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The Golden Rule: Who You Callin’ Doormat?

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“Here certainly is the golden maxim: Do not do to others that which we do not want them to do to us.” Confucius (551–479 B.C.)

The Golden Rule: The Good Samaritan Understood it…

The Golden Rule: Who Are You Calling A Doormat and Other News…
There’s baloney and then there’s total BS; what’s the difference? I don’t know or care… What I do know is that on any given day, we get to choose our mood and how we want to respond to situations and those in it. No one can define us unless we give them permission. We get to choose what products we buy, what information we digest, who we respond to, who we ignore, and who, given the opportunity, we’d like to smack down tell off.  The Golden rule says treat others as you would like to be treated but, for some, it’s treat me as golden and then talk to the hand. Well, fershtinkiner fancy You!

Persto et Praesto – Stand Through & Stand Above – Stowe’s motto Ta! Hugh 🙂
Sure, this is motivational. It’s called the tough love stuff and some can handle it and others can’t, but it doesn’t change the facts or the fiction that comes with it… What  is she talking about you might wonder? I saw an incident in a store that gave me pause. A woman was being called all sorts of names by her partner/boyfriend/hubby/abuser. It was painful to watch and I wanted to leap in and put a stop to it. There is no need for a public discourse of a conversation that shold be held in private. No one should allow another to call them stupid pet names; even in jest.  So, call it a vent, a kvetch, or an eye opener; the point I’m trying to make is:  don’t let ANYONE treat you like a doormat ever…

Don’t even crack that door because you know the saying; act like a doormat, get treated like one. Don’t like the rules? Consider this option – The Silver Rule:  How about ‘show reciprocity: never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself? Love yourself, treat others fairly, skip the fakers and the backbiting, snarky haters and live your life because, hey — You’re it!

OTHER IMPORTANT NEWS: Tiger Mom, Unrest in Egypt, Oscars & More below…
“Declare the past, diagnose the present, foretell the future; practice these acts. As to diseases, make a habit of two things — to help, or at least to do no harm.” Hippocrates from Hippocratic Oath

The Golden Rule applies: no matter how you fly…

Now for other news around the circuit:
Battle Hymn of the Tiger MotherAmy Chua’s controversial essay, Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior, in the Wall St Journal brought a lot of buzz to the airwaves over the last 10 days or so.
Part of the problem was the way the WSJ and other media chose to misconstrue her story by making it into a comparison of who had better ways of child rearing… For starters, she didn’t write or choose that essay title…
Quite frankly, what Amy was describing is what many would call a traditional/old fashioned way of child-rearing… It’s the way many in my generation were raised and we are quite devilish decent people. TY! 🙂
The way I was raised is quite different from the way I am raising my kids and I had to shut out all the noise so I could, at least, find a way to understand Amy’s point of view with some objectivity.
As a parent, while I might not use her approach, she has said it is not a parenting manual but a memoir, I believe she is entitled to write about her child-rearing techniques and the challenges she had implementing them, and we should let her be. Honestly, the vitriol lobbed at her has been completely unnecessary… but some people can’t find other ways to express their objections. What’s your view?

The unrest in Egypt is of grave concern for all who care about liberty and democracy. President Hosni Mubarak’s 30 year rule is in question and a peaceful resolution is imperative. Egypt has been an ally to the USA, a torch bearer for civility for many years, and a truly beautiful country with good hardworking people. My prayer is that the siege will end and order will be restored. Let’s stay tuned with the unfolding of this difficult situation.

The untimely death of Uche Okafor, top footballer for the Super Eagles and other teams and an ESPN analyst, has given many in the Nigerian community in Dallas, much concern. The most recent and disturbing report is that his passing might in fact be a homicide and the FBI is investigating further. Our deepest condolences go out to his family and friends. May his life be vindicated and the perpetrators found.

Today is the 25th Anniversary of the Space Shuttle Challenger Tragedy in which 7 astronauts including a civilian teacher, Christa McAuliffe, lost their lives on the space shuttle that exploded and crashed back to earth soon after takeoff. It was a tragic and surreal experience for all who watched the scene unfold that memorable day in Cape Canaveral, Fl. Our hearts go out again to their loved ones.

Up and coming blogger, Fonzie-Was-Six-Four, gives us a tell-it-like-it-is review of the recent Oscar nominations. The best picture nominees made me wonder if we could have “A Social Network “ as a trending topic for Best Picture winner on Twitter? Hmmm 🙂
• Black Swan
• The Fighter
• Inception
• The Kids Are All Right
• The King’s Speech
• 127 Hours
• The Social Network
• Toy Story 3
• True Grit
• Winter’s Bone

What else is news? Do Tell!

Positive Motivation Tip: Stand tall and own your stuff; live your life or get out of the way…

PHOTO CREDITS: The Good Samaritan by Vincent Van Gogh via Wikipedia
The Golden Rule Poster via Scarboro Missions

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

11 Comments leave one →
  1. 29/01/2011 12:07 am

    Really like the silver rule. Especially the ignore bit…those people do my head in.

  2. 29/01/2011 12:17 am

    Interesting post — and oh boy do you cover a lot of topics here. I like the golden rule poster. And I agree with you on the tiger mother; tho the media coverage has made her so unappealing, I saw her interviewed on tv and thought she was articulate and interesting, and made it clear that this is her own story, not a guidebook.

  3. 29/01/2011 1:32 am

    about AMY CHUA:
    vs. her eldest child she has been rude; the youngest made a rebellion, threw away that silly violin and played tennis: so the mother learned that it is important not be only dominant. education is dialog!

  4. 29/01/2011 7:09 am

    I totally agree that we must treat others as we treat ourselves…therefore we need to ensure that we treat ourselves well. How many lovely people do we know who spend their lives doing great things for others and never get any thanks, or get taken advantage of?

    This is because they aren’t truly valuing themselves in the first instance – before reaching out to help another. They crave validation for their good works, but on one level they don’t believe they deserve it so they just continue to allow themselves to be a doormat and the resentment builds -ultimately making them sick – and they are no longer able to help others.

    Great post – thank you.

    • 29/01/2011 7:32 am

      Thank you Julie, It is so true that we all know good people with honest intentions helping others who neither care nor reciprocate. It does come down to self love. if you value yourself then you draw the line in the sand. The good thing about it is that when one does, the takers ( sirens) flee and the real step up to the plate. Ta! 🙂 Eliz

  5. 29/01/2011 10:26 am

    I happen to come across a snip-it about compassion on tv just last night, in short what caught my attention were these few words “compassion should be given not earned”, simple words, right?, but powerful. My first thought was…wow…how sad that so many people are still in need of learning this lesson. Quoting Confucius, “Do not do to others that which we do not want them to do to us.” I find myself having this conversation with my school aged daughter almost daily. It amazes us both how some children and parents behave towards one another, not a care in the world who may be watching or listening, (especially when it comes to children). I can’t help but think it starts in the home…same can be said for the Tiger Mom story, “we get to choose our mood and how we want to respond to situations and those in it”. We come from many backgrounds that shape us as individuals, our views on how we choose to live our lives and share with the people in it in the end is up to us. Same with child rearing, child rearing as we parents define it is different in every home, what may seem wrong or poor parenting skills to some may just be it right for others. Who are we to say what’s best in the lives of others.
    Sorry, didn’t mean to go on an on…Thanks for letting me share.
    Great post!

  6. 29/01/2011 10:45 am

    Me thinks you had a bee in your bonnet! Interesting pot pouri of rants you have there. Well you know me, I’ll throw my opinion out on just about anything so… I think I like the Tiger Mom way better than the Helicopter Mom way.
    As for Egypt, it struck me, while watching the news last night, that social networking could actually help bring democracy to the world simply by bringing the world together. The aging dictators (call it what it is) have no clue that they cannot just force their will on everyone and wall them away. It’s too late for that now, and if they don’t begin to understand it they will be gone. Not a bad thing!
    Thanks for throwing the bee into my bonnet! ;))

  7. 29/01/2011 10:56 am

    More news…robotics and technology! Did you know some scientists are predicting eternal life! Where is God in the future is my question. I am amazed at the current advancements and the ones in the making, but lets practice moral and spiritual responsibility in the process.

  8. 29/01/2011 3:19 pm

    Interesting array of topics! I so vividly remember the Challenger tragedy – I was an astronaut wannabe who even went to adult Space Camp – that’s how bad I had it :o) Nice chart showing how the Golden Rule is a common tenet of many faiths.

  9. 29/01/2011 9:36 pm

    Well I’m sure you saw my Tiger Mother post from earlier this week so I won’t delve into it here 🙂

    The point about the doormat stood out to me. I don’t carry myself as a doormat or a pushover, and I don’t understand people who don’t stand up for themselves! So many times it’s like I just want to shake them and go C’mon!! Don’t let yourself be treated that way!

  10. 30/01/2011 5:52 pm

    thank you, no doormats allowed!

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