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Motivation Mondays: EXPECTATIONS

15/05/2017

“Let your dreams outgrow the shoes of your expectations.” Ryunosuke Satoro

Motivation Mondays: EXPECTATIONS - Set goals and stay open to change

Motivation Mondays: EXPECTATIONS – Set goals and stay open to change

When you have expectations, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Ryan Reynolds
Don’t lower your expectations to meet your performance. Raise your level of performance to meet your expectations. Expect the best of yourself, and then do what is necessary to make it a reality. Ralph Marston

What does the word EXPECTATION mean to you? Having an expectation is not quite the same as having a clear goal. When we set realistic goals and maintain a flexible and open mind about the outcome, we soon learn that life is in constant flux and things can change in one direction or the other in a whim. To avoid being carried away by our expectations and coming away disappointed, a measure of open acceptance of the range of possible outcomes is key. For months, I had eyed an event that sounded so fantastic. To attend it would have required jumping through hoops, making changes to prior plans and at great cost to me. After agonizing over it, I decided to sit down and map out the pros and cons and then make a decisive decision based on facts not emotions.

In holding unto unrealistic expectations and fantasizing about the event, I had allowed my expectations to run away from reason. Sure, I could throw caution to the winds and go anyway… I’ve done my share of random acts of impulsive decision-making and while some have worked out, others were a total disaster. With all the facts in front of me, I knew it would not make sense to go and so I skipped it. Later on, a friend informed me that it didn’t live up to her trumped up expectations and she wished she had skipped it too. The real point of this is that I could have attended the event, if it were feasible, and if I maintained an open, receptive mind about the outcomes. We do the same thing with relationships, work, and even our creative effort. If we could focus on being present and work steadily to accomplish our goals, we would have less to feel bad or disappointed about. So give life and serendipity a chance… come back for the rest soon. What were you expecting?

A Story: Learning the Hard Way
The son of a master thief asked his father to teach him the secrets of the trade. The old thief agreed and that night took his son to burglarize a large house. While the family was asleep, he silently led his young apprentice into a room that contained a clothes closet. The father told his son to go into the closet to pick out some clothes. When he did, his father quickly shut the door and locked him in. Then he went back outside, knocked loudly on the front door, thereby waking the family, and quickly slipped away before anyone saw him. Hours later, his son returned home, bedraggled and exhausted. “Father,” he cried angrily, “Why did you lock me in that closet? If I hadn’t been made desperate by my fear of getting caught, I never would have escaped. It took all my ingenuity to get out!” The old thief smiled. “Son, you have had your first lesson in the art of burglary.”

 

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“The expectations of life depend upon diligence; the mechanic that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools.” Confucius

Motivation Mondays: EXPECTATIONS - Set goals and stay open to change

Motivation Mondays: EXPECTATIONS – Set goals and stay open to change

If you align expectations with reality, you will never be disappointed. Terrell Owens
We can each define ambition and progress for ourselves. The goal is to work toward a world where expectations are not set by the stereotypes that hold us back, but by our personal passion, talents and interests. Sheryl Sandberg

 

What can we do to keep our expectations in check? Focus on the work at hand and make sure that goals are based on realistic principles and outcomes. This is not about not dreaming big. We can dream big while keeping our feet solidly on the ground. I recently read an article by Ayana Mathis who shared how her life changed after Oprah selected her novel – The Twelve Tribes of Hattie – as a book of the month, and how she suddenly became a celebrity with interviews, top reviews and sales to match. She wrote the book without those intentions. Sure, she wanted her book to sell and do well but she held no expectations about its success. The outcome turned out to be huge and she was delighted to ride that wave. Her effort at writing the book was her commitment to her creative output. Her goal was to finish it and get it published. The rest with Oprah was an unexpected icing on the cake. We could all use some of those special gifts.

The same can be said for childbirth. For years, a dear friend had challenges with conceiving and tried everything. With each disappointing result, she became despondent. One day, one of her doctors advised her to let her expectations go and make peace with the process. It took some time but, eventually,  she tempered her anxiety and wasn’t so overcome by the test results; she even decided to take a break from trying. One year later, she found herself pregnant and soon had a baby… there is something to be said for letting go of expectations  and going with the flow. When we allow expected outcomes to overrule realistic effort, we are setting ourselves up for failure. It is the old counting our chickens before the eggs are hatched syndrome, and the road to disappointment is littered with the carcasses of expectations that went awry. What are you expecting?

A Story: What Are You Expecting to See
Once there was an old man who lived at the top of a very high and dangerous precipice. Every morning he would sit at the edge of the cliff and view the surrounding mountains and forest. One day, after he set himself down for his usual meditation, he noticed something shiny at the very bottom of the precipice. Now even though it was very far below him, the old man had keen eyes and could just barely make out what it was. It looked like a rather large, black chest with gold trimmings – just sitting there atop a rock. “Where did it come from? What could be inside it?” the old man thought to himself…

Zen Stories from Users.rider.edu

Have a Happy, Healthy 2017!

 

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168 Comments leave one →
  1. adriana permalink
    15/05/2017 3:30 pm

    I love this! I agree with your interpretation of the word too. Having expectations come in shapes and sizes – reasonable and maybe the not so reasonable expectations! They definitely play a roll in every day life.

  2. HeidiDee permalink
    15/05/2017 3:32 pm

    I love this idea! I’ve always wanted to participate in one of these challenges, but I get distracted and don’t follow through! Monday motivation would be a good one to start out with!

  3. Morgan Jorgenson permalink
    15/05/2017 5:40 pm

    Always looking for more motivation! Thank you for doing just that!

  4. The Trophy WifeStyle permalink
    15/05/2017 5:43 pm

    I feel expectations are what ruin things! You can have a goal for things going great! But never expect too much out of something. Only person you can expect anything from is yourself

  5. Jessica Taylor permalink
    15/05/2017 5:44 pm

    I tend to expect a lot these days and I feel like everyone expects quite a bit out of me. Such an awesome post.

  6. Dawn McAlexander permalink
    15/05/2017 5:45 pm

    My expectations of myself are for only the best. Of others, I don’t have high expectations. Most everyone else is unreliable.

  7. Robin Rue permalink
    15/05/2017 6:01 pm

    I have certain expectations when it comes to certain things. LIke my kids behavior. I don’t think that is a bad thing, though 🙂

  8. Kristina permalink
    15/05/2017 6:09 pm

    I set too high of an expectations for myself on some things. I’m my worst critic.

  9. GlamKaren permalink
    15/05/2017 6:10 pm

    Expectations can mean a lot of things…especially in life. For work, it’s getting things done well. In personal matters it’s being our best selves and treating others kindly. Great things to think about!

  10. Melanie Smith permalink
    15/05/2017 6:24 pm

    I know this is a movie title but “What do you expect when you are expecting?” We are always expecting for something or someone our whole life and something we lose our time just expecting and doing nothing. Thank you for this motivation monday! So inspiring!

  11. Janel Berchielli (@JanelB) permalink
    15/05/2017 7:02 pm

    I always have high expectations when I go to certain events. But I try to allow myself flexibility in case things don’t work out as I was intending them too.

  12. natalielovesbeauty permalink
    15/05/2017 7:03 pm

    I really like that quote by Ryan Reynolds – so true. I also try not to set my expectations too high not to be disappointed in the end. It should however not impede on setting goals to challenge ourselves.

  13. Kristie of ceoMom permalink
    15/05/2017 7:52 pm

    Wow! What a way to look at things differently. I know that I have slacked in this area so I can appreciate everything you shared here!

  14. darmarq permalink
    15/05/2017 8:39 pm

    Fantasizing about an event is the worst for happiness. I try to keep my expectations low and neutral so I don’t set myself up for dissapointment!

  15. sincerelyophelia permalink
    15/05/2017 8:41 pm

    Love all your monday motivation posts! This really keeps my mind thinking. What DOES expectation mean to me…

  16. Kristine Nicole Alessandra permalink
    15/05/2017 11:01 pm

    You asked what I think expectation is. Well, for me, expectation is the knowledge that I will receive something. The only thing I hate with expectation is that sometimes I set the bar too high and then I get frustrated if i did not get everything as planned.

  17. wonderlingblog permalink
    15/05/2017 11:07 pm

    It can be really tricky to set ourselves realistic goals and have realistic expectations, as we all want to achieve our full potential, but there are always obstacles in the way. I guess always having a plan B helps!

  18. kelly reci permalink
    15/05/2017 11:22 pm

    i agree that we should focus on our goals to meet our expectations for the better future!

  19. Sadhna Shanker permalink
    15/05/2017 11:24 pm

    Nice one on expectations and managing them. I liked the idea of stories within the post. both the stories were great. Thanks

  20. rochkirstin permalink
    15/05/2017 11:40 pm

    Sometimes I shy away from having expectations because I’m afraid to have additional disappointments. It’s also nice to be surprised with what’s to come and feel good about it.

  21. Marceline Dementori permalink
    16/05/2017 12:36 am

    Expectations can really make you feel low and disappointed. It’s important the we don’t expect too much especially from others. I think that’s a lesson that I had to learn the hard way.

  22. Hannah Marie permalink
    16/05/2017 12:53 am

    I love how this is written. I have a problem with expectation, it’s always so high that I get disappointed most of the time. I know, I should be just enjoy the process and not expect too much. I am still learning on this.

  23. Ana De-Jesus permalink
    16/05/2017 1:16 am

    That is why I try and turn my expectations into goals, because there is a clear divide between the two. I can expect that success will come to me but it wont happen unless I make goals to get there.

  24. Cassie @ Be Forever Healthier permalink
    16/05/2017 2:37 am

    I really enjoy your motivational monday series – I have read a few now and I’ll be back. I think it’s great to start the week off in a positive manner 🙂

  25. Kait permalink
    16/05/2017 3:26 am

    I am very guilty of having high expectations, and I think that I can force things to happen. I then get very upset and disappointed when it doesn’t go the way I want. Letting go of my over the top expectations is a constant goal of mine and learning to accept things as they happen while balancing that with perseverance seems to be my never ending battle.

  26. Jenni Petrey permalink
    16/05/2017 4:34 am

    I am forever telling people that their expectations of children need to realistic and achievable. I work in early childhood education so this mindset is a must.

  27. Jeannette permalink
    16/05/2017 5:25 am

    Reading what your friend went through with trying to have a baby and how hard she was trying, I was about to say my friend went through the same thing and the second she relaxed about it they were pregnant! Its amazing what your body will do when it is not expected to do it on you time instead if your body’s time! I am glad she is a parent now!

  28. Jessica Joachim permalink
    16/05/2017 6:16 am

    I have always been one to have unrealistic expectations of things. I found that letting go of that makes me a much happier person

  29. priti permalink
    16/05/2017 6:28 am

    Human mind is always bound to expectations, even when we are leaving comments on a blog or asking to comment on a blog – we have some expectations, But yes keeping these expectations at a level where we do not fall of track and life is still happy makes it so much better. i love this post.

  30. Everyday Made Fresh permalink
    16/05/2017 6:56 am

    Expectations…I always set the bar high, and then when my expectations aren’t met, it leaves me feeling let down.

  31. 조이 Czjai (@RebelSweetHrt) permalink
    16/05/2017 7:12 am

    Rather than expecting too much (because I hate disappointments), I’d rather hope for the best. More often than not, it is when I expect least that I receive more blessings. 🙂

  32. MaryAnne permalink
    16/05/2017 7:18 am

    I always enjoy reading your posts! thank you for sharing as everyweek!

  33. Amanda Love permalink
    16/05/2017 7:49 am

    Expectations, I’ve grown tired of them to be honest. No matter how high or low my expectations are it seems like it is never going to be met. I’ve decided to not expect anything from anyone anymore. It’s so much better that way.

  34. Jeanine permalink
    16/05/2017 7:50 am

    I think I, for the most part, have really high, and unreal expectations. I am trying to work on it though and be more realistic.

  35. Christine Cox permalink
    16/05/2017 8:24 am

    Your posts always get me thinking deeper and I always come up with some kind of a lesson that I can teach to my children. Love your story about the thief. It brings your whole post together.

  36. kasturi permalink
    16/05/2017 9:54 am

    It’s so deep and thought provoking. In fact it reminds me of something my dad used to say a lot when I was growing up. Your expectations are the causes of your misery and unfortunately, they are all made up by you, in your head, that’s what he’d say. 🙂

    Cheers!
    Kasturi

  37. Bailey permalink
    16/05/2017 10:19 am

    I love this! It really makes me do a survey of my life to see where my expectations are. I know in my marriage, I’ve had unreasonable expectations that have caused strife. Managing these expectations is so important.

  38. Tiara Wilson permalink
    16/05/2017 10:42 am

    I always love going through your motivation Monday posts. I do agree, about the difference between expectations and goals.

  39. Cindy Ingalls permalink
    16/05/2017 10:48 am

    It is hard to balance your expectations in certain situations. For me it depends on the situation. Sometimes when I go with in no expectations, I enjoy the process so much better.

  40. Blythe Alpern permalink
    16/05/2017 10:49 am

    I think setting goals is a better way to live life as opposed to setting expectations. Goals give you something to work for and to achieve. They are also more flexible than setting expectations.

  41. Beso Beauty permalink
    16/05/2017 11:14 am

    I really appreciate that you include these stories, quotes and allow for reflection on your topics. I look forward to the Monday motivations every week! 🙂

  42. Rosey permalink
    16/05/2017 11:17 am

    Goals and expectations do differ. They are complimentary sometimes too.

  43. Krista Bel permalink
    16/05/2017 11:21 am

    This was such an insightful read. I loved every minute. I especially Liked The Burglary Story. Too many lessons to be learned.

  44. Latasha (@ArtsandBudgets) permalink
    16/05/2017 12:08 pm

    Motivation is definitely what keeps me going during trials and tribulations! It’s very needed for a happy life.

  45. ejnosillA/RedefiningHERstory permalink
    16/05/2017 12:14 pm

    i really like this post. I do find that we as people are always expecting something which oftentimes leads us to be disappointed because our expectations do not reflect our realities!

  46. Amber permalink
    16/05/2017 12:47 pm

    Yes, I so prefer to go with the flow. I try not to have high expectations because it can always go badly if you do that.

  47. Hey Sharonoox permalink
    16/05/2017 1:00 pm

    I really like the story about the thief & his son. It’s a lesson learned to expect the unexpected. I’m expecting a package to arrive today.

  48. Akamatra permalink
    16/05/2017 1:11 pm

    I enjoyed the story with the young thief. I often tell myself not to have great expectations in order to avoid disappointment but it doesn’t always work

  49. Corinne & Kirsty 🌸 (@corinnekirsty) permalink
    16/05/2017 1:29 pm

    My only expectation of Mondays are a lot of thing to catch up with after the weekend. But also a new week so a new adventure. so my expectations are quite aligned with reality! xx corinne

  50. reesa permalink
    16/05/2017 1:55 pm

    It’s funny how our expectations can really completely change things. I have learned to lower my expectations of things and I have a much better time!

  51. Jessica@HappilyHughes permalink
    16/05/2017 2:56 pm

    I think you really have to be careful with your expectations. I’ve heard many people say they have no expectations in order to not have to feel disappointment or else they always expect negative results in order to not be surprised when something bad happens. On the other hand, others always have high expectations and are crushed when they are not met. I think you are exactly right when saying that you should maintain an open and flexible state of mind when it comes to expectations and accept a range of possible outcomes.

  52. Beth Davidson permalink
    16/05/2017 3:58 pm

    The burglar story made me laugh. From now on, I will make sure my son really has to focus to commit criminal activity. 🙂 I have unrealistic expectations for myself every morning, but I keep going anyway. There’s just no other way for me.

  53. Julie Syl & Paul permalink
    16/05/2017 4:19 pm

    Okay I kind of Agree and Disagree with the Synopsis on Expectations.

    Here s where I dont agree: I Disagree with the Take on Expectations…In order to achieve something one has got to desire it and EXPECT to receive it. Then Go rogth ahead and plan it, strategise and WORK their plan…tweak and change as needed until desired result.
    If there is no expectation to get desired resukts, then it will not be achieved. The people who do not achieve their expectations are those who do nt take FULL responsibility for their success. It really does take that Dogged focus on the prize to get it…
    WITH THAT SAID, i know that to get the desired results faster, one has GOT TO LET GO of IT and focus on the JOURNEY and LIVE in the NOW ths creating ease and a pathway to receive what they desire…! 🙂 So right here is where I agree with you.
    My two pence!
    Julie Syl

  54. Claudia Krusch permalink
    16/05/2017 5:20 pm

    Having unrealistic expectations can really set yourself up for failure. I try to work my way up to bigger things.

  55. Carmi Joice permalink
    16/05/2017 7:36 pm

    I reckon it’s alright to set some realistic expectations so long as you mentally prepare yourself for the disappointment. Expectations, for me, somehow play as a blueprint of your planned goals.

  56. 1stclassrvadventures permalink
    16/05/2017 7:52 pm

    I absolutely love this article and I love the reminder to raise our level of performance to meet our expectations! This is so true!

  57. Jennifer permalink
    16/05/2017 8:35 pm

    I think you bring up good points about letting go of expectations. One thing I have done in my life is focused on my expectations and get very frustrated when they weren’t met. It is something I am still working on, but I hope to come to peace with not stressing out on the expectations and instead focus on the progress and journey.

  58. Chloe Ranford permalink
    16/05/2017 8:45 pm

    Can’t get over how inspirational this is! I especially love the idea of letting expectations go and going with the flow. It’s so important to bask in the joys of the present, and sometimes expectations can interfere with this!

  59. terristeffes permalink
    16/05/2017 8:58 pm

    I sometimes deal with unrealistic expectations when it comes to my family. I have to remember that we are all human and make mistakes.

  60. Kristine Nicole Alessandra permalink
    16/05/2017 10:47 pm

    The thing with expectations is we anticipate something in exchange for the hard work we put in. I mean, isn’t that how it is supposed to be? However, the real world does not work that way. You may be rewarded, or you may not. I think the best way to avoid feeling frustrated when expectations are not met is to NOT expect something in return. If it comes, then good! If not, then no worries!

  61. Misty Nelson permalink
    16/05/2017 11:05 pm

    This was exactly the motivation that I needed. I’m terrible at letting my expectations overwhelm me and setting myself up for dissapointment. I feel like it’s gotten worse as I’ve gotten older too. More stubborn, more unrealistic about the things I expect from others. Thank you for the reminder that i need to reign it in a bit.

  62. Rebecca Swenor permalink
    16/05/2017 11:40 pm

    Expectation to me means expecting something that isn’t really a reality. I don’t know if that makes sense but my mother always told me to go into things without expectations. Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts.

  63. elizabethbrico permalink
    17/05/2017 12:44 am

    These are really useful, practical tips. I have a lot of problems with managing expectations…mostly with feeling extremely dejected and depressed if I don’t meet them!

  64. ken knight permalink
    17/05/2017 1:20 am

    The creativity of the burglar’s son’s story express the point of this Expectations vs what you can do, but never liked these kind of stories. Our minds is yet to be conquered by ourselves, our expectations will disappoint us if we keep on holding on to it rather than working our way beyond it.

  65. rhianwestbury permalink
    17/05/2017 2:47 am

    I tend to have quite a lot of unreal expectations as I think I can do a lot more than I really can, and it’s usually down to a lack of time x

  66. Leah permalink
    17/05/2017 3:49 am

    This is so important to remember!! Me and my Fiance say that’s how we found each other – because we gave up expecting to find the perfect person and started focusing on ourselves and what makes us happy. Thank you for this <3

  67. Katja Knox permalink
    17/05/2017 4:31 am

    “When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.” said Donald Miller and i agree with him fully!
    Katja

  68. Dana permalink
    17/05/2017 4:34 am

    These past two years since giving birth to my first born have really forced me to keep my expectations in check without feeling guilty or without disappointing myself. You’re advice to focus on the work at hand and about staying grounded while still dreaming big is exactly what I feel that has worked for me. By coming to terms with the fact that I’m not perfect and aren’t supposed to be, I can actually get things done and enjoy the process while being more relaxed and attuned to myself.

  69. thehouseturnedhome permalink
    17/05/2017 6:08 am

    Great post on expectations! It is important to have them, but to not be judgy about it and learn to adapt if your expectations aren’t met.

  70. Angela Tolsma permalink
    17/05/2017 6:24 am

    I love the burglary story. Getting locked in the closet is a sure fire way for me to get going! Expectations can be an interesting thing to learn and feel out. Expectations from others is the hardest sometimes.

  71. makeamomsmile permalink
    17/05/2017 6:27 am

    I Love all your Motivation Monday Posts! They are always inspiring and full of wisdom, keep up the good work!

  72. Nati permalink
    17/05/2017 6:50 am

    I’ve been through years and years of psychotherapy because “I don’t have expectations” and this seem to be quite a problem in a society. I’ve never figured people could have issues for having too many expectations?? I struggle to barely expect anything from something or someone.

  73. Angela Ricardo Bethea permalink
    17/05/2017 6:58 am

    I totally agree that it is possible to dream big while keeping yourself on the ground. Never expect too
    much to anyone or to anything to avoid disappointment.

  74. Marcie in Mommyland permalink
    17/05/2017 7:08 am

    I definitely have high expectations of myself and my family. This often leaves me frustrated and disappointed. I’m trying to limit expectations, but it’s so hard.

  75. courtneyrandrews permalink
    17/05/2017 7:34 am

    Great post! I try to find a good balance between managing my expectations but also not having too low or too high expectations. It’s a daily learning process 🙂

  76. Misty - Frosted Moms (@frostedevents) permalink
    17/05/2017 7:44 am

    What a lovely message I enjoy reading this article and so glad that you share this inspiring post for us.

  77. Anosa permalink
    17/05/2017 7:50 am

    Expectation versus reality sometimes differs. But for me we need to at least provide some sort of expectation but don’t live always trying to meet expectations of others.

  78. Only By Land permalink
    17/05/2017 7:50 am

    That’s a very interesting method the master thief used to teach his son. I guess his son was learning the emotions of being in the real situation!

  79. Franc Ramon permalink
    17/05/2017 8:00 am

    Expectations can go two ways. It can be a drive that pushes you to your goal and the other is it can lead to frustrations but the important thing is to find the right balance.

  80. Elizabeth permalink
    17/05/2017 8:07 am

    I have mixed emotions about expectation. In one hand, having expectations, especially of others, sets you up for disappointment when they don’t meet them, but then expectations can also be goals to strive towards…

  81. Keeping Up With Candy permalink
    17/05/2017 8:17 am

    When I have expectations, I ‘expect’ them. I don’t think it’s a matter or setting yourself up for disappoints. Sometimes things fall through and sometimes they don’t. C’est la vie!

  82. Jay Colby permalink
    17/05/2017 8:40 am

    I love this post “Focus on the work at hand and make sure that goals are based on realistic principles and outcomes” resonates with me so much. This is a great lessons for all of us to learn.

  83. saidat permalink
    17/05/2017 8:42 am

    it is so true that expectations make one not appreciate the small and nice things in life.

  84. Carolyn permalink
    17/05/2017 8:42 am

    Love the stories especially the burglar one. I do need to manage my expectations sometimes I have everything too set in my mind of how everything should work out and when something changes it I freak out.

  85. leuchocojummy permalink
    17/05/2017 8:42 am

    it is so true that expectations make one not appreciate the small and nice things in life.

  86. beckysbestbites permalink
    17/05/2017 8:59 am

    I find when I set my expectations too high, I am often disappointed. My anxiety overwhelms me and I often can’t concentrate on my goals.

  87. Heather Riccobono (@BrieBrieBlooms) permalink
    17/05/2017 9:14 am

    It’s so hard to set the right expectations when you have children at home. I’m so much better now than years ago at expecting the worst so I’m nicely surprised when things go differently.

  88. Boho Chic (@TotallyTerris) permalink
    17/05/2017 9:30 am

    I tend to confuse expectations with my goals. I expect to lose weight because it’s a goal, lol. I need to work on separating the two.

  89. Megan permalink
    17/05/2017 9:41 am

    I try to only have expectations of myself. I have found expecting anything out of others often leads to disappointment.

  90. Travel Blogger permalink
    17/05/2017 10:08 am

    I think part of keeping our expectations in check means creating step by step plans to reach our goals and being realistic. It is easy to get wrapped in big dreams, but we have to actually follow through and being willing to put in the hard work.

  91. Laura Gabrielle Feasey permalink
    17/05/2017 10:15 am

    My boyfriend always says it’s better to expect nothing, i.e go in with low expectations and then be surprised than to build something up! Trying to take his lead when it comes to that…

  92. Michelle Waller permalink
    17/05/2017 10:39 am

    To me, an expectation means a goal I set for myself and want to accomplish within a specific amount of time. I love what you feel an expectation is.

  93. Fashionable Librarian permalink
    17/05/2017 11:49 am

    Unrealistic expectations can cause great marriages and other relationships to come to an end. We must be wise in the things we expect from others

  94. Kori (@koriathome) permalink
    17/05/2017 12:13 pm

    Oh gosh. You know, I’ve learned to try not to set my expectations too high- for fear of disappointment. But, I’ve also learned that sometimes you need to be disappointed or let down so you can figure out another solution.

  95. MyYellowApron permalink
    17/05/2017 12:48 pm

    Aligning ourselves with reality is very important. It may not seem glamorous, but it’s the way to attain peace.

  96. Ronnie Epsi permalink
    17/05/2017 2:29 pm

    Loved that story about the thief! It reminds me of mother birds forcing their kids to fly once they’re ready.. that jump is just necessary to move forward. I myself am trying to keep my expectations reasonable but still work hard to achieve my goals.

  97. lavonnia1978 permalink
    17/05/2017 3:50 pm

    Thank you so much for this beautiful message. You have great words of wisdom!

  98. lex permalink
    17/05/2017 5:29 pm

    motivation monday posts to help me start the day so well, bad i didnt read this for a start to monday but am grateful i had to read thisnow. well done Elizabeth, am motivated.

  99. Tami @ ThisMomsDelight permalink
    17/05/2017 7:46 pm

    I don’t always keep my expectations in check. I appreciate the reminder to do so.

  100. Cindy Dent Gordon permalink
    17/05/2017 7:57 pm

    The work you do here is so great. You keep people staying positive and pushing themselves. I appreciate you very much.

  101. Rosey permalink
    17/05/2017 8:08 pm

    Using reasoning over spontaneity often makes a lot more sense. Expectations often outweigh reality, that is def. true.

  102. Molly permalink
    17/05/2017 9:30 pm

    I believe that expectations are how we can encourage or dissuade ourselves from achieving something. Making sure to master the mind in not limiting our potential is paramount for our success in life.

  103. Shirley permalink
    17/05/2017 10:39 pm

    Monday is important day and it is good to be positive through out the week. Expectations and motivations both are important.

  104. Katherin O mailey permalink
    17/05/2017 10:59 pm

    Thanks for the Motivation! I need it Nowadays.

  105. toastycritic permalink
    17/05/2017 11:24 pm

    I think it’s really hard to manage expectations anymore in the age of instant gratification. Everyone wants what they want and they want it now. So when things don’t turn out like they want, and they rarely every do, they are always disappointed.

  106. kim permalink
    18/05/2017 1:05 am

    You are right. Having an expectation isn’t the same as having a goal. We should start sticking to our goal, and not be distracted by our expectations. If something doesn’t go as expected, we should keep going and keep pushing to get to the goal still.

  107. alisonrost permalink
    18/05/2017 2:08 am

    I used to live my life with expectations about everything! That is until I started reading about countries that are the happiest in the world. The people there don’t have expectations, so when something good happens it always seems like a happy surprise. I’ve been living with that mindset for a while now and it truly has made a difference!

  108. 18/05/2017 2:28 am

    Wonderful post with some great advice. Loved the master thief’s training method particularly 🙂 Hope all is well with you Eliz.

    • 18/05/2017 3:06 pm

      So good to hear from you dear one! It’s been a long while and seems like ages ago when we were part of the photography group. <3

  109. Freya Farrington permalink
    18/05/2017 4:28 am

    As you say, it’s important to not have expectations as you never know what will happen, that being said, there’s no harm in having dreams and goals and ambitions!

  110. elenasts permalink
    18/05/2017 4:41 am

    I had so many expectations before but not anymore. I learned to trust myself only and expect things from myself only not from others.

  111. Pooja Kawatra Gupta permalink
    18/05/2017 6:56 am

    Expectation is quite a tricky thought as most of the time it leads to disappointment and the entire efforts goes wasted but instead just keep doing the stuff.

  112. The Trophy WifeStyle permalink
    18/05/2017 8:56 am

    I swear having expectations in other people leads to failure. People never Life up to the hype. Only person you should expect anything from is yourself

  113. Rahul Khurana permalink
    18/05/2017 9:45 am

    It’s true that expectations are the main reason of our disappointments, whether be it in relations or with ourselves too. We tend to fantasise about things that are not real. The key to happiness is to not expect but just deliver. 🙂

  114. Garf permalink
    18/05/2017 10:10 am

    I try to expect less from people so I don’t get disappointed a lot. I am doing that because I easily get disappointed if my expectations did not meet.

  115. Peachy @ The Peach Kitchen permalink
    18/05/2017 12:40 pm

    When it comes to expectations, I only set it at medium/realistic ones because I don’t wanna be disappointed. I found out that it’s much effective that way.

  116. 18/05/2017 1:32 pm

    I too have had my fair share of random impulsive moments. I agree with that when you’re trying to get pregnant you become consumed with test results and symptoms.

  117. Julie Syl Kalungi permalink
    18/05/2017 3:36 pm

    Wow what a Story, I laughed hard at the master thief’s stype of training, yet the apprentice did manage to free himself so lesson learnt! Expectations…Hmmm I believe we have to set some in life or we simply drift. Plus Desire must go with expectation….the key to activate all this is ACTION! Right Elizabeth? powerful post as always

  118. Cassie Tucker permalink
    18/05/2017 5:03 pm

    This is something I struggle with daily. I always expect too much of myself and when I fall short in my eyes I feel like others look down on me as well.

  119. lydia permalink
    18/05/2017 5:15 pm

    As for expectations, I agree with Peachy! I only set realistic goals, although every few ones are pretty out there.

  120. RonRon permalink
    18/05/2017 6:06 pm

    The master thief’s training method is exceptional! Thanks for sharing this post as it gives me more idea regarding setting expectations and setting a goal.

  121. Yona Williams permalink
    18/05/2017 6:36 pm

    I really like the quote, ‘let your dreams outgrow the shoes of your expectations.’ When you really visualize it, those are powerful words.

  122. Kristine Nicole Alessandra permalink
    18/05/2017 9:09 pm

    When we expect too much, that is where disappointment sets in. I learned that the hard way. Now, I only set reasonable goals, with a short time frame. That way, I don’t get frustrated with the results I get.

  123. toughcookiemommy permalink
    18/05/2017 10:03 pm

    The word expectation means reaching goals within an allotted time. It also means being treated and addressed in a specific way by others.

  124. jamesog2008 permalink
    19/05/2017 12:25 am

    I am not a fan on relying on others when it comes to important things. Which is why I keep my expectations low and if they beat it, I’ll be happy to be wrong.

  125. Ravi permalink
    19/05/2017 2:47 am

    That reminds me of “Seven Habits by Stephen Covey”.Keeping expectations on a realistic level always pays off!

  126. 19/05/2017 4:19 am

    I have always found expectations can run away with your sanity if you’re not careful. I find the key is to work in small steps, achieve one goal at time and eventually the higher expectations will come.

  127. Neha permalink
    19/05/2017 7:14 am

    expectations should be realistic and so, it also leads to disappointment when not fulfilled.

  128. Katja Knox permalink
    19/05/2017 7:56 am

    “The expectations of life depend upon diligence; the mechanic that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools.” Confucius
    Katja

  129. Amanda permalink
    19/05/2017 9:03 am

    I love your short stories! The first one got a big giggle out of me. I try not to set high expectations in others. At the end of the day you have to count on yourself and try to set realistic goals that are attainable.

  130. Krystal permalink
    19/05/2017 10:02 am

    Some great advice shared!

  131. Bhushavali permalink
    19/05/2017 10:09 am

    Keeping the expectations lower helps to get happy and surprised easily! High expectations just creates disappointments!

  132. Fred permalink
    19/05/2017 12:29 pm

    As a movie blogger, I associate the word ‘expectations’ with movie hype. Too much hype leads to heightened anticipation and expectations. Most of the time, it does lead to disappointment when the film does not deliver.

  133. helerinablogs permalink
    20/05/2017 3:43 am

    Expectations are tough as we all have them and they usually lead to disappointment as everyone expects different things. I try not to expect too much and set reasonable goals.

  134. Rebecca Swenor permalink
    20/05/2017 3:53 am

    Expectation to me means something that is real or something that is not real that you think is to come My mother always said not to expect anything when doing something for others. Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts..

  135. Heather permalink
    20/05/2017 8:00 am

    Expectations constantly get me in trouble. I am not always good at keeping realistic expectations – but it is something that I am working on. I am trying to drop the expectations in favor of goals and feelings.

  136. MomTraNeur permalink
    20/05/2017 11:39 am

    Since my ex left me and my life has been turned upside-down (for the better), I’ve learned to let go of expectations. You’re right: “Be free from expectations and focus on the goal by being present every day in every way.” This has been working for me and continues to work for me as I live my life now as a mother and life partner. 🙂

  137. dreamingloud permalink
    22/05/2017 8:20 am

    Wonderful post as always. Loved the Master thief story. I am learning to have more realistic expectations in life. I have had my share of disappointment from myself and others with expectations but it all a learning experience we all must go through

  138. famousashleygrant permalink
    22/05/2017 1:06 pm

    I used to believe “no expectations, no disappointments.” Now that I’m older, I see that the real problem I encountered most of my life was unrealistic expectations. This post was a fabulous reminder to be realistic, yet still have expectations because without them, we don’t always know if the outcome was a success or not.

  139. Salwa Kisswani (@SalwaKisswani) permalink
    22/05/2017 7:27 pm

    thank you for this awesome post. I love motivation Mondays it’s just very motivating and inspiring

  140. Lillian permalink
    26/05/2017 8:22 am

    I often think I’ve let go of expectations only to discover I’ve exchanged positive expectations for negative ones. I like your final motivation tip.

  141. Tiffany Yong permalink
    27/05/2017 11:47 pm

    That story about the burglar/ son reminds me of the law of attraction and how you have to really want something to get something!

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