Reflections: Trust & Guidance…

“Trust the instinct to the end, though you can render no reason” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Reflections: Trust & Guidance...Saint Petersburg Gate... Trust the answers are near...

Trust is the gateway or foundation to many of the relationships we develop in the world; both personal and professional. It is the basis for almost all business agreements and, from a spiritual point of view, it is the glue that holds our belief together… When we begin a trust relationship, it is critical that we take our commitments seriously and avoid any miscommunications or acts of carelessness. When a trust is broken, it takes tremendous work to patch things up… and in some cases, the damage is irreversible. When I think of trust, I am thinking also of a soul connection with others and a commitment to treat each other, and others, with love and respect. If there is no respect in a trust agreement, the chances of fissure are greater.

“Every mind must make its choice between truth and repose. It cannot have both.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Reflections: Trust & Guidance... Follow the heart to the gate, trust & seek guidance

Recently, when my circle of healing/meditation friends chose TRUST as our word for July, we were to focus on growing our self-awareness and trust, it got me thinking about the ways we misuse/abuse trust and the many ways we are guided to develop an intuitive trust in the greater good and for our own path. Every day, we wake up and begin our daily rituals or routines. We go to them because we are confident that they will yield the same familiar results we’ve gotten since we started the routine. We trust that when we do A, the outcome will still be B and sometimes we take those results for granted.

While our rituals/routines help us strengthen our trust bone, it can also create a casualness and disregard for the relationship. When we treat a trust relationship in a cavalier manner, we find we have fallen into the category of familiarity builds contempt; and the open gate begins to contract; to close. We must then revisit the relationship and weigh the pros and cons of continuing it.

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” Golda Meir

Reflections: Trust & Guidance... Ubud Temple gate...

As we develop our intuition and act more compassionately with each other, we find a certain ease with situations because we have grown to expect certain behaviors. We can ask for guidance and the help provided is invaluable. In terms of relationships where trust has been violated, recovery and rebuilding will take effort, persistence and time.

Just like we forgive ourselves and others for offenses, we can make the decision to forgive and rebuild a relationship where trust was breached. We can ask for inner guidance to help us find common ground and while it can be a difficult reconnection of a relationship we once held dear, it is still feasible. What about you? What are your thoughts? What would you do when a trusted relationship has been breached? Do you find room for forgiveness and rebuild or do you banish the offender forever? Do share! Thank you. ;-)

This post was inspired by a prompt from WP Daily Post: How do you recover lost trust? If someone lets you down or betrays you, how do you learn to forgive? And can you possibly learn to trust them again? Why or why not? In a person? In an idea?

Positive Motivation Tip: Trust is the foundation word for many actions and beliefs we have… Hold onto it and treat/share your trust with great care.

PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: All Photos St Petersburg Gate, Babylon Ischtar, and Temple gate via Wikipedia.

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

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16 responses to “Reflections: Trust & Guidance…

  1. Very inspirational! I needed that tonight.

  2. I have trust into the rite of posting daily, of finding always a new topic – if not, I have trust to find an interesting post on your site …

  3. In my relationship I have two key words: Trust and Celebration. Trust is a given but we also need to celebrate the person we are with, or the life we live in order to show our appreciation of it. At least I think so

  4. misswhiplash

    I have tarried a while like you said. I have read your posts and I like what I see. That is the most beautiful picture of a peacock, I am entranced by it.

    I do hope that you will not mind if I drop in again, and again

    Patrecia

  5. When trust as been breached, it takes some evaluation as to the meaning of the relationship and its purpose. I find that we must look at the overall perspective of the relationship with the person, and weigh the pros and cons. Sometimes those offenses do not measure up to the positive elements of the relationship and we can go beyond. But in the end there is always the fear, that the lack of trust will grow and become a dangerous behavioral element to the relationship.

  6. Great topic and post! You always make me think.

    It depends on the depth of the trust breached, wouldn’t you say? I trust you not to lose a key and you lose the key anyway – oops and forgiveness. I trust you not to betray my deepest secret and the secret is breached? That ends the relationship because it is not just the blabbing or breach but the disrespect of the person that comes with the breach. Each situation would be different. If there is that disrespect – where does it come from? A person who you trusted who is fundamentally flawed or who has suffered in their own right? If the disrespect that could be reasonably rationalized then perhaps forgiveness in time is appropriate. And the trust that one gives that is then lost? A person should re-evaluate how he/she gives it out to begin with if they suffer that kind of loss… Perhaps, a new method of determining trust in the first place is in order…

  7. Do you find room for forgiveness and rebuild or do you banish the offender forever?

    Forgiveness? ~ absolutely! The failure to forgive is like swallowing poison and hoping it hurts “them.” It doesn’t.

    Banishment? ~ it depends on the offense and the offender. Minor infractions are quickly forgotten. Major offenses make me question whether the relationship has any value to me. If it doesn’t, sayanara!

  8. great post. I think for me, trust is a big thing and a huge factor in every relationship. When a person betrays me, I lose trust in them, I may forgive them, but the trust will no longer be there. Sure, we can try to patch things up and move on, but it will never be the same. It’s like a crumbled paper, once it has been crumbled, it will never be good as new.
    I guess being disappointed countless times in my life has led me to trust issues when it comes to me and others. I don’t trust people enough to open up completely when knowing that person could disappoint me later on, i have learn to trust no one but myself and to give trust where trust is given,

    There is also different kind of trust like some has stated in your comments. it’s like saying i have trust in someone to do what’s right, but they make a mistake, that will not affect my relationship what that person and i can easily forgive their mistakes,

  9. Yes, sometimes it’s hard to forgive a person when they break your trust, and in my past I once had to cut the person out of my life for good when there was a very very bad breach (one of the sad stories involving a beloved pet I have yet to write about).

    However, I do like this quote for all of those other times: “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” ~ Catherine Ponder

  10. I agree with several other commentors. It is very important (for one’s own health) to be able to forgive! But some breaches beg the question- is this someone that I should have in my life?

  11. It’s definitely better to forgive as it releases you and the other person from the energy of the emotion. But it’s difficult and takes courage.
    I’ve heard it said and I’ve said it too, I forgive but I don’t forget. Sometimes, I’m not sure though if not forgetting really releases me.

    BTW, Elizabeth, I have a new theme — hope you can stop by to have a read.

  12. I especially like the opening quotation. We need to trust our instincts more, even if that flies in the face of all the “reasons” given to our by well-meaning others to do the opposite.

  13. I too agree…you’ve done it again, another great post Elizabeth! Happy thoughts! :)

  14. How often do we forgive a frequent offender? What is the answer?

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