Why do we worry so much about events that haven’t happened or about things we think we can’t control? The word worry comes from the Old English wyrgan, meaning “to strangle.” When we worry about situations we think we have no control over, we are needlessly strangling ourselves; cutting off our air, clarity of mind and even the opportunity for good things to happen. Martha Beck writes a monthly piece for O Magazine and always inspires us with her practical tips and advice on how to live life fully regardless of our current circumstances. I can be a bit of a worrywart so her article on how to stop worrying made my heart sing and put a smile on my face. Several of the tips were spot on and others were aha moments. Below is my summary of the 10 facts … in brief. Now breathe…
If you’re worried that I missed out some factoid or crucial detail, mosey on over to the article at Oprah.com and read the rest of it. If you wish to stop strangling yourself over mundane stuff; keep in mind it happens to all of us, then follow these 10 Tips and stop worrying: What’s on Your Plate – Stop worrying about finishing all your projects. Accept the load and do the work at a sensible pace.
Needing Help – Ask for help when you need it and stop putting on a show of being self-sufficient. I’d say Ask. Believe. Receive.
Your Children – Our children are a gift from God and we must learn to trust that they are and will be divinely protected. Love them and let them bloom where they are.
Your Face (and Hips, and Butt…) – Our genetic make up/DNA pool ascribes certain features to each of us. Embrace the package. If you must, do seek a solution that works, and stop stressing over the details…
What You Own – The fine china and delicate diamonds are to be enjoyed… why lock them away and wait for what? Don’t worry, relax and enjoy your good stuff for tomorrow may never come. Take another deep breath… More below
“The reason why worry kills more people than work is that more people worry than work.” Robert Frost
Typically, most of us worry because we believe we can’t control events unfolding around us. We are afraid that we will lose everything. One way to shift that thinking is to recognize that we can control how we respond to events and, by that token, we are fully in charge of outcomes… The more we worry, the more paralyzed we become, and the less capable we are of taking effective action… Relax. Release. Respond calmly. Here are the rest of the tips and please stop worrying:
Everything You’re Doing Wrong – Perfection is not a requirement for life or even success. Relax and know that everyone has limitations… It’s allowed.
The Past - The past is history. We can reference it for lessons learned and wisdom gained but don’t dwell there. Be present and create new positive memories
What People Are Saying About You Right This Very Second - Martha says to be like a Martian gathering data to help others and not focus on what others say. I’d add that part of being alive is that others will have something to say about you; good and bad. Be at peace with it.
Your Account Balance – How much we have in the bank is not the full measure of our self worth or our capacity for joy. Instead of fretting over those numbers, be proactive at improving our life with a positive vision, wise choices and self effort. Ask for help too. Miracles happen daily.
Worrying – Take a deep cleansing breath and release the anxieties and worries that are furrowing your brow. Each step we take to laugh, show gratitude for what is, hug ourselves and let go, is one step closer to becoming worry free … well, almost.
What are your thoughts? Are you a worrywart? Do you remember the last thing you worried yourself silly over? How did you resolve it? Do share! Thank you.
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Positive Motivation Tip: The more we worry, the more paralyzed we become and the less capable we are of taking effective action… Relax. Release. Respond calmly.
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