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Friendships: Something So Strong….

“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.” Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Friendships: Something So Strong….

Friendships: Something So Strong….

Friends … something so strong
Memories from childhood play
Coursing through our veins

What is true friendship to you? True friendship is like a rock by the sea. The waves crash against it but it stays steady and strong…

“A single rose can be my garden… a single friend, my world.” Leo Buscaglia

Friendships: Something So Strong….

Friendships: Something So Strong….

Friendships… like rosebuds
Unfurl, blossoming with time
Deepening the love

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Musings: What’s On Your List?

“I believe that all humans have moments of inspiration when we perceive truth. These moments usually occur when the mind is quiet–when we perceive the force of life through our feelings.”  don Miguel Ruiz

Musings: What’s On Your List? Your heart’s list?

Seth Godin is one of my favorite marketing geniuses and an accomplished writer/blogger. Whenever I need to remind myself why certain things I choose to do matter, I go back to his writings and his blog for fuel. You see, Seth is not an advocate of the herd/bandwagon effect, he is more for finding our voice, following what matters to our hearts and damn the consequences. Now, I don’t mean that in a nonchalant way, but that as we continue to follow our hearts, what we do feels solid inside of us so no matter which way the winds blow, we remain steady on our course. We might stumble or even fall down sometimes, but that is the test of our metier and can only make us stronger.

Recently, I received two posts from him that resonated with me. The first, What’s On Your List, poses two important questions: How often do you remind yourself of what’s on the list? If the first thing you do when considering an opportunity is consult the list, the list is the most important thing in your life, isn’t it? Basically, bucket lists are only good if we act on them. Another point is that many of us don’t respond spontaneously to opportunities that make us joyful because we are busy calculating our risk and wondering if it belongs on our list of shoulds. The advice is to just go with it. Live. Dare to be different. We can learn to enjoy the liberating feeling of stepping out of our comfort zone and there is tremendous personal growth there.

“Some people wonder all their lives if they’ve made a difference. The Marines don’t have that problem.” Ronald Reagan

Musings: What’s On Your List? Fire Up your muse…

The other post is Do we have to pander? In this one, he exhorts us to stay true to what matters to us and to not allow shifting winds to distract us from our hearts desire. There were a couple of lines that stood out for me: “Restaurants serve chicken fingers to their guests’ kids, because it’s the only thing they’ll eat. Some comedians give up their best work in exchange for jokes that everyone will get.” and “Yes, you can have a blog that follows every rule of blogging and seo, but no, it won’t be a blog we’ll miss if it’s gone.” The point he makes is that we go back to why we started it all and refocus on that original impulse as that is what will sustain us. Why settle for sameness? Stay true to you. The fact is that we can’t be everything to everybody.  I started this blog in 2008, and I recall that for many months I barely had any traffic. Then I had one subscriber, then another, and one committed blog friend and then another. Over time, it changed and has gotten infinitely better. I thank all who have supported this blog both outwardly and silently. Actually, the silent readers continue to be a surprising source of amazing grace too.

Two other bits of reading on my mind are Things To Stop Dwelling On from O Magazine. In it, Oprah offers advice on 10 things to stop sweating over and they include whether or not someone is mad at you, doing better than you, and the rudeness of strangers…  Rudeness is a pet peeve of mine and I had to laugh when I saw it on the list… Let it go. I encourage you to read the rest. Finally, Mamakat’s recent workshop prompt asks us to: List the 6 best things about being an adult. Making decisions and standing by them is adult for me. Honoring ourselves even if others don’t is another important one. When was the last time you treated yourself to something fun or pampered yourself? What’s stopping you? Other people’s opinions? What a waste of precious time, please go for it! The operative word for me this summer is FUN! Live boldly. :-) More below!

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Musings: What Time Is It?

“Difficult times have helped me to understand better than before, how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way, and that so many things that one goes worrying about are of no importance whatsoever…” Isak Dinesen

Musings: What Time Is It?

Recently, on the NY subway, a man turned to me and asked, “What time is it?” I looked at him, not sure if he really wanted the time or was just using an old pick up line… I guess I didn’t react fast enough because he asked the question again; this time with a touch of impatience in his voice. “Miss, what time is it?” I looked up at the digital clock, displayed in military time, on the roof of the subway car and pointing to it said, “There’s the time, 10;05am!” “Thanks! I can’t see it.” He replied. I was startled. He didn’t look blind to me and I doubt he had confused read with see. He sensed my surprise and turning to look at me, he said in a calm voice. “Yeah, I don’t have a stick but I’m legally blind alright.”

I wasn’t sure how to respond, even though the term and condition is one I am familiar with in my own family. According to notes in Wikipedia,  “In North America and most of Europe, legal blindness is defined as visual acuity (vision) of 20/200 (6/60) or less in the better eye with best correction possible. This means that a legally blind individual would have to stand 20 feet (6.1 m) from an object to see it—with corrective lenses—with the same degree of clarity as a normally sighted person could from 200 feet (61 m).”  I smiled nervously at him and he, smiling right at me, turned his attention back to his thoughts.

“The time is always right to do what is right.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

Musings: What Time Is It?

What struck me, in that simple exchange on the subway ride that morning, was how important it is not to make assumptions of people and situations. Even when things appear one way, the back story could be something completely different. There was a time, back in the day, when subway muggings were high. I remember when there was a rash of jewelry muggings that sometimes began with the question “What time is it?”

Over the years, especially in the Rudolf Giuliani years, tremendous effort was made to quell the problem. Nevertheless, the memory of subway muggings still linger in many minds; including mine.  So that morning, a legally blind man who could see me up close, but couldn’t see the digital clock above his head, reminded me of the importance of not judging others blindly; of not assuming things; and of the value in simply reaching out to genuinely ask or answer the question: What time is it? More below!

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