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Haiku: A House Is Not A Home

03/03/2014

“A house is not a home unless it contains food and fire for the mind as well as the body.” Benjamin Franklin

Haiku: A House Is Not A HomeHaiku: A House Is Not A Home ... when love seeps away

Haiku: A House Is Not A Home … when love seeps away

A house is not home…
Measured blows and silent screams
Repeated daily

A house is not home
Love lost, betrayals exposed
At the door … divorce

A house is not home
Children leave, no lingering
Memories of hurt

What are the earliest memories of the place you lived in as a child?  I grew in a family that traveled a lot, mainly, because of my father’s work and also because of our time in a war zone.  Each home we lived in had its own special energy and smell. Some had the energy of happy homes, while a few were sad;  a couple of them were even haunted houses.  Aside from the distinctions I observed, one thing that remained constant was that each home provided a safety net from the travails of the outside world.

My haiku is not a description of my experience  but more a remembrance for those who have not had a chance to enjoy the love and safety of a home.  Our homes are meant to be places of  love and safety but sometimes, they become places of pain and suffering.  If you grew up in a joyful home, be grateful for the blessing and make sure that your home is a blessing to others. If you didn’t grow up in a happy home, seize the opportunity to turn the tables on the past and create place of joy for your self. What are your memories of your home?

More below. Cherish the peace and joy in yours. Create/Go to a safe place if you don’t. B

“Where we love is home – home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts.” Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

A house is not home
Warring neighbors hurling barbs
False and real fences

A house is not home
Crumbling floors, absent landlords
Bold roaches, dancing

A house is not home
Abandoned hearts and gardens
A home has life, soul…

This post was inspired by Daily Prompt: Our House – What are the earliest memories of the place you lived in as a child? Describe your house. What did it look like? How did it smell? What did it sound like? Was it quiet like a library, or full of the noise of life? Tell us all about it, in as much detail as you can recall. Photographers, artists, poets: show us HOME.

Positive Motivation Tip:  Our homes are meant to be places of  love and safety but sometimes, they become places of pain and suffering.  Cherish the peace and joy in yours. Create/Go to a safe place if you don’t. Blessings!

PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: All Photos Houseboat, Homeless, Vassandor,  Kamena House, MorrocanHouse, FazaHouse, SeoulHouse, JapanHouse, BluesHouse, via Wikipedia or my collection

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

57 Comments leave one →
  1. 03/03/2014 4:59 pm

    Eliz, a beautiful, touching post.

  2. 03/03/2014 6:35 pm

    Such a beautiful post. Thank you.

  3. 03/03/2014 7:29 pm

    Sad…in some respects…but, such wonderful words describing what homes can be… and what they should be…I’ve yet to write the post to this prompt…but, will…

  4. 03/03/2014 7:44 pm

    Beautiful! We also moved around a lot when I was a child, and I still do as an adult. I came to think of “home” as my family, not so much a place. I was blessed that my home was happy.

  5. 03/03/2014 8:17 pm

    I grew up in a house with my parents, sister and both my grandmothers so it was so full of love.

  6. 03/03/2014 8:47 pm

    Wow, I REALLY love that!

  7. 03/03/2014 10:36 pm

    Your childhood sounds interesting Eliz, plenty of stories no doubt? I like both sets of haiku, but the first are very moving. The form is a very powerful way of writing about abuse.
    On a happier note, I’ve been to the blue house, it’s in Marrkech, Les Jardins Majorelle, an absolutely beautiful place.

  8. 03/03/2014 11:37 pm

    Beautiful post. You have the essence of home down. I like how you say that is you don’t have a safe place create one. I have found in being a parent this is to be true time and time again.

  9. 04/03/2014 2:36 am

    I don’t know how you do it, but you always come up with the best and most nourishing of quotes. This one is another cracker. I’m one of those, “turn the tables on the past” guys, and I hope I’ve made a good job of it

  10. 04/03/2014 3:19 am

    We moved around a lot while I was growing up and I hated it. Just when I would make new friends and get comfortable we were on the move again. That’s why I’m determined to provide a stable home for my kids.

  11. ChristianCouponDiva (@RealCouponDiva) permalink
    04/03/2014 4:16 am

    very good to hear – what home really is….

  12. 04/03/2014 4:33 am

    I enjoyed it! We forget that our houses are more than just an address. It has everlasting memories whether good or bad.

  13. 04/03/2014 4:38 am

    The first home I actually remember was in a little town called Batesville. It was on a farm next to an orchard, so we always got fresh fruit! It was quiet and peaceful! 🙂

  14. 04/03/2014 5:35 am

    I was born and bread in the same home for 24 years, and now we live in my wife’s family home.. I guess we stayed close to home!

  15. ashley permalink
    04/03/2014 6:01 am

    We moved around a lot when I was little, but I am back now where I was born and mainly raised

  16. 04/03/2014 6:53 am

    What an awesome post and how true. My earliest memories of our first home is of my parents having a New Years Party. Most of the people who were there have passed and I miss them daily but love the lasting memory of the fun and love in that house.

  17. 04/03/2014 6:55 am

    I haven’t heard the quote “A house is not a home unless it contains food and fire for the mind as well as the body” before…but I really like it. I have great memories growing up as a child – my house was full of love and good times. I did however have a strict father and didn’t experience a lot of things that my friends did until I was much older BUT as I look back, it did help me to appreciate the little things more, and while my friends had exhausted all of their young adult experiences and new memories, I was just getting started and I think it helped to make me the well-rounded person that I am today. I was and still am very close to my mother and father, and now to my brother (it took a bit of time to get over the 6 year age gap and him destroying all of my things as a younger brother).

  18. 04/03/2014 7:32 am

    I love the quote and this is such a beautiful post! I hope my children look back on their childhood and remember the love we all share in our home.

  19. 04/03/2014 9:56 am

    Beautiful photo. Thanks for sharing!

  20. Jacqueline permalink
    04/03/2014 10:29 am

    We lived in Florida for a few years when I was a little sprout and I remember the fabulous pool with a waterfall ur backyard. I would pretend my Barbie dolls were living in a jungle and my cat would sit in the tropical plants and play “tiger” with me.

  21. 04/03/2014 10:33 am

    Thank You for sharing! Beautiful!

  22. Tory Blum permalink
    04/03/2014 11:32 am

    This is so inspriring! 🙂

  23. 04/03/2014 1:17 pm

    My memories of my first home as a child were cosy ones. Log fires, cuddles with my Mom and my dad playing guitar. I remember the parties and fun we had and the paddling pool in the garden. It wasn’t lavish, but it was filled with love and fun.

  24. 05/03/2014 4:25 am

    I grew up in a military home so we moved quite a bit. It’s not the house that makes the home, but rather the people living in it. Although we never stayed in one place for very long, I felt secure in my home. My husband and I bought a house 10 years ago. We have remodeled it inside and out, and it is just now starting to feel like the home I’d like it to be. We’ve invested so much time, energy, and money into the place that now, I’m attached to the house, not just the people living in it.

    • 05/03/2014 7:47 am

      Beautiful Michelle! Like you, we moved homes a lot and as our family grew and our houses got larger, we had to really make them a home… It’s the love, people, energy and memories that we tie to home. TY!

  25. Melissa Smith permalink
    06/03/2014 8:27 am

    Growing up, it was always just my mother & me. Except for a short period of time that we lived with my grandparents. But no matter where we lived, it was home as long as I had my mom with me.

  26. Mariana (@ohMariana) permalink
    07/03/2014 7:13 pm

    That’s a lovely quote by Mr. Franklin, and a beautiful blue house!

  27. 21/07/2014 5:15 pm

    A lovely poem, such an inspiration. Many children does not realize the importance of a home, some thought that it is only a physical structure and they tend to unnotice the sacrifices made to build one.

    • 25/07/2014 10:38 pm

      Thank you! You’re right. It is more than the physical structure. We can teach our children to appreciate the love and effort that goes into maintaining and running a home… Love and care are equally important.

  28. Mommy Roxi permalink
    21/07/2014 5:35 pm

    Beautiful haiku. My first memory of our home would be it being filled with my older sisters and brother. Now it’s just me and my little family. Coming from a big family of 8, it’s very different now.

  29. 21/07/2014 6:07 pm

    This is a lovely post. I enjoyed a wonderful and stable upbringing as a child and have only the fondest memories..

  30. 21/07/2014 8:03 pm

    Interesting article! I’m lucky to have been brought up with happy memories and a place to call home with love, food, shelter and an education

  31. 22/07/2014 1:58 am

    I am blessed that I stay and grow from the same place. Not to say moving often is bad, but I love the place I stay till now. It keeps all my memories, in every single corner. <3

    • 25/07/2014 10:26 pm

      I can imagine how wonderful it is to hold all those memories close to your chest… Plus you relive bits of them daily.

  32. 22/07/2014 2:00 am

    I stay at the same house since I was born till now. It keeps all my memories.

  33. 22/07/2014 3:42 am

    I remember that song but I dunno how to turn it into a haiku.:D It goes “And a house is not a home/ When there’s no one there to hold you tight/
    And no one there you can kiss goodnight”.

    I still live in the house that my parents built for us. There are so many memories and I try not to leave this place behind.

    • 25/07/2014 10:19 pm

      Right… I took the idea form the song by Luther Vandross. Will have to upload another YouTube link on it. How fortunate to still live in your childhood home.

  34. Michelle @ Vitamin Sunshine permalink
    22/07/2014 6:39 am

    A home is the most wonderful thing one can have.

  35. franckxethee permalink
    22/07/2014 10:20 am

    A home is more than a house as it goes beyond being just a shelter but a place of warmth and affection.

  36. Yan Birog permalink
    23/07/2014 5:07 am

    a house is definitely not to be called a home instantly. 🙂 thanks for sharing your haiku! 🙂

  37. 23/07/2014 9:09 am

    Well-said. Something just happened to my family, something that I never imagine will happen… and the house has somehow become a broken home… hopefully, it will be mended soon…

  38. radhivenni permalink
    26/07/2014 6:13 am

    I am silent for a second after seeing this article really .Thats a such an awesome post and i love the home
    Thanks for sharing and loved your blog

  39. rizanoia permalink
    31/07/2014 2:15 am

    This is true and it hurts. But we should be strength no matter what for our family.

  40. Claudette Esterine permalink
    27/09/2015 6:36 am

    One of the greatest crooners did a song with those words and it is so beautiful as is your post. It really matters not where you live – palace or shack – if love abides with you, it is home! Much blessings!

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