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“I must be myself. I cannot break myself any longer for you, or you.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Reflections: Fault and Change... Seek the fault lines and change

Just for one day, try to imagine everything that went wrong that day was your fault. How did it make you feel? or are you more comfortable pointing fingers at others when things go wrong? Blaming others for our mistakes is easy, it relieves us of the need to take charge and correct our problems.

#Trust30 is an online initiative and 30-day writing challenge. The #Trust30 Prompt: Think of all the things that are not working in your life. That job you don’t like, that relationship that’s not working, those friends that annoy you. Now turn them all on you. Imagine that everything that’s not working in your life, is your fault. How would you approach it? What would you work on to change your life to the state that you want it to be?

Change by Kathleen Raine
Said the sun to the moon,
You cannot stay.
Says the moon to the waters,
All is flowing.
Says the fields to the grass,
Seed-time and harvest,
Chaff and grain.
You must change,
Said the worm to the bud,
Though not to a rose, Cont’d below

When we stop complaining and start taking responsibility for our life, we will see the value in making necessary changes.  As the prompt suggests, we can begin by taking the first step to creating change in our lives; by facing our faults. Another step would be to drop any negative thoughts and conversations; and replace them with positive approaches. What would you do? Have a Happy July 4th!

“Change and growth take place when a person has risked himself and dares to become involved with experimenting with his own life.” Herbert Otto

Reflections: Fault and Change... birth of a star that will change...

Change by Kathleen Raine Cont’d
Petals fade
That wings may rise
Borne on the wind.
You are changing
said death to the maiden, your wan face
To memory, to beauty.
Are you ready to change?
Says the thought to the heart, to let her pass
All your life long
For the unknown, the unborn
In the alchemy
Of the world’s dream?
You will change,
says the stars to the sun,
Says the night to the stars

Whether we accept blame for things that go wrong or make a concerted effort to change, we can open the door to a rebirth; a door to growth and change. In the long run, resolving issues and making the best of our relationships is key. Accept the faults and embrace the change…  What about you? What are your thoughts? What faults are you willing to own and change? Do you find yourself eager or reluctant to change and why.? Do share! Thank you. 😉

This post was inspired by a prompt from Think of all the things that are not working in your life. That job you don’t like, that relationship that’s not working, those friends that annoy you. Now turn them all on you. Imagine that everything that’s not working in your life, is your fault. How would you approach it? What would you work on to change your life to the state that you want it to be?

Positive Motivation Tip: Find the road to change and follow it…

PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: All Photos birth of star Faultlines via Wikipedia.

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

20 Comments leave one →
  1. 03/07/2011 11:09 pm

    nice to be the first this time… in Germany it is five a.m. very early in the morning …

  2. 03/07/2011 11:57 pm

    Elizabeth, looking at faults is difficult but can be rewarding when change occurs. Great post as always! Miriam

  3. 04/07/2011 12:26 am

    Elizabeth have you seen the quote by Og Mandino – “My days of whining and complaining about others have come to an end. Nothing is easier than fault finding. All it will do is discolor my personality so that none will want to associate with me. That was my old life. No more.” i JUST LOVE IT.

  4. 04/07/2011 1:04 am

    It is necessary that we constantly examine our lives and our motivations in order to determine rather or not change is needed. Sometimes change is painfull, but in the end…liberating.
    Have a good 4th everyone.

  5. 04/07/2011 3:47 am

    Happy 4th of July Eliz and all the comments on here. “Whenever you are confronted with an opponent. Conquer him with love.”
    ~ Mahatma Gandhi ~

  6. 04/07/2011 4:06 am

    Are all of the thirty day prompts related to Emerson quotes? Once again a wonderful post and something that can be so hard for us to do. Then again, unless we want to be miserable the rest of our lives do we really have a choice? Jackie, I love the Gandhi quote too. Happy Fourth of July!

    • 04/07/2011 4:25 am

      Yes they are Sue… I found out yesterday that the #Trust30 Emerson Writing Challenge will continue in July. TY for stopping by.I will visit your blog soon.
      Hi Everyone, I am attending yoga programs with Amma, the hugging saint, in NY. Her visit ends on Tuesday and I invite you to attend a program at the Manhattan Center… 🙂

  7. 04/07/2011 7:45 am

    Just in case you missed this on my blog (I tried to put it here but I think the comments were closed): I figured you would be busy. Congratulations on having your blog selected as the featured blog. Things sometimes happen for all the right reasons. I can only marvel at your energy, skills, and wisdom. Take care.

  8. 04/07/2011 12:16 pm

    Elizabeth, each time I come here I find something so astonishingly relevant to my life that it almost seems more than coincidental! Nearing the big trial – blame is what it is all about. That is my life. For me, accepting blame is fairly easy – not pleasant- but the quicker you swallow the blame, the quicker you can move on and improve your life by changes.

    With my case about to go to trial, we have a man who refuses to accept responsibility and change. He insists from a highly illogical position – that he did nothing wrong although two women are dead. He cannot face his responsibilities – thus, it will be up to the community to open his eyes (even if they find him at fault I still do not think he will accept the blame). Hopefully, we can achieve some sort of justice and change. It will not be easy.

    Happy 4th of July! Enjoy the yoga!

  9. 04/07/2011 12:26 pm

    “resolving issues and making the best of our relationships is key”…
    So true! We cannot force change on others; we can just change ourselves.

  10. 04/07/2011 12:57 pm

    I agree it falls on us to decide how we will react. I’m living it at the moment with my sister-in-law who is a major league control freak… and she’s here for 10 days! My tongue is bleeding, but I’m trying to breath and choose wisely.
    Thanks Eliz… have a great Holiday!

  11. 04/07/2011 3:24 pm

    Making good changes within ourself, brings more happiness and joy into living our life with abundance and less regrets.

  12. 04/07/2011 5:15 pm

    When we resist change . . . we stagnate.
    Or rot.
    Or wilt.

    Change allows us to continue to flow and grow.

  13. 04/07/2011 7:04 pm

    Changes for me, in me are daily. Good post. Happy 4th, Eliz!

  14. 04/07/2011 8:57 pm

    Some times change is easier to embrace than at others.
    I’m not sure how I’d feel if everything were my fault. I’d probably end up with either an inflated opinion of myself because I’d have to fix everything or hide from the world because I’d be too overwhelmed and probably embarrassed with everything that I caused.
    Either way, I think it’d be a good lesson in courage or humility.
    Another gem of a post, Elizabeth.
    Have fun with Amma and yoga. One of my friends has been going to see her each time she comes to NYC. Such a simple thing, eh? A hug.

  15. 08/07/2011 9:40 am


    After I clicked the “thumbs-up” button I felt like adding at least three explanation marks as well.

    Here they are: !!! 🙂

  16. soulsensecoaching permalink
    19/08/2016 3:34 am

    I work a lot on being aware of my faults, sadly changing them takes more effort than it should. It really is all about finding the balance to be yourself without harming others in the process.


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