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Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact

“Making eye contact with adults while dressed as a clown is risky.” Doug Coupland

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact  - Dress like a clown

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact – Dress like a clown

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact - Want a Cat's love

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact – Want a Cat’s love

someecards.com - I hope you understand that staring at you makes me anxious, mad and sad. I shoot the arrows and you get the girl.
When You’re feeling anxious, mad or sad.

How/When to Avoid Making Eye Contact: ♥When dressed as a clown – wear dark glasses or look down. Some people are deathly scared of clowns.
♥Apparently, Cats don’t like being looked at – Sneer instead or wink at them. Let them do the staring and save you the hassle. My cat has it down.
♥If you’re feeling anxious, mad or sad – stay away from the source of pain

It’s common knowledge that eye contact is an important part of communication. We make eye contact to establish trust, familiarity, confidence and even friendship with others. Some use eye contact to intimidate or stare down an opponent. For a shy person, making eye contact can be a challenge because it’s uncomfortable for some of us to look directly into the eyes of other people; especially the eyes of strangers. With some effort, we can learn to look without feeling terrified.

“If you go flying back through time, and you see somebody else flying forward into the future, it’s probably best to avoid eye contact” Jack Handy

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact  - Wear Google glass

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact – Wear Google glass

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact - Public stalls and urinals

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact – Public stalls and urinals

someecards.com - Listen, I had a dream and a guy on something called a TV was saying, Google me, tweet me, facebook me. Maybe I'm drunk.

How/When to Avoid Making Eye Contact: ♥While wearing Google Glass… Just say “okay glass,” and it takes care of everything – no eye contact needed. ♥When Sitting in a stall or using a urinal at a public bathroom, it is definitely not a time to stare – feel free to close your eyes.
♥Watching your favorite TV character in a drunken moment demands averted eyes – feel his pain with eyes cast asunder.

When I researched the topic online, there were lots of articles on how to make  effective eye contact, articles on cultures that don’t encourage direct eye contact out of respect, and on the benefits of looking directly at others when we speak. For this post on “How To do something,” I decided to take the path of humor which is always a great way to break the ice. Some of the suggestions are true and others are tongue in cheek.

“I’m hopeless at small talk and have a problem making eye contact.” Gary Numan

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact  - Be Pinocchio and tell a lie

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact – Be Pinocchio and tell a lie

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact - Eat a banana

Humor: How & When To Avoid Making Eye Contact – Eat a banana

someecards.com - When I'm feeling inferior, I go for a drive. My car makes all the eye contacts I usually avoid.
When you’re feeling inferior/insecure

How/When to Avoid Making Eye Contact: ♥When telling a lie, the eyes will give you away unless you’re a seasoned pathological liar – best to avert the gaze of another when fibbing.
♥When eating a banana or a lollipop, keep your eyes to yourself – don’t ask me why, do the math.
♥If you’re feeling insecure or down on yourself, avoid eye contact especially with manipulative types – they know the look and feed off it. Take a De-stress ride.

I found it quite interesting reading some of the articles on making eye contact. There is an impressive body of work with great insights on the subject. A Google search gave me about 539,000,000 results and I’ve added some links in the post. More below!

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Writing Challenge: How To Keep Love In Your Heart…

“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” Oscar Wilde

Writing Challenge: How To Keep Love In Your Heart...

Writing Challenge: How To Keep Love In Your Heart…

I. Have An Intention to Love More
When I read this week’s writing challenge,  I knew it was time to go back to StripGenerator and create some strips as part of my How To project for this post.  As I mulled over a number of topic choices,  I was reminded again that the subject of love never gets tired or old.  We recently celebrated Valentine’s Day and while some of us enjoyed the festivities with the usual; chocolates and jewelry, others sat home reliving old hurts or reminiscing about loved ones who’d passed away. I feel that even a small shift  in our intention to love more, would be a great way to help us all move forward.

“Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.” H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Writing Challenge: How To Keep Love In Your Heart...

Writing Challenge: How To Keep Love In Your Heart…

II. Practice The Action Steps Listed
If you read the strips, you’d see that  the group  learned about the concept of love and developed a list on how to keep love in our hearts. What I loved about creating the strips is that I had to give the characters clear and specific roles, and then make sure that the words they spoke and ideas shared were consistent.  How do we keep love in our hearts? The  following actions; forgiveness, compassion, helping and sharing, and self love, will not only open our hearts to love fully again but they are important tools for life. We can start with forgiving ourselves and those who have hurt us. A while ago, I had an unpleasant exchange with  someone and every time I saw them, I would feel a twinge of  hurt and anger. When it be came unbearable, I knew I had to let it go by forgiving the person,  letting the event go, and forgiving myself. We must honor both sides.   More below!

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