments!
Positive Motivation Tip: Go with the flow of life, it moves on regardless of your views.
- Hopi Elder quote: (lachristagreco.com)
- Flowing Toward Our Future, Three Rivers of Cleveland (tibbee.wordpress.com)
PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: Photo of flowing river via Patagonia.com