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Reflections: Be The Change…

18/11/2012

There is no delight in owning anything unshared. Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Reflections: Be The Change… Share

“Sometimes we hold on to our possessions because we fear we might run out – life seems scarce. But when we believe that giving is the way to live, we will produce more in the future – life seems abundant.” John C. Maxwell

When I first read the WP prompt on what change I would love my blog to make in the world, it took me back to my earliest blogging days in 2008. I started with clear goals to connect and contribute to the ever growing online community of bloggers and social media fans. But the larger goal was to share a motivational insight and/or a nugget of inspiration to cheer others on. I have not lost sight of those goals at all though, over the years, I ramped down on certain aspects of social media. Something I remain passionate about is my belief that we all want to be heard, appreciated and respected. Blogging is about community building and paramount to that belief is the support we give each other. As most of us know, supporting and staying abreast of all the blogs we read takes enormous work and so an attitude of gratitude towards others who support us is key. I appreciate everyone who visits my blog and one thing I want to remain is grateful for the kindness and feedback.

“I want to give like I have plenty. I want to love like I’m not afraid” Chris Tomlin

Reflections: Be The Change… Be considerate

The pen is a powerful tool and the way we use it can help or hurt others, so consideration is always important… Lately, I’ve read some posts questioning the motives of fellow bloggers who visit to like/comment on blogs. When a fellow blogger Likes and/or comments on a post, instead of second guessing their motives, let’s stop and consider that they took a moment out of their schedule to drop in and acknowledge our writing; then reciprocate with delight and a positive mindset. We can take it further and give generously by liking and supporting other bloggers new to us; not only our blog buddies. If you’ve ever given to others freely and with an abundant spirit, you’d know the joy the spirit feels… I’m always happy to encourage/support other bloggers; even as I struggle to stay on top of it too. Why? Because there is grace in supporting and helping others grow; we don’t achieve success by sitting alone in an ivory tower. We gain nothing from withholding our Likes and comments from other bloggers. We can be the change we wish for the world, by opening our palms and showering others with the same goodwill we wish for ourselves. Try it! More below.

“It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.” Mother Teresa

Reflections: Be The Change… Be Charitable

As the saying goes, charity begins with us. When my fellow bloggers like or comment on my blog, I’m grateful for it and make the effort to reciprocate with a grateful loving heart. It matters less to me to psychoanalyze why/how quickly/how slowly they respond to my post. It means more to me that a fellow blogger took the time to stop by and like and/or comment on my post and I will always appreciate the gesture. Blogging is about building community and making connections; some stay and some leave… I use the Like button as an expression of the abundance/generosity I see and hope to see in the world, and I see no point in withholding it. Every Friday I look forward to the photo challenge because I get to spend the next 4-5 days visiting hundreds of posts and enjoying the creative submissions of others. I Like all of them and comment on several… I give it freely and joyfully and life goes on. WE can all do our bit and it cost nothing but the time we commit to it. :-)

Have a playful, restful Thanksgiving week ahead!
What are your thoughts? What do you do to support your fellow bloggers not just your buddies? Do you struggle with it? Do share! Thank you. :-)

*Please bear with me as I catch up on your blogs and commenting… Thank you all for your patience! :-)

This post was inspired by a prompt from WP Daily Post: Daily Prompt: What change, big or small, would you like your blog to make in the world?

Positive Motivation Tip: Share your largesse and your LIKE button freely and joyfully and see the magic of goodwill happen around you.

PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: All Photos  Sharing, Writing pen, Sisters of Charity, via Wikipedia

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

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58 Comments leave one →
  1. 19/11/2012 3:52 pm

    Your blog definitely does what you set out to do. Your photos, quotes and words always inspire and impress me. Nice work!

    • 21/11/2012 8:40 am

      Thank you! I struggle to keep up like many of us, but my heart’s wish is to honor and support others… that’s what it’s about in my opinion. ;-)
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  2. 19/11/2012 4:06 pm

    I admire how much thought and creativity go into each and everyone of your posts.

    • 21/11/2012 8:41 am

      TY Suellen! I feel the same way as you and others in our community… There is a lot of creative energy… ;-)
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  3. 19/11/2012 4:09 pm

    Totally agree with that “there is no delight in owning anything unshared” – it is the same with egoists who think that they can’t use the community for any good – how much fun is it just to be an egotist all alone without any to be selfish against …? ‘hahaha’

    • 21/11/2012 8:43 am

      You crack me up! :lol: I hear you and I wonder about it too. We don’t have to join everything online but we can work at supporting others anyway we can. ;-)
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  4. 19/11/2012 5:03 pm

    I love feedback. Giving and getting. :-)
    And I love your blog. It’s part of my daily dose of inspiration.

    • 21/11/2012 8:44 am

      Ditto Gemma… You know, I learn a lot from the interactions I get and give… It might take me a while to catch up on my rounds but I do get there… TY! :-)
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  5. 19/11/2012 5:54 pm

    I do agree that you have definitely achieved your goal with your blog posts. Of course blogging is a community, otherwise what would be the point? It would be no fun blogging in isolation. Like you, I firmly believe in supporting fellow bloggers with comments and “likes.” I also like to support them by posting links to their blog posts at the end of mine if it is relevant; and by quoting little bits from their posts inside my post. Or re-blogging. I have done some of that too, especially with other Jamaican bloggers who have a view on a topic I have also discussed. That’s a good way to support! Keep up the great work! You are on the right track.

    • 21/11/2012 8:48 am

      TY Petchary! See, I’m behind even with your blog… I’ll be there soon. Thanks for the additional things you mentioned. Yes, they are all important to the whole and even if we do a few at a time, it helps. I am a work in progress and my goals remain as I work to achieve them… I’m not quite there. :-)
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  6. 19/11/2012 8:16 pm

    Eliz…you were my first blogger ‘friend’…I was fortunate indeed to connect with you early on in my blogging journey because I could not have had a better blogging role model. You are kind and generous and caring and thoughtful…and your posts are a delicious combination of amazing photography and inspiring words.
    What is my blogging challenge? Finding the time to blog AND read and comment on the many wonderful blogs I follow forces me to steal time that should be devoted to sleeping…but I believe that I am a better person for being part of the blogging community. :)
    May your Thanksgiving be filled with friends, family and love. :)

    • 21/11/2012 8:52 am

      May your Thanksgiving be bright, blessed and abundant too! Yes, we go back to the day when it was just you and Barbara commenting… I suspect that some bloggers were spoiled by joining when WP added more fabulous ways for us to connect. They never got to experience the Siberia of blogdom. Gratitude is so important to all we do. :-)
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  7. 19/11/2012 8:29 pm

    I am new to blogging so yes, I find it hard to comment but as we know practic makes well… More practice.
    I do enjoy the variety of subjects and ppl I’ve stumbled onto. Some make me laugh and some have brought tears to my eyes with their stories and ponderings. Your words are uplifting and I’m thrilled to follow them where ever they may lead. Thank you

    • 21/11/2012 8:54 am

      TY Cookie and I welcome you to blogging and wish you much success. I didn’t get too much into some of the key things we face but I’d say to keep on blogging no matter what… :-)
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  8. barb19 permalink
    19/11/2012 10:27 pm

    You have a way with words Eliz and I wish I could express myself as eloquently as you do in your inspiring posts.

    • 21/11/2012 8:55 am

      TY Barb! You do in your own way too… You have your writer’s voice and that is a gift. :-)
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  9. Goz permalink
    19/11/2012 11:09 pm

    Love the Mother Theresa quote..:-)

    • 21/11/2012 8:55 am

      Thank you dear Goz! :-)
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  10. 20/11/2012 1:23 am

    Dear Elizabeth,
    This must surely be one of the best posts I have read in a very long time anywhere. Why? Because it is full of grace. It is full of kindness. It is choosing to see the best and the finest in others. So what if some choose to like and comment for reasons only known to themselves. Choose to believe in the best of their intentions anyway.

    The message of this post touched me deeply because I think when we choose to see only the best in others – even when it’s just a smidgen of good in a sea of faults, we become the best that we can be.

    I am blessed. I am honoured to know you. I really am. You choose to live out ideals and that makes all the difference.
    With much love and blessings,
    Sharon

    • 21/11/2012 8:58 am

      Dear Sharon,
      I have to say that your comment touched my spirit and brought tears to my eyes. I am blessed. I am honoured to know YOU too!
      So what if some choose to like and comment for reasons only known to themselves. Choose to believe in the best of their intentions anyway.
      Exactly!!! I couldn’t have said it better. Those are my sentiments. TY dear one, TY! :-)
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  11. 20/11/2012 1:27 am

    So true, love that Maxwell quote. I was part of a radio show last night discussing how our possessions affect our confidence levels and why. If you’d like I could post the link to the replay here.

    • 21/11/2012 9:00 am

      Hi Stuart dear one! Absolutely add your link here and I might even add it to my Thanksgiving post. Hope all is well. TY! :-)
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  12. 20/11/2012 2:17 am

    The blogging community is a very interesting place to roam. Alas my time is limited, so like you I push the ‘like’ button to express my appreciation for the content, and comment whenever I think my words would be a contribution.
    A very thoughtful post, positive and trusting. Thank you, Elizabeth.

    • 21/11/2012 9:04 am

      TY!!! Most of us have limited time and yes, we do the best we can. When I visit a blog friend, I might like some posts and comment on other posts, but I rarely leave without some form of support… Because I know how much work it takes, I just can’t imagine criticizing our fellow bloggers who stop by to like and comment. ;-)
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  13. 20/11/2012 4:35 am

    Your blog is always a haven of gentle thoughtfulness which is why I keep coming back

    • 21/11/2012 9:07 am

      And you my dear are same… Peter, we are a mutual admiration society of bloggers who don’t pretend our Like button is a golden cow. It’s a sign of support and ought to be given happily and freely.. without prejudice. TY! :-)
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  14. 20/11/2012 7:05 am

    A lovely post, Elizabeth. Like you!

    I always appreciate each and every visit to my blog, comments or not. And I always appreciate the time you take to go through my posts, especially as I know how busy you are.

    • 21/11/2012 9:09 am

      You are too and I wanted to use this post to acknowledge that most of us are busy and when we reach out to support others; a scornful approach is anathema to the blogging experience. TY! ;-)
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  15. 20/11/2012 7:39 am

    You’ve certainly achieved your goals, Elizabeth. Your blog is always so positive, and gently encouraging. I love sharing in this blogging community. Happy Thanksgiving week to you.

    • 21/11/2012 9:11 am

      Oh dear!!! I hope I didn’t give that impression… I promise I’m a work in progress. :lol: You do love to support others and share… No doubt with me. TY! ;-)
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      • 21/11/2012 9:21 am

        What I meant was, your blogging goals. As Genevieve said, “Your blog certainly achieves what you set out to do,” :) Happy Thanksgiving to you, Elizabeth.

      • 21/11/2012 9:25 am

        Okay, TY Adin! And ditto you too… I have definitely benefited from your generosity and I value the connection we have. :-)
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  16. 20/11/2012 2:29 pm

    I wish I had more time to give to my own blog and my blogger buddies. There is so much good stuff out there!

    • 21/11/2012 9:14 am

      You are so right… So much to read and see and so little time… and that is why I wrote this post. When people check out a blog, they are doing it with finite time to spare… If we could give each other the benefit of the doubt instead of accusatory snipes, all of us would be the happier for the experience. TY! :-)
      Now spammers are another story and they are usually NOT bloggers or WordPress account holders.
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  17. 20/11/2012 3:08 pm

    | there is grace in supporting and helping others grow” -
    that is so true, and it reflects what a kind person you are!
    great post, full of beauty and love.

    z

    • 21/11/2012 9:15 am

      TY Z! Love that letter and its sound… You are a more generous soul and I thank you for being a blog friend! :-)
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      • 21/11/2012 9:27 am

        thank YOU and con mucho gusto!

      • 21/11/2012 9:29 am

        Te Nada! Gracias mija!
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      • 21/11/2012 7:18 pm

        you are amzing! HOW did you do that – copy/paste? !

      • 23/11/2012 5:42 am

        I created it offline and then copied and pasted it in each reply… one coming to your blog soon. ;-)

  18. 20/11/2012 9:13 pm

    It’s interesting timing that I read your post tonight when you’re talking about how we comment and it’s almost three days from when you first posted! It’s funny that I don’t worry at all about how quickly someone responds to my posts, but I struggle when I have trouble keeping up and being timely with others! I don’t analyze either, Eliz! I really figure that bloggers in general are doing the best they can. It takes an incredible amount of time keeping up with everyone, and yet I really want to! One rule I did make for myself is that I won’t comment or click “like” unless I did take the time to read. I am genuinely interested, and I’m enjoying my new friends! :-) I hope you have a lovely Thanksgiving, my friend!

    • 21/11/2012 12:11 am

      I get what you’re saying and I wrote this to acknowledge the fact that it is hard work liking and commenting in the community… and so instead of disdain, we can try a considerate, appreciative, kinder approach. I’m always behind and so when others visit me, I know they’ve made enormous effort to encourage me and I expect to return the blog love. TY!
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  19. 22/11/2012 3:19 pm

    Wow, Eliz! You’ve been blogging since 2008.
    You’re truly an inspiration.
    I’d still love to know how you add those wonderful icons!
    Happy Thanksgiving :)

    • 23/11/2012 5:43 am

      I left an explanation on your blog! TY Tracy! :-)
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  20. 23/11/2012 6:33 pm

    I always, always appreciate your “likes” and comments, Eliz! It has been encouraging to me, more than you know… I’m so glad I caught this post. Hope your Thanksgiiving week is going well!

    • 25/11/2012 3:48 am

      TY and I appreciate same… I wish I had extra arms and hours as I’d do the visits immediately. :-)
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  21. 24/11/2012 1:26 am

    Every word and wonderful quote in this post is inspiring Eliz. And yes didn’t expect keeping up with comment reading and even responding to comments on our own blogs, to be such hard work :-)

    • 25/11/2012 3:50 am

      It is amazing work and not always reciprocated. TY for your support as it makes a difference when we appreciate the effort others make. TY! :-)
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  22. 27/11/2012 1:21 pm

    Dear Elizabeth,
    What a wonderful post! So well said! Good words cost no more than bad, so why withhold appreciation or encouragement? Thank you for speaking out so eloquently.

  23. 30/11/2012 7:26 pm

    TY too for your kind support… Of course, my wish is that my fairy Godmother will give me a virtual assistant for the holidays and that way, i will never miss a post to Like or comment on… ¸.•*¨*•.♪♫♫♪Happy Thanksgiving weekend to you! .♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸ ♥
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  24. 21/01/2014 3:22 pm

    You ask: What do you do to support your fellow bloggers not just your buddies?
    I must admit I do struggle with this. You seem to read hundreds of blogs. I admire you for this, I really do. I always feel I’d like to be able to read a lot more blogs, Somehow, and it happens again and again, I miss out on reading or even looking at everything my ‘buddies’ write. Some blogs maybe are just a few pictures or a quote that appeals to me, well, this is not very time consuming to enjoy this. However, some other blogs are much more demanding. Whenever I take the time to read a more demanding blog, about a subject that interests me, I usually enjoy this very much. But strangely enough I always seem to be running out of time. It is the same with keeping up reading all the books I set out to read. With some books to finish them it takes me ages!
    I wished I could read a bit faster and had more stamina to go on reading for longer. However, I must be glad I can read at all for I have some problems with my eye-sight. But maybe some of it is more psychological. I wouldn’t know. Maybe age plays a part too. I’ll; be eighty this year! :-)

    • 21/01/2014 9:44 pm

      Please don’t feel bad about falling behind, we all do. I’ve been away from blogging for a while and I have a lot of catching up to do… We do the best we can and let the rest follow. TY for checking in. Will visit soon. <3
      Elizabeth

  25. 21/01/2014 10:32 pm

    Thank you, Eliz, for your encouraging words. You are right,, we do the best we can. Aunty Uta

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