“Love give me strength, and strength will help me through. Goodbye, dear father.” William Shakespeare
“Why can’t we get all the people together in the world that we really like and then just stay together? I guess that wouldn’t work. Someone would leave. Someone always leaves and then we have to say good-bye. I hate good-byes. I know what I need. I need more hellos.” Snoopy
Even as many celebrate that special memory or share moments of delight spent in the company of a living parent, there are a great number who hold bittersweet memories of a departed dad; especially those of us who weren’t able to say a proper goodbye. Death came swiftly, in the early hours of a cool Wednesday morning, for my dad. I was told he got up, turned the radio to BBC news, lay down again to listen to it and passed away. Twenty plus years later and the story is revisited again and again…
Although, back then, we gathered with friends and family and went through the motions of planning, organizing and executing a celebration of his life and a funeral to match, our time with him on that final leg to his resting place still felt incomplete; abbreviated. How do we say goodbye to those we love and hold in high esteem? Never. How do we say goodbye when the last memory was of a cherished phone-call in which the first and final words were “Hello!”? Goodbyes are never easy, under most circumstances, and Father’s Day often brings such thoughts and memories front and center. More below
“Could we see when and where we are to meet again, we would be more tender when we bid our friends goodbye.” Marie Louise De La Ramée
“May the road rise up to meet you, may the wind be ever at your back. May the sun shine warm upon your face and the rain fall softly on your fields. And until we meet again, May God hold you in the hollow of his hand.” Irish Blessings
Imagining you’d come to say goodbye… by Jennifer Reeser
Imagining you’d come to say goodbye,
I made a doll of raffia and string.
I gave her thatch hair, and a broomstick skirt
of patchwork satin rags. Around each eye
I stitched thick lashes. Such a touching thing
she was! That even you could not debate –
impassive, undemanding and inert.
Yes, surely she’d cause you yourself to sigh.
Around her breast, I sewed a loden ring
to guard her cotton heart from being hurt,
then sat down in the fabric scraps to wait,
between the rafters and the furnace grate,
needle in hand, and never so aware
no craft on earth is master to despair. via famouspoetsandpeoms
The thing with goodbyes is that they always leave a lingering and a longing behind… We do eventually move on, but then a fragrance wafts through the door on a sunny morning or a display of colorful polo shirts leap at you, all quite innocently, at a local store, and the floodgates open our hearts wide again, reminding us of precise and specific moments with our loved ones engaged in some innocuous task. Ah, memory is a powerful thing indeed and nothing brings it back as well as a scent or a sign… It fades yes, but we don’t forget. For Father’s Day, I honor every Dad out there who truly cares… Love and blessings to all. Happy Father’s Day! Happy Father’s Day!
This post was inspired by a prompt from WP Plinky: Describe the last difficult “goodbye” you said.
Positive Motivation Tip: Celebrate life every day and on Father’s Day, celebrate yours.
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