We have 174 days to the next year and I can feel the exhaustion slowly creeping up. Dressed like a magnificent bird, it beckons me to step inside the sparkling chamber of sleep and rest. “Everything can wait!” it says. “Nobody is indispensable …Tarry, tarry, tarry a while.” it assures me. I nod. I smile. I understand. So, why did I just shove that magnificent, brightly plumed bird to the side? Why is it so hard for us to find balance? Within each of us is a switch that we constantly flick on and off, as we struggle with desires, dreams, goals, expectations, even delusions and more. I was once advised by a great teacher and friend that the only person worth competing against is ourselves. It’s a waste of time to compete against others because you will fail. What? Think about it… Do your best work to your utmost, not to knock Jenny off her pedestal and outpace Liz in the trenches. There will always be others, so where would you stop? Focus on your own game not mine nor his or hers. Hmmm
We want our best self to rule the roost, yet we sabotage ourselves by overreaching, by overcompensating, by allowing disgust and fear to rule, and then, by flaming out. We run ourselves ragged and allow ourselves to be burnt to smithereens by unresolved fears of being left behind; alternating fears of success with a deep fear of failure. Mirroring the sacred and good work we do daily is the profane critic’s voice… “Not good enough, do more. Not good enough, say more. Not good enough, want more!” Until we shut that noisy, raspy voice up and embrace the magnificence of simple things around us; by pausing to smell scented Jasmin petals, perhaps resting under the Jacaranda tree, we will lose balance… We will struggle again and again to gain only snatches of joy. Who are you competing against? Where is your balance?
We all need down time, and even if others insist we are not doing enough; that we are not busy enough like Suzie’s mom, or active enough like Jamie’s mom, we must ignore them. We must ignore our inner critic too and just put our pretty feet up, when we feel like it, and inhale the beauty of a simple act … brew a cup of tea and sip it slowly. Then, when the voices grow louder, we must go sit under that jacaranda tree and say to those disgusting, ratty, annoying inner/outer voices… “Shut Up! Let me be!” Decide what’s best for you and do it. Acknowledge your shortcomings, your flaws, your hangups and your limitations and move on. We all have them; even those lousy critics do too.
If the voices taunt you again, say, “So what! Show me a living soul without flaws!” Then dance off into the sunlight and bathe in its warm radiant love… You earned it. You are beautiful just as you are. That my dear diva, sister, mama, blogging friend, is the secret to finding balance. It’s not about perfection and all the ducks in a row, it’s about acceptance with dirty dishes in the sink. What about you? Where is your balance? What are your thoughts? Do you find happiness in overwhelm? Do share! Thank you. 😉
This post was inspired by a prompt from WP Daily Post: Why is it so hard to find balance? Do you know anyone who has better balance than you do? What do you think their secret is?
Positive Motivation Tip: Make time to look at things and just be; no expectation, no criticism… just a time balance.