“Live with integrity, respect the rights of other people, and follow your own bliss.” Nathaniel Branden
Anger can be used in both a productive and disruptive way, but we must be clear about the difference. When we stand up against oppression and vote our conscience, or speak out against injustice and put our money where our heart knows it will do the best work against evil, our anger is well served. Allowing others to invade our space and disrupt our bliss over petty squabbles or inaccurate information is a waste of time. Any time we find ourselves getting furious over the actions of or perceived insults from others, it would help to stop and consider, for a moment, that the slight might not be about us…
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Buddha
Recently, on a trip upstate, I stopped at a rest stop to buy gas and a cup of coffee. As I was walking towards the double glass doors of the rest stop store, a woman approached quickly on my right side. I reached for the door handle and opened the door. Before I could make a move, the woman pushed right past me, and barreled her way into the store. She didn’t say a word; no sorry, no thank you, nada. I wanted to say something but decided to focus on getting my coffee and moving on. Yes, I was in a good mood and had no desire to start an argument. Plus, when I thought about it, I felt she was oblivious to her surroundings and in a hurry. It wasn’t about me… I’d say follow your bliss and refocus. I saw her again… Continued below… 🙂
“Only a man who has felt ultimate despair is capable of feeling ultimate bliss.” Alexandre Dumas Père
Lo and behold, as I stood on line to pay for my coffee, there she was again with some snacks in her hand. She paid for her snacks, ignored the store clerk’s friendly “How are you?” and “Thank you!” and… you got it, barreled her way out the door as an elderly man was ambling his way out the same door. She ignored his protests and comment about rude/inconsiderate people and headed off to her car. She acted in an angry way but we didn’t have to join her there… Follow your bliss.
“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Sure, anger is a human emotion and, from time to time, we all experience it. However, it helps to stop and look at why we are angry; especially when we have sudden outbursts at small, seemingly insignificant things. The underlying cause of our anger is probably something else that is begging to be addressed. So, address it, as soon as possible and move on. Don’t let your anger stifle other areas of your life. As Seth Godin suggests in a recent post, anger and creativity don’t mesh as anger strangles our creativity; an important thought to ponder.
Sometimes, people say they hold onto anger because they are afraid to discuss it with the other person. It requires a bit of diplomacy to broach difficult subjects, vis a vis the original cause of our anger, but we owe it to ourselves and our peace of mind to do so… we will feel better for it and it will help us to truly follow our bliss. What are your thoughts? What do you do to overcome your anger? How do you connect with your bliss? Do share! Thank you. 😉
This post was inspired by a prompt from WP Daily Post: Can anger be constructive?
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