Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dream. Paulo Coelho
What are you most afraid of? What lingering fear still has a hold on you? Fear is a very powerful emotion… It can paralyze us and prevent us from living life fully. At its most insidious, it becomes a pathology; resulting in phobias and paranoia. It is normal to have some measure of fear as we all know the saying that “only fools dare to tread where wise men fear to go.” But, we cannot live our lives in fear of X – whatever that factor is. Whenever I see myself worrying about situations that perturb me, like when a road rage driver tried to run me off the road sometime back in my California days, I remind myself that I can find a solution by acting on faith or accept that I have no control over the situation and move on. In that instance, I found a solution by changing lanes and ignoring the driver. I believed he won’t follow me as usually most road rage drivers are in a hurry to God knows where = nowhere.
They can conquer who believe they can. He has not learned the first lesson in life who does not every day surmount a fear. Ralph Waldo Emerson
Fear is an equal opportunity abuser and a common condition that we all share; some more than others. I’ve even written about some of my childhood fears. The only people who say they are fearless are either dead or deluded. It is just not possible to claim a lack of any kind of fear and this becomes apparent when those who make the claim are faced with terror. If we can develop a spirit of faith in the fact that others have similar fears, and if necessary, talk with a professional about them, we can reduce many of our lingering fears. Another suggestion is practicing deep, focused breathing exercises and visualizing a peaceful resolution to any situation. Prayer and relaxing music can help too as they refocus our attention away from the fear.
As I prepared this post, I looked around for the top things people fear and found a number of lists. One common denominator on many of the lists I found was that our fears are often fueled by a belief that we are in danger of death, exposure, injury, embarrassment or more. Listed below are the top things that people fear the most; Which of these items are still on your list and what tips do you use to help reduce or eliminate your fears? See the Top Twenty List of Fears below, and the list of phobias and then read the Insightful Story I added after the list. Enjoy!
The optimist proclaims that we live in the best of all possible worlds; and the pessimist fears this is true. James Branch Cabell
There is another kind of fear which is the fear of what others will do to hurt us through blackmail or such. Read the insightful story of Johnny’s dilemma below. Has this ever happened to you… How we choose to respond is very important. One thing I can say is that no one should be held hostage by fear; better to face the music than let another person blackmail you.
The Devil & the Duck ~ Author Anon
There was a little boy visiting his grandparents on their farm. He was given a slingshot to play with out in the woods. He practiced in the woods; but he could never hit the target. Getting a little discouraged, he headed back for dinner.
As he was walking back he saw Grandma’s pet duck. Just out of impulse, he let the slingshot fly, hit the duck square in the head and killed it. He was shocked and grieved!
In a panic, he hid the dead duck in the wood pile; only to see his Sister watching! Sally had seen it all, but she said nothing. After lunch the next day Grandma said, ‘Sally, let’s wash the dishes’
But Sally said, ‘Grandma, Johnny told me he wanted to help in the kitchen.’ Then she whispered to him, “Remember the duck?’ So Johnny did the dishes.
Later that day, Grandpa asked if the children wanted to go fishing and Grandma said, ‘I’m sorry but I need Sally to help make supper.’ Sally just smiled and said, ‘well that’s all right because Johnny told me he wanted to help? She whispered again, ‘Remember the duck?’ So Sally went fishing and Johnny stayed to help.
After several days of Johnny doing both his chores and Sally’s; he finally couldn’t stand it any longer. He came to Grandma and confessed that he had killed the duck.
Grandma knelt down, gave him a hug and said, ‘Sweetheart, I know.. You see, I was standing at the window and I saw the whole thing, but because I love you, I forgave you. I was just wondering how long you would let Sally make a slave of you.’ Johnny had let fear get in the way of telling the truth.
What stands in your way? What are your thoughts? What fears do you live with? If you had to pick 1 or 2 to share what would they be? Do share! Thank you.
Positive Motivation Tip: Life is made up of fun and fearful events. We can develop our faith by recognizing that there are solutions to our fears and that everyone has some.
- Fear (paulinenguyen.wordpress.com)
- Learning to Overcome Fear (madihaakhtar.wordpress.com)
- “Always do what you are afraid to do.” Ralph Waldo Emerson (fatquarter.wordpress.com)