Lately, I’ve been thinking of ways to balance and/or integrate the demands on my life and time. Most of us start out with good intentions to accomplish our goals and then life happens. So what do we do? Something, I presume, we’ve all learned from experience is that when we create a realistic schedule for ourselves, we are less inclined to feel rushed or stressed than when we just take on projects and let events happen to us. Sure, creating a work/life balance remains a constant concern for most people. However, before we create a plan to make our lives less hectic and more balanced, it is imperative that we ask ourselves three fundamental questions: Intention – What do I want to accomplish with my life now? Purpose – Why does it matter? and Plan – What must I do to achieve my plan?
“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.” Thomas Merton
Sometimes, we look at other people and their lifestyles, and wish we could have same. But the reality is that our lives are different, and each individual is here or called for different goals. If we stop to think back to our childhood days and the things that gave us much joy or, at least, some joy, we can act with intention as we map out a plan that is both realistic and beneficial to our lives. We must look at our current circumstances and ask ourselves the question: What do I want to accomplish with my life now?
Another important thing to consider once we ask the question is how we use our time; to take a look at our personal clock. When are we most alert? Are you a morning person or a nocturnal soul? When do you do your best work and can you create a schedule that fits your personal inner clock? Is this feasible in your work environment? How can you find ways to maximize your effectiveness during your alert time? All of these questions demand that we spend some time observing and evaluating what we do at certain times and when we are at our most productive.
“For me, it’s important to be in balance. To not let fear get in the way of things, to not worry so much about protecting yourself all the time.” John Frusciante
There is something to be said for the European midday nap-time because it gives everyone a chance to regroup and refresh the mind. When we make time to rest and regroup, we are able to look at our day and separate the important things from the minutiae. We get to ask again – Why does this event/project/assignment matter? Meditation; both seated and walking forms can give us another way to refresh our minds during the day. Prayer is another way we calm our mind and refocus our intentions. Exercise helps rejuvenate our bodies and our spirits and is recommended too. More Below.
“There’s always more demands than there’s time to meet them, so it’s constantly a matter of trying to balance them.” Marc Andreessen
When my kids were younger, we created a schedule for them that included nap-time, mealtime and outside activities. The schedule allowed pockets of time when I could have Me Time to focus on myself and the things I needed to do for work. It varied from day to day but always included prayer/meditation time so I could regroup and rest. Regardless of the goals we have, it is important to create a schedule or a daily plan that includes some time for reflection in our daily schedule of activities. Why? Our creative, intuitive side is enhanced when we give ourselves time to regroup and resolve or find solutions to issues.
“Everyone spends their lives trying to balance their world between good and evil.” Laurell K. Hamilton
Every day, I am reminded that the need for balance begins in our heart and mind, flows through our actions, and then flows back to the place of peace within. Making the time to be quiet and reflect on what remains to be completed ahead of us, allows us to adjust our schedule if needed and then focus on the things that truly matter. What about you? What are your thoughts? What do you do to create balance in your life?? What stands in the way of your efforts? Do you believe we humans can live balanced lives? Do share! Thank you.
This post was modified from another entry I wrote on my Positive Kismet blog.
Positive Motivation Tip: In the midst of a hectic day, pause, catch your bretah and revisit your intention for the day…
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