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Inspiration: Seeking Balance…


“Evermore in the world is this marvelous balance of beauty and disgust, magnificence and ratsRalph Waldo Emerson

Inspiration: Seeking Balance... Pause and enjoy the peacock's dance...

We have 174 days to 2012 and I can feel the exhaustion slowly creeping up… Dressed like a magnificent bird, it beckons me to step inside the sparkling chamber of sleep and rest. Everything can wait it says, nobody is indispensable it assures me… Tarry, tarry, tarry a while. I nod. I smile. I understand. So, why did I just shove that magnificent, brightly plumed bird to the side? Why is it so hard to find balance? Within each of us is a switch that we constantly flick on and off as we struggle with desires, dreams, goals, expectations, delusions and more.

We want our best self to rule the roost yet we sabotage ourselves by overreaching, by allowing disgust and fear to rule, by flaming out. We allow ourselves to be burnt to smithereens by unresolved fears; alternating fears of success with failure. Mirroring the sacred and good work we do is the profane critic’s voice… “not good enough, do more. not good enough, say more.” Until we shut that rat up and embrace the magnificence of simple things; by pausing, smelling scented Jasmin petals, perhaps resting under the Jacaranda tree, we will lose balance… struggle, gain only snatches of joy… Where is your balance?

“Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.” Barbara De Angelis

Inspiration: Seeking Balance... Jacaranda Tree - Sit awhile and enjoy the beauty...

We all need down time and, even if others insist we are not doing enough; not busy enough like Suzie’s mom, or active enough like Jamie’s mom, we must ignore them. We must ignore our inner critic too and just put our pretty feet up and inhale the beauty of a simple act… brew a cup of tea. Then, when the voices get louder, we must go sit under that jacaranda tree and say to those disgusting, ratty, annoying inner/outer voices… Shut Up! Let me be!  That my dear diva, sister, mama,  blogging friend, is the secret. What about you? What are your thoughts? Where is your balance? Do you find happiness in overwhelm? Do share! Thank you. ;-)

This post was inspired by a prompt from WP Daily Post: Why is it so hard to find balance? Do you know anyone who has better balance than you do? What do you think their secret is?

Positive Motivation Tip: Make time to look at things and just be; no expectation, no criticism… just a time balance.

PHOTO CREDITS/ATTRIBUTIONS: All Photos white plumed peacock and jacaranda tree via Wikipedia.

Until Next Time…
Ask. Believe. Receive. ©
Elizabeth Obih-Frank
Mirth and Motivation
Positive Kismet

23 Comments leave one →
  1. 11/07/2011 12:09 am

    “…yet we sabotage ourselves by overreaching, by allowing disgust and fear to rule, by flaming out.” – and we usually aren’t even aware we are doing it…

    As for fearing success and failure, last night (serendipity?) I’ve started writing a post on why both can be such a challenge.

    Thank you for the peacock ;-)

    • 11/07/2011 12:24 am

      Sadly, we are not always aware of it… and we wonder why we feel like hamsters on a wheel. :lol:
      ;-) I knew you’d like it… and your comment earlier today reminded me of it. TY!

  2. 11/07/2011 12:48 am

    A lovely thought provoking post. I do not find happiness in overwhelm. Indeed, I find happiness in the quiet moments, the pauses to reflect. My balance is solitude, to get away from TV, internet (though I’m having a harder time in doing this) and reading or simply sitting quietly outdoors looking at the flowers, plants, trees, and birds in my patio.
    When my children were young I bordered on the overachieve/overwhelm, but tried to balance myself so that I could help them find their balance, their center.
    I think I finally realized that the answers are within me and I don’t have to seek them elsewhere, or look to anyone else for them.

  3. 11/07/2011 1:11 am

    I had to laugh when I saw the title of this post about balance, my dear. I’m juggling five plates on poles – I don’t know which will break! With strength from my inner core, I hope to keep them all steady while in trial.
    I love the tree – what a wonderful thought to brew a nice cup of tea and sit under that beautiful tree with my son. (sigh) Someday… :)

  4. 11/07/2011 3:08 am

    My definition of balance and your definition of balance may not be the same. We are all the best experts on something in our lives. If you need to get out of the house to see a movie to save your sanity, find a way to do it. If you would rather spend the day at the park with your kids, that’s fine, too. We can each decide what balance looks like for ourselves. I seem to juggle too many things at once. LOL
    I also wanted to say that I love the PURPLE in that tree. Thanks.

  5. 11/07/2011 1:33 am

    like the balance artist Dan Bill

  6. Freedom, by the way permalink
    11/07/2011 7:13 am

    I just returned from a wonderful vacation with no internet, no phone calls or texts and very little TV. I read 3 books, snorkled every day, discovered new sights and most improtantly, reconnected with my husband and teenage son. It’s taken me two days to face the computer again since my return–I approach it with trepidation this morning, but with a promise that the three of us will not get sucked into our own electronic worlds each evening –a horrible habit we ahd fallen into between the internet, xbox and TV.

  7. 11/07/2011 9:36 am

    We need a balance between work, household labor and taking care of children.However, I sometimes emphasize on my work,I rethink my balance.:)

  8. 11/07/2011 11:06 am

    Thank you for your mention of my blog; I really appreciate it. Love the photos here, and your writing.

  9. 11/07/2011 11:13 am

    I just posted a post with a Barbara de Angelis quote:

    The journey between what you once were and who you are now becoming is where the dance of life really takes place.
    ~ Barbara DeAngelis

    On with the dance! Let joy be unconfined. ~ Lord Byron

  10. Bree permalink
    11/07/2011 11:13 am

    Balance – the nemesis of the perenially busy. I can’t imagine anyone who really has it.
    We’re either underwhelmed or oversubscribed. The few who claim to have it soon reframe their pronouncements.
    Perhaps the key is to just sit umnder the tree when we want and shut out the noise.

  11. amazingopipsblog permalink
    11/07/2011 12:10 pm

    Nice peacock there. I really don’t know how to achieve the balance that we need. I wonder if you feel the same way as I feel and we have something in common, and that is imbalance. Maybe this will help. Try to visit Silva Life System. I try the breathing exercises for the past 2 days and its a different feeling. I had more energy. Try to list down your negative thoughts as if you’re talking to yourself. All your anger, fear or something to bothers you or hinders you to fulfill your goal can be written on a piece of paper to ease the pain. I hope this helps

  12. 11/07/2011 12:27 pm

    Nicely thought provoking.There is a fine line between balance and sterility and between change and chaos. Your post made me think about it. Thankyou

  13. 11/07/2011 4:52 pm

    That’s my goal for this summer. Slowing down and taking time has made a difference in how I view summer, a season I didn’t used to like very much. Now that I’m more in tune with it (because I think summer almost requires us to slow down and ease up), it’s not such a bad season after all. :)

  14. 11/07/2011 5:56 pm

    “alternating fears of success with failure”
    Could not be more true!!! I’m not sure which is worse, but I suppose a fear of success can be even more of a time waster!!

  15. 11/07/2011 7:57 pm

    Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.” Barbara De Angelis

    I reallly like this quote. I enjoy my moments of solitude. Keeping balance and perspective in my life, its a way for tapping in with our inner being, Giving more clarity to my thoughts and sense of direction.

  16. 11/07/2011 10:35 pm

    Loved this. I struggle every day, through my entire life, to find ways to achieve balance yet it is a phenomenon that eludes me. Sometimes I believe I want too much, think too much, fear too much and maybe I really do just need a giant jacaranda tree. But if I found that jacaranda…would I willingly go and sit under it?? Will keep your words in mind =)

  17. 11/07/2011 10:43 pm

    Lately, I’ve been finding that I need more and more time to relax and reflect, to sleep and dream. At first, I was a bit nervous. I’m not used to so much involuntary down time but a friend mentioned that there are various vibrational changes going on and as a result, we need to rest more.

  18. 12/07/2011 3:27 am

    great post! I have decided to take this summer season to enjoy, relax and take some time for myself and just enjoy doing the things that makes me happy and sane. people may not think that I don’t do as much to actually need to take sometime to recharge or to relax, but I disagree with them and have to agree with you that we all need down time. I am one of those who need my alone time and enjoy my solitude. We all need down time. Very thought provoking post :)

  19. 13/07/2011 6:40 am

    Oh, that photo of the peacock – it is SO beautiful. All I could do was stare at it!

  20. 14/07/2011 12:22 am

    Great post and clearly it resonated with your readers! I hope that you are taking care of yourself and giving yourself permission to rest before you get back to playing. Cheers!

  21. 19/07/2011 7:04 am

    I’d love to find my inner peace under that jacaranda tree!


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