How/When to Avoid Making Eye Contact: ♥When dressed as a clown – wear dark glasses or look down. Some people are deathly scared of clowns.
♥Apparently, Cats don’t like being looked at – Sneer instead or wink at them. Let them do the staring and save you the hassle. My cat has it down.
♥If you’re feeling anxious, mad or sad – stay away from the source of pain
It’s common knowledge that eye contact is an important part of communication. We make eye contact to establish trust, familiarity, confidence and even friendship with others. Some use eye contact to intimidate or stare down an opponent. For a shy person, making eye contact can be a challenge because it’s uncomfortable for some of us to look directly into the eyes of other people; especially the eyes of strangers. With some effort, we can learn to look without feeling terrified.
“If you go flying back through time, and you see somebody else flying forward into the future, it’s probably best to avoid eye contact” Jack Handy
How/When to Avoid Making Eye Contact: ♥While wearing Google Glass… Just say “okay glass,” and it takes care of everything – no eye contact needed. ♥When Sitting in a stall or using a urinal at a public bathroom, it is definitely not a time to stare – feel free to close your eyes.
♥Watching your favorite TV character in a drunken moment demands averted eyes – feel his pain with eyes cast asunder.
When I researched the topic online, there were lots of articles on how to make effective eye contact, articles on cultures that don’t encourage direct eye contact out of respect, and on the benefits of looking directly at others when we speak. For this post on “How To do something,” I decided to take the path of humor which is always a great way to break the ice. Some of the suggestions are true and others are tongue in cheek.
“I’m hopeless at small talk and have a problem making eye contact.” Gary Numan
How/When to Avoid Making Eye Contact: ♥When telling a lie, the eyes will give you away unless you’re a seasoned pathological liar – best to avert the gaze of another when fibbing.
♥When eating a banana or a lollipop, keep your eyes to yourself – don’t ask me why, do the math.
♥If you’re feeling insecure or down on yourself, avoid eye contact especially with manipulative types – they know the look and feed off it. Take a De-stress ride.
I found it quite interesting reading some of the articles on making eye contact. There is an impressive body of work with great insights on the subject. A Google search gave me about 539,000,000 results and I’ve added some links in the post. More below!
“If there’s anybody that you suspect, you can just say ‘Hi, can I help you?’ and keep their eye contact a little bit longer and smile in a creepy way.” Kevin Ryan
How/When to Avoid Making Eye Contact: ♥If you’re feeling full of yourself and are tempted to look at others with disdain, don’t – Take a chill pill and regroup.
♥If you’re having a narcissistic moment and have the urge to talk to yourself in a mirror, don’t – Resist the urge and go read a book or turn on the telly.
It’s interesting that despite the reports that show the power of eye contact in professional settings, I’ve heard/read that some bosses, and those who see themselves as superior to their staff or subordinates might feel justified in not looking at their staff or look down at them. I haven’t had such experience with bosses so it might be an anomaly.
“Certainly, being aware of what your own body language is — not showing intimidation, making eye contact, leaning forward — shows that you’re interested and want to say something.” Richard Frankel
How/When to Avoid Making Eye Contact: ♥If you’re feeling confident with a touch of snarky, and are ready to bust some chops, stop. Ramp the meanness down and remember the golden rule. Smile, shake hands and
crush hug the person.
♥If you’ve had some time to travel and feel worldly, avoid eye contact at all costs when those two uninformed %&%#*&!! ask you if you enjoyed your time in the bush with Tigers in the capital of Africa. – Smile, look away, and wistfully inform them that Africa is a continent and the city you visited had a zoo.
Naturally, if you visit any of the cultures that consider it taboo to look others directly in eye, don’t worry about making eye contact … nobody is looking. When do you look away?
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Positive Motivation Tip: Humor in all things can help ease our fears about connecting with others… Relax!
PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: All Photos: Clown, Pinocchio, Bananas, Google glass, Kitty, Parent pride, wooden time, public toilets, Pride,via Wikipedia All my Someecards designed by Moi at someecards.com
- The Lost Art of Eye Contact (inc.com)
- Looking People in the Eye (balteri84.wordpress.com)
- In job interviews, British people may stare you in the eye and fixate upon your mouth (news.efinancialcareers.com)
- The Power of Eye Contact – Chapter 7 (PEC:C7) (yourmanysides.wordpress.com)
- How To Fall In Love With Strangers (thegloss.com)