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Motivation Mondays: Peace with Our Past

29/04/2019
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“Sometimes you just have to make peace with your past in order to keep your future from becoming a constant battle.” Susan Gale

Motivation Mondays: Peace with Our Past

Motivation Mondays: Peace with Our Past

Two things prevent us from happiness: living in the past and observing others. Unknown
If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the moment. Unknown
I want the peace in knowing that is wasn’t for lack of hustling that I missed a target for my dream. I want to know that the one thing in my control was under control. Jon Acuff
Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones. Thich Nhat Hanh

Have You made peace with your past? Why do some of us spend so much time punishing ourselves for events that have long passed us by? Until we make peace with our past and step fully into the present, we will continue to suffer the pangs of regret over things that no longer serve us. Of course, it is not so easy or simple to discard past hurts and dance into the sunset with a big smile on our face but, we must do the necessary work to help us heal.

Time is a great healer and seeking professional help, turning back to our faith for comfort and trying other positive self-help approaches can get us back on track to rekindling the inner joy we seek. The past is a great repository of experiences that can teach us about ways to navigate in the present, but it is just one measure. We need to delve deep and find new and innovative ways to help us grow. Stop carrying the burdens of the past or madness of the future. Stay present.
READ: Motivation Monday: Make Peace with Pain
Motivation Mondays: Power of Gratitude
Weekly Photo Challenge: HARMONY

 

Be at Peace by R. Queen
Be at peace,
Tempest tossed seas of soul,
Give me rest,
From doubt, and fear
Sun find my face,
Light find my heart,
Song find my story,
Smile find my face,
Be at peace,
Be at peace,
For my life is infinite,
And these storms,
Have raged too long,
Even winter,
Must surrender spring
– R. Queen

 

 

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Melody Beattie

Motivation Mondays: Peace with Our Past

Motivation Mondays: Peace with Our Past

If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present. falsely attributed to Lao Tzu
I don’t carry the burden of the past or the madness of the future. I live in the present. Narendra Modi
Peace comes from being able to contribute the best that we have, and all that we are, toward creating a world that supports everyone. But it is also securing the space for others to contribute the best that they have and all that they are. Hafsat Abiola
See, when you drive home today, you’ve got a big windshield on the front of your car. And you’ve got a little bitty rearview mirror. And the reason the windshield is so large and the rearview mirror is so small is because what’s happened in your past is not near as important as what’s in your future. Joel Osteen

How do we make peace with our past? For years, I mourned the passing of my Dad and the last conversation I had with him. I was getting ready to leave for work. I was living on the upper west side in Manhattan at the time, and I had to catch a train downtown to BMCC-CUNY to teach an English class.  Dad called, and I was in a hurry to wrap things up and head out. It was brief. We had so much to say and that needed to be said but… the conversation was brief. He told me he loved me and, mind you, my Dad was quite the conservative man so those words were special. They should have been celebrated and shared and repeated and discussed but… our conversation was brief. A month later, he was gone. We must find our way back to center and replace the past with memories of the good times. It’s not easy, it takes time but, we will and can get there.

We can start by taking small steps on our road to healing. First recognize that what happened in the past is done and does not need to taint our present. Forgive and embrace your wounded inner child and direct your vision forward. If we can learn to focus forward and not get caught in the trap of stuffing our heads with stuff, we can begin the journey back on the road to regain control of our emotions, change our thinking, and start the healing process we need to help us put our past to rest. Be of good cheer and stay encouraged. Make peace with your past and live.
READ: Motivation Mondays: PEACE & GRATITUDE
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I Dream A World by Langston Hughes
I dream a world where man
No other man will scorn,
Where love will bless the earth
And peace its paths adorn
I dream a world where all
Will know sweet freedom’s way,
Where greed no longer saps the soul
Nor avarice blights our day.
A world I dream where black or white,
Whatever race you be,
Will share the bounties of the earth
And every man is free,
Where wretchedness will hang its head
And joy, like a pearl,
Attends the needs of all mankind-
Of such I dream, my world!via poemhunter

 

A Story: Peace XVIII by Khalil Gibran
The tempest calmed after bending the branches of the trees and leaning heavily upon the grain in the field. The stars appeared as broken remnants of lightning, but now silence prevailed over all, as if Nature’s war had never been fought.

At that hour a young woman entered her chamber and knelt by her bed sobbing bitterly. Her heart flamed with agony but she could finally open her lips and say, “Oh Lord, bring him home safely to me. I have exhausted my tears and can offer no more, oh Lord, full of love and mercy. My patience is drained and calamity is seeking possession of my heart. Save him, oh Lord, from the iron paws of War; deliver him from such unmerciful Death, for he is weak, governed by the strong. Oh Lord, save my beloved, who is Thine own son, from the foe, who is Thy foe. Keep him from the forced pathway to Death’s door; let him see me, or come and take me to him.”

Quietly a young man entered. His head was wrapped in bandage soaked with escaping life.

He approached he with a greeting of tears and laughter, then took her hand and placed against it his flaming lips. And with a voice with bespoke past sorrow, and joy of union, and uncertainty of her reaction, he said, “Fear me not, for I am the object of your plea. Be glad, for Peace has carried me back safely to you, and humanity has restored what greed essayed to take from us. Be not sad, but smile, my beloved. Do not express bewilderment, for Love has power that dispels Death; charm that conquers the enemy. I am your one. Think me not a specter emerging from the House of Death to visit your Home of Beauty.

“Do not be frightened, for I am now Truth, spared from swords and fire to reveal to the people the triumph of Love over War. I am Word uttering introduction to the play of happiness and peace.”

Then the young man became speechless and his tears spoke the language of the heart; and the angels of Joy hovered about that dwelling, and the two hearts restored the singleness which had been taken from them.

At dawn the two stood in the middle of the field contemplating the beauty of Nature injured by the tempest. After a deep and comforting silence, the soldier said to his sweetheart, “Look at the Darkness, giving birth to the Sun.” via famouspoetsandpoems

 

 

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MAR

03/03   –  08 International Women’s Day/Women’s History Month
03/10   –  10 iHeart Awards, 14 Pi Day
03/17 –   17 St Patrick’s Day, 20 Start of Spring/International Day of Happiness
03/24   –  30 Earth Hour
03/31 –    31 Day of Visibility

APR

04/01   –  01 April Fool’s Day, 02 Autism Awareness, Equal Pay Day
04/07  –   07 World Health Day, 10 National Siblings Day
04/14 –   14 Palm Sunday, 15 Tax Day, 18 Holy Thursday, 19 Good Friday
04/21   –  21 Easter Sunday/ Start of Passover, 22 Earth Day, 23 World Book Day
04/28 –    29 Remembrance Day, 30 Jazz Day

 

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“The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power.” Unknown

Motivation Mondays: Peace with Our Past

Motivation Mondays: Peace with Our Past

Motivation Mondays: Peace with Our Past

Motivation Mondays: Peace with Our Past

Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding. Albert Einstein
The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly. Unknown
Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today? Mary Manin Morrissey

What would you let go of today? If there is something in your past that has dictated the burden of pain you currently carry around, reflect on why you are still carrying it around. What are you planning on doing with your life w/wo pain? To make peace with our past, we must be fully present. Surrender the yoke of past wounds for the peace of the present.
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White Noise by Barbara Vance
In all the world
There’s nothing like
The sound of falling snow –

The only noise
I’ve ever known
That makes the clocks move slow.

The only sound
That sweeps away
The din of city streets,

And wraps around,
In soft embrace,
’Most everyone it meets.

A sound that’s not
A sound at all –
A quiet, soft and dear,

That comforts all
The sleepy souls
Who sit, and watch, and hear. via suziebitner

 

The Peace of Wild Things by Wendell Berry
When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free. via onbeing.org

 

 

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  1. You, Me and Benny permalink
    30/04/2019 3:32 am

    I think this is wonderful and something I live by 100%!!! I think that it’s something we all need to remember!

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    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      30/04/2019 5:15 am

      Yes and I added it as a reminder to myself as well. Thank you!

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      • Blair permalink
        05/05/2019 8:39 am

        I lost my mother in 1996 to suicide. There were signs, things she said before that had I been more aware maybe I could have made a difference. This is a common feeling of guilt felt by those of us that ore survivors of suicide. Logic tell me that I would not likely have been able to change her fate.

      • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
        06/05/2019 4:24 pm

        So sorry for you loss. It is a very human quality to take on some blame… we care. we wish we could have done more but… fate. Sending you hugs

    • Blairvillanueva permalink
      03/05/2019 4:07 am

      Sometimes, no matter what we do it seems that we can’t moved on because of the past. Indeed time is a great healer. We need patience and wait until it heals.

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    • Rhea permalink
      05/05/2019 6:57 am

      Making peace with your past can be extremely hard. As a method of learning and self-preservation, our minds are naturally conditioned to cling to the past, that’s true! but i believe forgiving ourself first will heal all

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  2. arun permalink
    30/04/2019 5:12 am

    What a beautiful story. Absolutely , where we need to be is the Present. Don’t let the past blackmail your present to ruin a beautiful future.

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    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      30/04/2019 5:14 am

      Thank you Arun, I completely agree with your observations.

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    • Neil Alvin Nicerio permalink
      04/05/2019 9:37 pm

      I agree with you. The past is the past. Just leave it there.

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  3. Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
    30/04/2019 5:12 am

    Thank your dear reader for making your way here! Please pause and think about what you can add to keep this conversation on a high level. You are here… make it matter. Please don’t thank me for sharing. Let me do the thanking. Don’t tell me great post either… that’s what all the lazy thinking spammers say, and your comment will end up in my spam box. Think about the post you see and respond to its content. I will always do the same for you… Let’s respect our blog visits with each other. Stay encouraged and Thank You! <3 🙂

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  4. owengigg permalink
    30/04/2019 5:23 am

    I liked the White Noise poem by Barbara Vance. You kind of get lost in the “snow”. Pretty relaxing reading.

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  5. Kalyan Panja permalink
    30/04/2019 5:32 am

    Although easier said than done, the best part of our life begins when we learn from our past and improve for the future.

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  6. Kat Johana permalink
    30/04/2019 6:42 am

    this has definitely helped motivate me! 🙂

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  7. Czjai Reyes-Ocampo permalink
    30/04/2019 6:45 am

    I totally agree with you. We can only enjoy the present and look forward to the future if we learn to accept the past and move on.

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  8. Anu Ganesh | Simple Blissful Life permalink
    30/04/2019 7:20 am

    Making peace with past is easier said than done. But I agree with what you have mentioned – to make peace with past we must surrender to the present.
    Being mindful of the present and practicing gratitude will eventually help us walk away from the painful past.

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  9. Nahashon Cyrus permalink
    30/04/2019 8:10 am

    I can really relate to the first quote, “Sometimes you just have to make peace with your past in order to keep your future from becoming a constant battle.” My grandma used to tell me the same thing when i was a child and i never thought I would need it in my life actively until recently. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re changing lives.

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  10. thenailtrip permalink
    30/04/2019 10:14 am

    Holiii !!
    I really liked Barbara Vance’s poem, White Nose. I think it is a most beautiful poem, along with the words of Albert Einstein.
    Good day!!

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  11. www.asipoflife.com permalink
    30/04/2019 10:28 am

    Yes making peace with past and moving on is so important . Focusing on your present and future is what we need to do

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  12. laura dove permalink
    30/04/2019 11:10 am

    Making peace with our past is so important although it took me such a long time. Letting go of the loss of my son and the end of my marriage was a huge challenge, but I knew I had to do it in order to live in the future.

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  13. Bree L. permalink
    30/04/2019 11:19 am

    The Be at Peace poem is beautiful. I really loved this post, everything really inspired me!

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  14. Dalene Ekirapa permalink
    30/04/2019 11:28 am

    Making peace with my past has to be one of my best decisions because right now, I’m better and happier. I feel bad when I see people still haunted by their past and they can do nothing but pity themselves. Unfortunate!

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  15. Adriana permalink
    30/04/2019 11:37 am

    WOW! This is by far my most favorite post. We should always remind ourselves daily to to live in the moment. Our past is our past for a reason. Such a wonderful way to live by!

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  16. Nancy Djebe Laws permalink
    30/04/2019 12:27 pm

    It can be so hard when it comes to healing and the past, this month is especially hard for me because I had a loss around this time last year but I’m working on healing.

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  17. Stacie permalink
    30/04/2019 12:28 pm

    I really love this post. Too many of us get bogged down in the past. While it’s good to remember our past so that we can learn from it, it’s also important to remember that the past is just that. The past. You can’t stay there, whether it be in the good parts or the bad.

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  18. Colleen permalink
    30/04/2019 12:29 pm

    Always keep moving forward. Learn from the past, remember the good time from the past, but never try to go backwards. You can’t do it anyway.

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  19. Stephanie permalink
    30/04/2019 2:15 pm

    I need to work on letting things go. I hold onto the past too much sometimes and am constantly replaying conversations in my head, wishing I would have said something else, something better, something more meaningful, etc. This is something I have been actively working on for myself.

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  20. Bree L. permalink
    30/04/2019 3:26 pm

    I love the poem “be at peace.” It really resonated with me. I love the inspiring messages in your post ❤️

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  21. debatablydateable permalink
    30/04/2019 4:24 pm

    these poems are so touching and thoughtful

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  22. Fran Jorgensen permalink
    30/04/2019 4:40 pm

    Thank you so much for this post to keep e going during the week. I always find it hard to learn from the past and move on, but it’s an essential part to the path of happiness.

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  23. iampiathought permalink
    30/04/2019 4:40 pm

    This is indeed true and I actually did this last year. It was a life changing event. Thanks for this!

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  24. Fatima D Torres permalink
    30/04/2019 5:45 pm

    This post comes at a time when I needed it the most. I recently came to terms with something that happened in the past, but I never forgave the person for what they did. It’s taken me time to be civil with this person and yet I recently helped her start her own business.

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  25. Mariam permalink
    30/04/2019 7:03 pm

    These are such great reminders. I do believe that living in the past and observing what others are doing are joy kilers and will rob us of our happiness. We need to work on staying present in the now.

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  26. RIA permalink
    30/04/2019 7:29 pm

    What a beautiful and poetic story. Living in the moment and being present is so important! Constantly trying my best to do that.

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  27. riaparikhblog permalink
    30/04/2019 7:30 pm

    What a beautiful and poetic story. Living in the moment and being present is so important!

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  28. Maartje van Sandwijk permalink
    30/04/2019 8:29 pm

    So important to make peace with your past and let go of things you can no longer change! I love the poem!

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  29. Amirah ab permalink
    30/04/2019 8:49 pm

    Making peace with our past is important, but for some reasons people find a way of getting the past to catch up to you. I say to forgive and forget ? We evolve every day anyways?

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  30. Kate LovesTravel permalink
    30/04/2019 9:13 pm

    I am definitely still battling to make peace with my past – there are events that I really need to let go of. Thanks for the reminder to look forward rather than backwards…

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  31. StressedMum (@stressedmum01) permalink
    01/05/2019 12:28 am

    I agree with this 100%, live in the present and look towards your future, the past is the past and can not be changed x

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  32. Courtney permalink
    01/05/2019 1:51 am

    The sooner you make peace with the past and move on, the better!!! Nothing good happens when you focus on things you cannot change

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  33. Cherishingflo permalink
    01/05/2019 3:02 am

    I think the area of me making peace with my past is one of the biggest struggles I face. I think reflecting on why I can’t seem to let certain things go may be the next step in my path. This was a great reminder for me the importance of this.

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  34. fashionandstylepolice permalink
    01/05/2019 3:22 am

    I agree with all you have said here. We have to make peace with our past to move forward with our life. Living in the past does no good.

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  35. ItgirlAccessories permalink
    01/05/2019 5:10 am

    Such moving words of wisdom. I believe that this post can open up you up for positive change for sure. Thanks so much
    🙂

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  36. [email protected] permalink
    01/05/2019 5:45 am

    This is such a great story! I know I struggle sometimes getting caught up in the past, but I work hard to stay in the present!!

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  37. KeshiaRichmond permalink
    01/05/2019 6:35 am

    Making peace with the past is very encouraging and I’m sure it is of great benefit to many.

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  38. Sanjota Purohit permalink
    01/05/2019 7:25 am

    Moving on and living everyday fully is very important.

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  39. ogbugbu14 permalink
    01/05/2019 7:39 am

    sometimes making peace with your past is the hardest thing ever, but i have come to understand that doing so have a lot of benefits. thanks for sharing.

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  40. briezyy97 permalink
    01/05/2019 7:53 am

    I absolutely love the poems in this. I think a lot of people struggle with letting things go that they regret or are ashamed of.

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  41. travelwisesr permalink
    01/05/2019 8:13 am

    Everyday is a new day and living in the present is the way forward in my opinion. Loved reading.

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  42. Razena permalink
    01/05/2019 9:30 am

    There some very wonderful examples and lessons here. Whenever I feel sorry for myself or full of regrets or resentment I think of Nelson Mandela. He was an example to South Africans of how to free ourselves from anger, hatred and resentment.
    “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”
    ― Nelson Mandela

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  43. toastycritic permalink
    01/05/2019 11:14 am

    Dealing with the past is definitely a matter of accepting the past as past and not letting it bleed over into the present. Far too often we are a prisoner of the things which happened to us. But we have a myriad of choices before us now on how to behave and move into the future.

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  44. Flossie permalink
    01/05/2019 12:07 pm

    Well put all around! (although often easier said than done) – There are plenty of choices/roads not taken from my past that I used to beat myself up over, but when I turned 40 I was like “who cares anymore? – nowhere to go but up from here!” and that attitude shift helped a LOT.

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  45. Eileen M Loya permalink
    01/05/2019 12:55 pm

    As I was reading your post, I was thinking of what I needed to let go of from my past. There are a few things and maybe this is why it takes a long time for me to find real happiness. This emotional burden that I have been carrying around is not good for me. It will be difficult to forgive, let go, and forget but I will pray that I can accomplish it.

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  46. Neil Alvin Nicerio permalink
    01/05/2019 1:14 pm

    The best way to move forward is let go of the past. 🙂

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  47. Bree L. permalink
    01/05/2019 2:05 pm

    What a great reminder! We all really need to love more in the moment!

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  48. emman damian permalink
    01/05/2019 2:52 pm

    It’s all about giving ourselves a chance to correct our past and live with our present. Also, make peace with our past.

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  49. LadyInRead (@LadyInReadvt) permalink
    01/05/2019 3:04 pm

    I discover new treasures everytime I read your posts.. I only recently read a couple of poems by Langston Hughes and he truly writes so well..

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  50. Jessica Hughes permalink
    01/05/2019 3:07 pm

    Wow, yes! I needed to hear this today. Way too often do we let the pains of our pasts affect the future!

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  51. Kristine Nicole Alessandra permalink
    01/05/2019 3:21 pm

    I made peace with my past and you won’t believe how freeing it is. Suddenly my life seemed so much brighter. It was the pent up emotions about a bad experience in the past that was dragging me down. I am glad I did what I had to do!

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  52. owengigg permalink
    01/05/2019 4:46 pm

    I like the Motivation Mondays. It adds a bit of serenity to the usual Manic Monday. These verses are great. I liked the “I Dream A World” by Langston Hughes, particularly the bit that goes “Where greed no longer saps the soul”…

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  53. Devyani Ray permalink
    01/05/2019 4:59 pm

    I love the story you posted on the blog

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  54. Elizabeth | Tiredmom Supermom permalink
    01/05/2019 5:05 pm

    i love your motivational mondays! It IS so nice to get grounded and become present.

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  55. Karen Monica permalink
    01/05/2019 5:07 pm

    I am learning to make peace with my past. I want to stop the past from holding me back and it’s time I look forward to a better future .

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  56. dallas newborn photography permalink
    01/05/2019 5:42 pm

    Absolutely wonderful advice. It’s so important to move forward in life and make peace with the past.

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  57. kattyscreamery permalink
    01/05/2019 6:13 pm

    I love the The Peace of Wild Things – it makes me want to wake up in the morning at peace instead of the stress of what the day will bring.

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  58. twinspirational permalink
    01/05/2019 6:26 pm

    Making peace with yourself and your past is so important. This is such a lovely story, Elizabeth.

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  59. Nursery Rhymes permalink
    01/05/2019 7:05 pm

    “you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present”

    Now I know where am I and what am I …………………………………

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  60. Heather permalink
    01/05/2019 7:58 pm

    It wasn’t easy, but I’ve made peace with my past. Time to move forward in the future.

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  61. Qarrey permalink
    01/05/2019 8:03 pm

    Thanks for showing me where my anxiety is coming from.
    Living in the future.
    I really need to start living for the moment

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  62. Jessa B permalink
    01/05/2019 9:03 pm

    It’s really vital to make peace with your past. You can’t change the past. You can only influence how you deal with it and take responsibility for your future path!

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  63. amayszingblogs permalink
    02/05/2019 12:29 am

    This is so inspiring post to everyone living in your past can’t help you grow there’s always new beginning for the new journey present is hope and chances 🙂

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  64. Alexandra Cook permalink
    02/05/2019 1:33 am

    How I make peace with my past, First acknowledge it and accept it. You accept it to confirm you have the ability to move forward into the future without holding or dwelling on something that’s considered “done”.

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  65. Mudpie Fridays permalink
    02/05/2019 1:41 am

    Our past is vitally important to your success. It’s an opportunity to learn and grow and every successful person has experienced failures.

    Reply
  66. Preet permalink
    02/05/2019 1:43 am

    Most people are trapped within their past. Your past will teach you what you need to know. Sometimes things have to go wrong in order to go right.

    Reply
  67. Chad permalink
    02/05/2019 4:04 am

    What an amazing story!!! This topic hits the spot for me because often i find myself duelling in the past which i agree is not helpful. I need to keep the past in the past and focus on the future instead. Thanks a lot for being such an inspiration.

    Reply
  68. Vanessa Delia permalink
    02/05/2019 6:26 am

    This has been a hard lesson for me to learn. I still let the past effect how my present makes me feel.

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  69. Tiffany La Forge-Grau permalink
    02/05/2019 6:27 am

    This is one of the most important lessons you can learn in life. Your past is supposed to be lessons learned, not problems!

    Reply
  70. Geraline Batarra permalink
    02/05/2019 7:08 am

    Such a great content. I totally agree with everything that you said. Past is past. So be it.

    Reply
  71. Lucid Gypsy permalink
    02/05/2019 7:49 am

    About 95% yes!

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    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      10/12/2019 9:09 am

      Ha. True…

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  72. Nandyz Soulshine permalink
    02/05/2019 7:56 am

    It takes time to get comfortable with certain things in the past, look at them in the right perspective & see how they were essential to the whole plot that led us where we are today. But, once we’re able to shift into that perspective, it becomes a lot easier to breathe.
    – Nandita

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  73. Bree L. permalink
    02/05/2019 12:17 pm

    This post is especially helpful for me. My mom basically abandoned me and all my siblings early in childhood, and it has been really hard to make peace with that part of my past.

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  74. thevirginianymph permalink
    02/05/2019 12:52 pm

    I am a firm believer in making peace with your past. If you don’t I believe it will devour your present and future.

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  75. toastycritic permalink
    02/05/2019 1:10 pm

    I agree we need to come to terms with our past. If you do not then we can never move forward. Focusing on the past makes us bitter, fearful, and unable to accomplish anything.

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  76. Marjie Mare permalink
    02/05/2019 4:06 pm

    It took me a long time to set myself free from the hurt and pain of my past. Once I gathered the courage to do so, it was so liberating. Thanks for sharing such a powerful post.

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  77. thebusyboymama permalink
    02/05/2019 6:02 pm

    This is such an important topic. Finding peace with your past can help with anxiety and depression so much.

    Reply
  78. wildfirego permalink
    02/05/2019 6:31 pm

    As always such a great read! I do love that you touched on past and making peace…it can be hard but it’s a weight lifted once you do

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  79. Linda permalink
    02/05/2019 7:54 pm

    Great article and thougts! So important to be reminded about that. Try to live in the present but it is so easy to jump into the future & dreams…

    Reply
  80. Geraline Batarra permalink
    02/05/2019 8:24 pm

    I agree, what’s done is done, or whatever had happened has happened already, no matter how sad it is. We cannot stay on that sadness that it brought forever.

    Reply
  81. A.naberry permalink
    02/05/2019 9:43 pm

    I beleive if we are im fully in pe with ourselfes, we can make peace with everyone. 😊😊

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  82. Rose Ann Sales permalink
    02/05/2019 10:26 pm

    Such beautiful poems.. I wasn’t really that type of personal who really forgets in a short period of time. But of course I won’t let myself get stuck onto something because of a single event.

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  83. StressedMum (@stressedmum01) permalink
    03/05/2019 12:18 am

    I once held onto the past which was not good for my mental health. You need to let it go and stay in he past and focus on the present and future x

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  84. Tammie permalink
    03/05/2019 12:53 am

    I completely agree with this. There are a few things from my past that I haven’t made peace with yet, but I’m working on it.

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  85. sincerelymissj permalink
    03/05/2019 1:33 am

    Interesting subject to focus on and a much needed subject for a lot of people. You are correct the past is the past and it’s done. Now the best thing to do is find productive ways to not make the same mistakes and make peace with what happened in the past.

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  86. Norma permalink
    03/05/2019 2:09 am

    Great points! It’s important to live in the present. I really liked the quote: “Two things prevent us from happiness: living in the past and observing others. “

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  87. Geraline Batarra permalink
    03/05/2019 3:46 am

    So true.. Sometimes we let the past hunt us, and let us get to build walls which is quite not right. We should celebrate life every day without regret z.

    Reply
  88. Danielle Jones permalink
    03/05/2019 4:09 am

    Great insight. I think you bring up incredible points. Don’t let the hurt and misfortunes of your past define your future.

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  89. stephsocial.com permalink
    03/05/2019 4:31 am

    Love this! It’s healthy to let go and move on from the past, but sometimes it’s hard!

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  90. Taryn permalink
    03/05/2019 7:09 am

    What an inspirational post. It really hones in that we should not live in the past nor future and should cherish the present.

    Reply
  91. D'ondra Howard permalink
    03/05/2019 7:14 am

    It’s always good to let go of negativity. Thank you for the reminder.

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  92. saygoodbyecitylife permalink
    03/05/2019 7:28 am

    Thank you for this great reminder. I appreciate your thoughts. The poetry is beautiful as well.

    Reply
  93. WhitAdvisor.com permalink
    03/05/2019 10:31 am

    I particularly love the poem you included here. It made such wonderful points and it was the perfect addition to your Monday Motivation 🙂

    Reply
  94. simplysensationalfood permalink
    03/05/2019 11:01 am

    Making peace with the past is the only way forward to be happy in the present.But sometimes its really hard to do that.

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  95. Purva permalink
    03/05/2019 12:50 pm

    That’s one thing so difficult to achieve! But once we learn to deal with our past and move on, life becomes easier.

    Reply
  96. owengigg permalink
    03/05/2019 1:43 pm

    I particularly enjoy the verses you share on this blog. The Peace of Wild Things by Wendell Berry is pretty awesome. Keep them coming!

    Reply
  97. Michael David Oyco permalink
    03/05/2019 7:52 pm

    What an important thing to do. So helpful when you achieve this really. Thank you!

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  98. Sreekar Harinatha permalink
    03/05/2019 11:07 pm

    I do agree. Whats in the past is done. Brooding never helped anyone. Did it?

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  99. Samar permalink
    04/05/2019 12:30 am

    We can’t be living in our past for a long time. That’s absolutely not happening. The story in the blog predicts that very nicely.

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  100. aisasami permalink
    04/05/2019 2:19 am

    I have made peace with my past as I can’t move into the future without forgiveness. It sounds hard to but it will let you feel better if you forgive your past. You learn from the mistakes to make a better future.

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  101. Czjai Reyes-Ocampo permalink
    04/05/2019 3:34 am

    This is so true. We can only achieve inner peace if you move on and let go from our (hurtful) past.

    Reply
  102. ZyraKuma permalink
    04/05/2019 4:39 am

    I had horrible things happen in the past but I try to leave it behind. It’s really not worth holding a grudge on it and of course, making peace with it can lead to a better life. Great post.

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  103. briezyy97 permalink
    04/05/2019 5:46 am

    The poems were great and i love some of the quotes that were used. all great representations about letting go of the past

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  104. Lydia Smith permalink
    04/05/2019 9:51 am

    Lovely post you have there. I agree time is the greatest healer but waiting for that time to heal is the bpsg problem..

    Reply
  105. tingandthings.com permalink
    04/05/2019 4:24 pm

    Inspiring post! Thanks for sharing

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  106. Pia permalink
    04/05/2019 6:28 pm

    If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the moment. Unknown

    I love this. I think I have had anxiety attacks because I always fear the future. The consequences of my actions. I actually just wanna lay in my bed ll the time.

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    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      10/12/2019 9:07 am

      Life is complicated… we make the best of what tools we have. No judgements.

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  107. Celestial B Purposed permalink
    04/05/2019 6:33 pm

    Great motivation to begin the week and a great reminder to not allow your past to taint your present. Our past injuries makes us stronger not weaker. Thank you for the reminder

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  108. Nursery Rhymes permalink
    05/05/2019 12:17 am

    I love these two lines :” I dream a world where man
    No other man will scorn,” Thanks for sharing every time with us. I love these things as a poet 🙂

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  109. Yonnah M permalink
    05/05/2019 1:44 am

    I often dwell on the past. It makes me really anxious, but I can’t help it. I’m working on it though. Nice post.

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  110. modlphotography permalink
    05/05/2019 2:57 am

    Great content. It’s so important to make peace with your past and move forward.

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  111. Katherine Rose Coronel- Rivera permalink
    05/05/2019 3:05 am

    I want to have peace in my past. The past arguements with relatives or friends. And for the mistakes I did. Thanks for sharing and enlightening me with this post.

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  112. presiiicom permalink
    05/05/2019 3:24 am

    I usually tells myself that my past is always a teaching lesson to prepare me better for what’s coming.

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  113. Bill Sweeney permalink
    05/05/2019 3:58 am

    I feel I’ve made peace with my past. I’ve also learned that if I want continued peace, the only way that that’s obtainable is by my own doing. I have also learned I can’t control everything, so I have to let go of those things I can’t control.

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  114. Erika permalink
    05/05/2019 4:22 am

    I was still trapped in my past till I read this article. I’ll definitely try to move on from the sorrowful past that has been a burden and live on a better life in the present!

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  115. Blake permalink
    05/05/2019 4:24 am

    I think this is wonderful…thank you for sharing it!

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  116. KeshiaRichmond permalink
    05/05/2019 6:01 am

    The prose from R.Queen really drives home your points about living in the past. Very inspiring.

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  117. terristeffes permalink
    05/05/2019 9:24 am

    That quote, “make peace with your past” is one that I haven’t heard, but really resonates with me. I fight with some of the past choices I have made, and I am exhausted. Now, I can lay the past to rest, move forward by promising to make better, more informed choices.

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  118. melissa major permalink
    05/05/2019 10:10 am

    what an amazing well written post. Its so important to be in the now and think to the future.

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  119. Liz Cleland permalink
    05/05/2019 11:55 am

    I could not imagine losing a parent like you have. Thank you for sharing and opening up

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  120. John Sallie permalink
    05/05/2019 12:51 pm

    At this juncture in life, I have long ago come to terms with my past. I dwell only on the present moment now. Great Kahlil Gibran story.

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  121. Evelyne permalink
    05/05/2019 4:35 pm

    Great reminders- thank you. The present is a great place to be, and it’s important to learn from the past and have hope for the future as well.

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  122. Krysten (@WeirdGirlBlog) permalink
    05/05/2019 4:47 pm

    I really struggle with my past. I try really hard to let it be in the past but sometimes it’s hard to keep it there.

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  123. Lia permalink
    05/05/2019 6:03 pm

    This is so true, sometimes we just can’t let go of the past and have trouble with living in the present. Those poems are so inspirational as well.

    Reply
  124. itsasweetsweetworld permalink
    05/05/2019 8:01 pm

    Living in the past is truly the biggest barrier to happiness. One should focus on the things at hand and find purpose in the present.

    Reply
  125. Kisha Stewart-Harris permalink
    05/05/2019 8:04 pm

    It took me a LONG time, but yes, I have definitely made peace with my past. In fact, after years of wishing I could change my past, I am finally thankful for everything I went through up to now, because I see how it shaped me into the woman I am!

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  126. Jeannette (Jay Joy) permalink
    05/05/2019 8:47 pm

    I think what has helped me live with my past in peace is knowing that God is in control. Everything I have been through has led me to the walk I am in today. I am grateful.

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  127. KeshiaRichmond permalink
    05/05/2019 11:14 pm

    I love all things Langston Hughes. Great to see his work here to strengthen your points.

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  128. Lyosha Varezhkina permalink
    05/05/2019 11:53 pm

    I am sorry for your loss. I know it might sound odd after the years but death in family never stops being a loss. It is painful at times but but it is a sweet loving memory and warmth you start to feel in time. I don’t think we should blame ourselves for whatever. Brief conversation is better than none, you could say you are busy and hang up or simply decide not to pick up because you busy, pretend you didn’t hear the phone call. However I do believe saying I love you is very important for each person. we should say it more often. I know your father lives on in you

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    • Eliz@MirthandMotivation permalink*
      10/12/2019 9:01 am

      Thank you… I agree

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  129. Lydia Smith permalink
    06/05/2019 12:36 am

    I totally agree with you being at peace with your past will make the present be at ease and better. I really enjoyed this. Is such a great read.

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  130. Helen Neale permalink
    06/05/2019 2:20 am

    Usually it’s harder to let things go that are unresolved. It is important that we make peace with our past to free ourselves from worry.

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  131. Ewuzie Kingsley permalink
    06/05/2019 2:39 am

    Great this post really blessed me, I for one have Alwaya known that Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding, your post is really thoughtful and educativly interesting thanks for sharing dear.

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  132. Djebe Laws (@DjebeLaws) permalink
    06/05/2019 3:42 am

    I so agree with you! Making peace with our past is the only way we can live in the presence and live with ourselves for that matter

    Reply
  133. minimalistmiri permalink
    06/05/2019 4:18 am

    I absolutely love this, and the poems were stunning! Living in the present, while difficult to do, has completely shifted my mindset on life and made me a happier person! Love this article!

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  134. twinspirationalparties permalink
    06/05/2019 6:16 am

    Absolutely.. We shouldn’t let are past hunt us down through our whole lives. Life is so short. Don’t let half of it be ruined by hatred or regrets.

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  135. Sanjota Purohit permalink
    06/05/2019 6:44 am

    Past shouldn’t affect our present. Whatever happened is over. We should learn to move on.

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  136. AlwaysCarryOn.com permalink
    06/05/2019 10:11 am

    Interesting post – some great tips and advice here! I will definitely have to take some of this on board next time I am thinking about my past x

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  137. Sarah Bailey permalink
    06/05/2019 10:26 am

    It can be really hard to come to a place where you are at peace with your past. I am trying to get there, my mind is slowly letting me remember things as it knows I can cope with them. I’m not there yet but one day.

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  138. Stacie permalink
    06/05/2019 10:37 am

    I think the key to being at peace with your past is recognizing that you can’t change it no matter how much you want to. No amount of dissecting it or wallowing in it will make it different. You can only learn from it and keep moving forward.

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  139. ogbugbu14 permalink
    06/05/2019 10:57 am

    for me making peace with my past has not been an easy task, but after this article i think its time to move on.

    Reply
  140. LadyInRead (@LadyInReadvt) permalink
    06/05/2019 11:15 am

    Langston Hughes is one poet who inspires so much with his words; and lets us hope of the world he dreams of.. of one we are mindful and in the present

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  141. Lisa Rios permalink
    06/05/2019 3:22 pm

    Forgiving yourself is the most difficult thing for me about making peace with my past. I need to work on it more.

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  142. artch33 permalink
    07/05/2019 1:26 am

    It would be a blessing if you’re able to be at peace with your past. I’m still working on it myself.

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  143. Madhurima Maiti (@iamMadhurima_1) permalink
    07/05/2019 2:19 am

    This is a wonderful post! Having peace with your past is so important to live the present and a lot of us fail to do so. We should bury the past and move ahead with fresh energy because only then we can live the present and paint a beautiful future.

    Reply
  144. chimpundu permalink
    07/05/2019 4:32 am

    This is such an important reminder. I’ve really been struggling to let go of past hurt and focusing on that instead of living in the present. This was very helpful

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  145. Elizabeth | Tired Mom Supermom permalink
    07/05/2019 4:44 am

    This is amazing! Such a wonderful story.

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  146. Lavern Moore permalink
    07/05/2019 5:07 am

    Really liked the poem, White Noise. I’ve always loved the winters in New York and how for a time it calmed the city streets.

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  147. Sudipa permalink
    07/05/2019 12:11 pm

    Yes forgetting the past and moving on can only lead us to happiness.Great post with some great reminders.

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  148. Megha permalink
    07/05/2019 4:02 pm

    this is such a powerful line. its better to keep peace with past than spoiling future!

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  149. Lauren Ash permalink
    07/05/2019 5:50 pm

    Moving on from the past is one of the most underrated things you can do for yourself. I’ve carried a lot of things I couldn’t change from my past and I am proud to say I am now free of it.

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  150. katrina kroeplin permalink
    07/05/2019 7:01 pm

    i so needed to read this today. i have been battling this!

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  151. Lia Mae permalink
    07/05/2019 10:16 pm

    I totally agree with you on how we heal overtime. Continuously being stagnate in the past can be detrimental there is a point in time where you have to move on and grow.

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  152. Mahmudul Hasan permalink
    08/05/2019 1:23 am

    thanks Eliz for motivate me. past is gone. now I live in right now and future

    Reply
  153. local mom scoop (@localmomscoop) permalink
    08/05/2019 2:12 am

    it’s so important to let bygones be bygones and embrace whatever tomorrow brings. I embrace my past and appreciate the path I lead.

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  154. blair villanueva permalink
    08/05/2019 4:48 am

    I agree with you, time is a great healer. We just to be very patient and always makes peace to our past in order to move on at ease.

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  155. Joanna permalink
    08/05/2019 5:19 am

    I think this is one of the hardest things to do, to come at peace with our pasts. We are all bearing scars from people who hurt us, from things that happen to us that we had no control over. I know I am still struggling, and even if I tried to forgive, I can’t forget, as memories are triggered from time to time…

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  156. chadden2001 permalink
    08/05/2019 6:26 am

    I don’t have regrets from my past – without those bad moments and choices, I wouldn’t be who I am today, and I wouldn’t have met the love of my life. Its hard to have regrets when you think of it like that.

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  157. TheKitchenDoc permalink
    08/05/2019 12:23 pm

    I loved reading the barbara vance poem

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  158. Erika Tiara permalink
    09/05/2019 2:06 am

    I was still trapped in my past till I read this article. I’ll definitely try to move on from the sorrowful past that has been a burden and live on a better life in the present!

    Reply
  159. twinspirationalparties permalink
    09/05/2019 3:36 am

    Time is the greatest healer. That was certain. By doing something else, keeping ourselves busy to other things, loving other things, we could totally heal from the pain that we had gone through.

    Reply
  160. Riana Shahid permalink
    09/05/2019 7:37 am

    I always look forward to your motivation mondays posts! They’re full of such inspirational quotes

    Reply
  161. Katherine Rose Coronel- Rivera permalink
    12/05/2019 6:21 am

    I’m not sure if I’m at peace with my past but I want to have peace of mind and heart. It helps sleep at night.

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  162. monidipa51 permalink
    13/05/2019 10:42 pm

    Our past experiences play a huge role in who we are and what we want. We all go through learning experiences that help us develop happier lives, but we can also be left wounded by losses, injustices, and regrets. If you are unable to let go of your past, you’ll struggle to give the future the attention it deserves, and you’ll miss out on the joy of living in the present. However, letting go is easier said than done, and you might find your mind constantly pulled back to the past even if you have a genuine desire to move on.

    Reply
  163. talamayfreelance permalink
    17/05/2019 6:43 pm

    I appreciate this conversation. Everyone has something in their past that they need to confront and make peace with even when they don’t want to.

    Reply
  164. John Sallie permalink
    08/06/2019 2:55 pm

    I believe that finding peace within is a lifetime journey. It requires finding the perfect balance of animal, spirit and ego.

    Reply
  165. Kenny Ngo permalink
    10/06/2019 9:49 pm

    Peace of mind is very important. Peace with our past also matters because unless we can make amends with the past, we won’t be able to move forward

    Reply
  166. HilLesha permalink
    21/08/2019 6:52 am

    Life is so fleeting! This is one of the reasons why making peace with our past is incredibly important.

    Reply
  167. TweenselMom (@TweenselMom) permalink
    22/08/2019 2:20 am

    Making peace of the past is forgetting about it, not just avoiding it.

    Reply
  168. Michele @ ourredonkulouslife permalink
    02/08/2021 2:16 am

    It has taken me years to get up the courage to deal with my past. There was a lot that I blamed my mother for, my father for and a lot I blamed on myself even though I was a child. I carried a lot of that burden into my adult life and it has affected many of my relationships. This has been the year to work on myself and figure out the lessons I needed to learn and keep them with me for the future.

    Reply

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