Tag Archives: character

Musings: A Steadfast Love…

“Wealth stays with us a little moment if at all: only our characters are steadfast, not our gold.” Euripides

Musings: From Steadfast To Surrender

Musings: From Steadfast To Surrender

Love; a steadfast rock
From steadfast to surrender…
When two become one

Love; is wealth unsought
From surrender to steadfast
Liquid to solid

Some see being steadfast as a negative and surrender as a weakness but we need both… Love and life Life are about balance. How do you view love? Steadfast love? Surrender?

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The Dalai Lama: Gems On the Road To Peace…

“We can never obtain peace in the world, if we forget the inner world, and don’t make peace with ourselves… ”  Tenzin Gyatso Dalai Lama of Tibet.

Dalai Lama: Gems On The Road to Peace...

Dalai Lama: Gems On The Road to Peace…

“We need to make this a century of dialogue…
Because you have to lead the rest of your life in this century, you have to think, from time to time, about global issues. And for that please make good preparation: education, skill, expertise. Then another thing is your determination, your will power; that is very much based on self confidence. In order to develop self-confidence, be truthful, honest and just. These are key things and … transparency…” Dalai Lama

To people around the world, the 14th Dalai Lama is an important religious leader and teacher in the Buddhist tradition. He is a Nobel Peace Prize recipient, a great humanitarian, philosopher and advocate for the path of universal responsibility, peace and compassion. We see his charismatic side even as he gives somber talks about the growing global crises or speaks about the urgency for global peace. Yet, there is another side to him; a humble, unassuming, playful side. He is a spiritual master who radiates a scintillating energy that pulls you in and steadies you, silencing the noise and cocooning you in a blanket of peace. In his presence, all petty thoughts drop away, time is suspended, and we are reminded of our collective, energetic human bond. Such is the power of his presence.

“If we combine our knowledge , skills and expertise with our will power and determination, then no matter what problems we face, we can solve those problems forever ”  Dalai Lama.

Dalai Lama: Gems On the Road To Peace...

Dalai Lama: Gems On the Road To Peace…

“(Forgiveness and self-discipline)
These are the key points. So, keep in your mind; education and knowledge. In the meantime warmheartedness, willpower, determination, being more compassionate. These are, I think, sources of our strength. So, combine our knowledge and inner strength then no matter what obstacles or difficulties, we can overcome these problem.” Dalai Lama

Recently, I saw the wonderful film, Road To Peace: Ancient Wisdom Of the Dalai Lama of Tibet about the beloved 14th Dalai Lama  produced by Leon Stuparich. 15 years ago, Leon turned his focus on the Dalai Lama. He wanted to know more about the man behind the myth; about his incredible presence, and how to achieve happiness and a “more centered, peaceful life.” The film, which you may watch for free via the link above, takes us on a personal and up close journey with the Dalai Lama.

During the course of the film, the Dalai Lama answers an important question: How can we apply universal responsibility in our lives? His advice and wisdom which he gives liberally, and which I’ve included in my block quotes above and below,  are gems to mull over again and again. I call them his gems on the road to peace. Leon’s goal is to expose as many people as possible to the Dalai Lama’s teaching and peace efforts. You can participate by watching the film and sharing your “like” of this inspiring movie with friends. 5% of the profits from this film (Road to Peace) will be donated to the Tibet House Trust. More below.

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Leadership: On Matters of Trust and Authenticity

Leadership: Leading with Vision to Victory…

“To leave the world a better place … to know even one life has breathed easier because you lived. This is to have succeeded.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“He who rules over men must be just, ruling in the fear of God. And he shall be like the light of the morning when the sun rises, a morning without clouds, like the tender grass springing out of the earth, by clear shining after rain.” (2 Sam 23: 3-4)

Leadership: When in doubt, consult your conscience and constituents.

A year ago or so, as I was updating my page on the professional networking site – LinkedIn, I came across a group that piqued my interest; Leaders and Thinkers. The site manager, my dear friend Benjamin Anyacho – author of “Bold, Fresh Wine: A Cry for Sustainable Transforming Revival”, had also posted a number of excellent questions on the subject of Trust and Leadership asking: Is there a correlation between trust and authentic leadership? Would we follow leaders we don’t trust? Do all leaders deserve trust and should all leaders trust everyone?

I pondered the questions and responded. Later on, I posted a version of my response on my Blogger blog. Today, I revisit this topic because I believe that no matter where you are on the leadership ladder, the hot seat of influence, the food chain of authority as it were, at the bottom or the top, you can make a difference in the lives of others.

Lead: Pay it Forward!

The Sunshine Award
Before I go any further, I’d like to thank Melissa for nominating my blog for a pay-it-forward sunshine award. There are loads of bloggers who deserve this thoughtful gift that it’s hard to list all. If you see the following comment on your blog: You’ve won a pay-it-forward blog award! You can claim it at: Sunshine Blog Award, it means you won.
On an important note, the Sunshine Award honors and supports bloggers. The goal is to take the lead in paying the goodwill forward by honoring twelve bloggers including the person who nominated you.
First some ground rules:
1. Nominate 12 bloggers.
2. Put the award logo (daisy flower) onto your sidebar or within a post.
3. Link the nominees within your post.
4. Let the nominees know they’ve received this award by commenting on their blog.
5. Share the love and, if feasible, link the sidebar logo to the person from whom you’ve received this award.

Okay, and the Sunshine blogging Oscars go to… Melissa for generously sharing her sunshine and expatriate life; Deana for her supportive baby boomer spirit and blog; Dori for her heartwarming commentaries from her yellow house in England; Radha for sharing her shining creativity and humorous Baby Boomer Girl; Iyabo for coaching with love and enthusiasm; Emma for her infectious positivity and goodwill; Liz for her deeply reflective blog and kind spirit; Kaishon for beautiful photos and a beautiful life; Carol for offering such wonderful pampering tips to keep us all blissful and youthful; Megumi for being such a gracious blogger and beacon of light; Judy Rey for her inspired art and openness; and Siddhali Shree for her spiritual insights and goodwill. I have to add my lucky 13th, Rose, for her grace and goodwill or I will be remiss. The Sunshine Award exemplifies the spirit of leadership, motivation and goodwill. Congratulations all! Why don’t you lead the pack by sending out an award? Steal the flower!

“Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.” Peter F. Drucker
“Management is efficiency in climbing the ladder of success; leadership determines whether the ladder is leaning against the right wall.” Stephen Covey
“I always believe that ultimately, if people are paying attention, then we get good government and good leadership. When we get lazy, as a democracy and civically start taking shortcuts, then it results in bad government and politics.” Barack Obama

Leadership: Nature Rules...

Clearly, good leadership requires qualities such as trust, authenticity, vision, integrity, and service. To lead, you must learn to serve. To lead effectively, you must examine your motivations and then decide what type of leader you will be. Some lead to make a difference, others lead for sheer power and position, a few have it foisted upon them, and yet another group lead for self discovery. How we lead is a choice we all get to make.

Certainly, one could write a dissertation on the topic but that is not what a blog is for; so below is my truncated response to the questions. What’s your opinion or experience on the subject? What type of leader do you aspire to become?

“Leadership should be born out of the understanding of the needs of those who would be affected by it.” Marian Anderson
“A good objective of leadership is to help those who are doing poorly to do well and to help those who are doing well to do even better.” Jim Rohn
“Do you wish to rise? Begin by descending. You plan a tower that will pierce the clouds? Lay first the foundation of humility.” St. Augustine

Leadership Puzzle: Motivate your team to success...

Trust is never implicit with leadership, it must be earned. It is infinitely easy to put on a show and be followed as a leader when all the klieg lights are shining on your accomplishments and everyone wants to be like you. It is not so easy when there is a presumption of mistrust and lack in leadership by your constituents and you must now convince them that you are still in charge.

Authenticity is not a given in leadership either as inauthentic leaders can conceal their real motives and character by machinations that gain them the support of many. While there are leaders who exhibit qualities that could be defined as “authentic,” the true test of their métier as “authentic leaders” will depend on how well they handle crisis situations and life’s daily un-pleasantries.

In theory, the correlation between trust and authentic leadership could be viewed as sacrosanct; inherently necessary to the role. Yet, in reality, we have all been privy to leaders who neither cared about earning our trust nor dwelled on the responsibility and sacredness of their role.

“Leaders of the future will have to be visionary and be able to bring people in – real communicators. These are things that women bring to leadership and executive positions, and it’s going to be incredibly valuable and incredibly in demand.” Anita Borg
“Where there is no leadership the people fall, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” (Proverbs 11:14)
“It is better to lead from behind and to put others in front, especially when you celebrate victory; when nice things occur. You take the front line when there is danger. Then people will appreciate your leadership.” Nelson Mandela

Leadership: By consensus on the pyramid not by fiat

Naturally, I hope given the choice, most of us would choose to never elect or follow leaders we do not trust. However, all of us happen to live in societies or work in environments where, from time to time, untrustworthy leaders are foisted upon us. I have deliberately made this an “all of us” inclusive experience because exposure to incompetent, untrustworthy leadership is a universal construct. It is not unique to only banana republics or oligarchies.

Do all leaders deserve trust? Should all leaders trust everyone? The answer here is an unequivocal NO! Again, trust must be earned on both sides of the fence so the point behind that question is moot.

“I think a major act of leadership right now, call it a radical act, is to create the places and processes so people can actually learn together, using our experiences.” Margaret J. Wheatley
“The very essence of leadership is that you have to have vision. You can’t blow an uncertain trumpet.” Theodore M. Hesburgh
“A leader is best when people barely know he exists, not so good when people obey and acclaim him, worse when they despise him. But of a good leader who talks little when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: We did it ourselves.” Lao-Tzu

Global Leadership: Change is good ... Dictatorship is dangerous...

Ultimately, each of us must develop our own guiding principles or precepts on leadership. If, as John Wooden said eons ago, character is what you do when the lights are turned off and no one is watching, then it is imperative that authentic leadership be viewed through the lens of character.

Solon said it well… “Put more trust in nobility of character than in an oath (of office).”

No matter how good our intentions are as leaders, we must always go back to examine our character and the original prompting that led us to lead. Power can be an incredibly corrupting influence and it takes grace and character to remain humble while we serve. I send blessings to all who lead and serve humanity with a good heart. What is your definition of leadership or favorite leadership quote? What are your thoughts? Do Share! Thank you!

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Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank