“I always felt that the great privilege, relief and comfort of friendship was that one had to explain nothing.” Katherine Mansfield
What qualities do you value most in friends? Do you remember how you met your most trusted friend? Diahann is one of my most trusted friends, we have known each other since our college days when we worked at Saks, and we met before we met… No, this is not a typo. I repeat, we met before we actually met. Let me explain. Several years ago, some college friends invited me to a bric-a-brac/book fair somewhere in downtown Manhattan. I was glad to go because it was a warm spring Saturday and a good way to get off campus and head elsewhere.
We took the subway, got off somewhere in Greenwich Village and headed for the fair. Once there, we scanned the wares and made a beeline to tables and vendors that had things we wanted; some junk jewelry here, an old book there, even a few long silk scarves. As I paid for a beautiful silk scarf in peacock blue with splashes of white on the edges, a woman sitting at a small table with a sparkling ball caught my attention. I turned to get a better look at the sparkling ball, the woman caught my eye and beckoned at me… “Come, come get a reading!”
“When you choose your friends, don’t be short-changed by choosing personality over character.” W. Somerset Maugham
“I value the friend who for me finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar.” Robert Brault
I was curious, and collecting my newly purchased scarf, I walked over to her table. I was not afraid. I figured she was the fun psychic entertainment at the fair. Now, I suspect some of you might think psychics are the devils work or hogwash, but I’ve met some amazing and truly gifted ones in my lifetime. I just didn’t expect to meet one at a book fair. Anyhow, we chatted, and I believe she told me she charged a nominal fee (Between $5 – $10) for a tarot card reading. What the heck, I thought, sure, I’ll do it. I sat down, shuffled and cut the cards, picked out 5 cards for a Horseshoe spread/reading and before I could say anything else, she was off and running; naming names, dates, events, people and places she had no normal way of knowing.
I’ll call her Gail, because I felt like a gale of wind had swept in and knocked me off my feet. She was that good. Then she said, “Your trusted friend Diahann will always have your back… She is non-judgmental, fun, honest, trustworthy, kind… a good soul” “What!? What!? I said. “Who is Diahann?” “Oh, don’t you worry,” Gail assured me grinning from ear to ear, “You’ll know when you meet her. It’s in the cards!” I left Gail that afternoon with my head swimming with data and details about my life and I filed the name in my memory bank. Sure enough, a year later or so, I met Diahann and she has always watched my back. So what qualities do you value in a friendship? More below.
“Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow ripening fruit.” Aristotle
“Since there is nothing so well worth having as friends, never lose a chance to make them.” Francesco Guicciardini
I’ve written about the subject of friendship on other posts (here’s one), and I believe we thrive when we have friends; people who share in our sadness and joy, encourage and uplift us, and don’t mince words when we step out of line… All noble acts. But some of the qualities I cherish are the ones Gail mentioned; non-judgmental, fun, honesty, trustworthy, kindness… a good soul and I’ll add, a good listener. What about you?
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What do you think? What are your thoughts? What does friendship mean to you? Do you believe in chance meetings or card predictions? What qualities do you value most in friends? How did you meet your best friend? Do share! Thank you.
This post was inspired by a prompt from WP Plinky: What qualities do you value most in friends?
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