“Accept your own beauty. You are beautiful no matter what your mind tells you. That is a fact. If you are aware of your own beauty and accept your own beauty, the opinion of others doesn’t affect you at all.” Don Miguel Ruiz
What does beauty mean to you? Where did you first hear/learn that you are/you are not beautiful? We often hear people say that beauty is only skin deep, but how many of us actually believe it? If we look around us; in magazines, on TV, in movies, everywhere we turn, there is some representation of what beauty should be, should look like, and we are invited to do more, buy more, and become more… Many follow the dictates of what we are taught is the standard of beauty… and still remain dissatisfied. Yet, within our hearts, there is that voice, call it the voice of reason or spirit, that constantly reassures us that we are beautiful for who we are, for our heart and soul quality, for our generous spirit, our compassionate loving acts, for our selflessness and kindness, but many don’t listen. What will it take for us to accept our own beauty? What will it take to grasp the message that beauty is more than looks and to internalize the message that … We are enough?
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson (Used by Nelson Mandela in his 1994 inaugural speech)
“For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it.” Ivan Panin
Emily Dickinson aptly said that “Beauty is not caused. It is.” Even with wonderful qualities we possess; character, intelligence, a heartwarming smile and a wonderful sense of humor, many of us are not content with our looks. We live in a world where external beauty is often placed on a pedestal while inner beauty, truth and morality are not as appreciated. Today, I invite you to consider yourself beautiful for all the special ways you honor those around you and for all the things you do to keep your life vibrant. Do you think you are not beautiful? Why? Who has interrupted your ability to express who you truly are? You are beautiful… Accept your own beauty.
She Walks In Beauty by Lord Byron
She walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies;
And all that’s best of dark and bright
Meet in her aspect and her eyes:
Thus mellowed to that tender light
Which heaven to gaudy day denies.
One shade the more, one ray the less,
Had half impaired the nameless grace
Which waves in every raven tress,
Or softly lightens o’er her face;
Where thoughts serenely sweet express
How pure, how dear their dwelling place.
And on that cheek, and o’er that brow,
So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,
The smiles that win, the tints that glow,
But tell of days in goodness spent,
A mind at peace with all below,
A heart whose love is innocent!
“When you reach the heart of life you shall find beauty in all things, even in the eyes that are blind to beauty.” Kahlil Gibran
We all fall short somewhere and somehow, but beauty is an inner state and we must choose to see our own richness. As don Miguel suggests, we must not let the opinion of others affect or taint our belief in ourselves. Yes, we are all bombarded by media messages and the expectations are incredibly, ridiculously narrow… but don’t let that define you. You are beautiful. Use your awareness to see how this message is true in your life: This I know for sure… beauty is in the eye of the beholder, behold yours now…
A Thing of Beauty by John Keats from Endymion, 1818
A thing of beauty is a joy for ever:
Its loveliness increases; it will never
Pass into nothingness; but still will keep
A bower quiet for us, and a sleep
Full of sweet dreams, and health, and quiet breathing.
Therefore, on every morrow, are we wreathing
A flowery band to bind us to the earth,
Spite of despondence, of the inhuman dearth
Of noble natures, of the gloomy days,
Of all the unhealthy and o’er-darkn’d ways
Made for our searching: yes, in spite of all,
Some shape of beauty moves away the pall
From our dark spirits. Such the sun, the moon,
Trees old and young, sprouting a shady boon
For simple sheep; and such are daffodils
With the green world they live in; and clear rills
That for themselves a cooling covert make
‘Gainst the hot season; the mid-forest brake,
Rich with a sprinkling of fair musk-rose blooms:
And such too is the grandeur of the dooms
We have imagined for the mighty dead;
An endless fountain of immortal drink,
Pouring unto us from the heaven’s brink.
In this post, modified from a prior post, I have also added a few poems (above and below) to jug our memories and remind us why we are cherished and beautiful regardless of what others think or say… More Below. 😉
“Beauty is truth’s smile when she beholds her own face in a perfect mirror.” Rabindranath Tagore
We can’t afford to go through life with this mentality of being less than the perfect human being or child of God we truly are… The fact that we have life is a beautiful thing… When we wake up in the morning, the sun says good morning and, at night the moon says sleep tight and goodnight, why can’t we accept the greetings and embrace ourselves? Why do we expect perfection when it is not necessary for beauty’s sake? If you look in the mirror everyday and say “hello beautiful” you will be blessed with a divine and miraculous gift… You will learn to see and accept your own divinity; your own beauty. Try it.
BEAUTY by Charles Baudelaire
I AM as lovely as a dream in stone,
And this my heart where each finds death in turn,
Inspires the poet with a love as lone
As clay eternal and as taciturn.
Swan-white of heart, a sphinx no mortal knows,
My throne is in the heaven’s azure deep;
I hate all movements that disturb my pose,
I smile not ever, neither do I weep.
Before my monumental attitudes,
That breathe a soul into the plastic arts,
My poets pray in austere studious moods,
For I, to fold enchantment round their hearts,
Have pools of light where beauty flames and dies,
The placid mirrors of my luminous eyes.
If accepting our own beauty is a challenge, let’s start with a simple wish; that we may learn to love who we are, as we are. What about you? What do you think? What are your thoughts? What does beauty mean to you? Do you remember being called beautiful or not? How did it make you feel? Do share! Thank you. 🙂
This post was inspired by a prompt from WP Daily Post: What makes someone beautiful?
Positive Motivation Tip: We often hear people say that beauty is only skin deep, but how many of us believe it? Honor the beauty within…
- Acceptance: An Appreciation of Our Bodies and Ourselves… (eof737.wordpress.com)
- “For every beauty …” (thetosinteatime.com)
- What Makes Someone Beautiful? (tating74.wordpress.com)
- Believe in the Beauty…. (throughhimwithhiminhim.wordpress.com)