On Trust: What We Focus on Becomes Our Reality…
“We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone – but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.” Walter Anderson
There is something to be said about wish fulfilling prophesies… You know, the old saying, “what you believe, you become or comes true.” Well, while our thoughts might not necessarily create immediate results, they eventually color both our perception of the world and our place in it. I am not saying that, just like Houdini, our thoughts will make things vanish or appear, or even bring the mega million winnings into our space, but some variation of our expectations becomes our reality. If we can open our minds and recognize that there is the possibility, even a smidgen of hope, that as we learn to trust our own instincts and the goodwill of those we know and love, our worldview will shift for the better. Let me elaborate with a story of three turtles, as shared by one of them – Andy. :-)
The Story of the Three Turtles as narrated by Andy ;-)
One day, three turtles named Mick, Andy and Roy decided to go on a picnic.
Mick packs the picnic basket with beer and sandwiches.
The trouble is that the picnic site is ten miles away and it takes them ten days to get there. When they get there, Mick unpacks the food and beer and says “OK Roy, give me the bottle opener.” “I didn’t bring it,” says Roy “I thought you packed it.”
Mick gets worried; he turns to Andy and says, “Did you bring the bottle opener?” Naturally, Andy, who prefers political discourse to food related matters, didn’t bring it. So they’re stuck ten miles from home without a bottle opener.
Mick and Andy beg Roy to go back for it, but he refuses as he says they will eat all the sandwiches. After two hours, and after they have sworn on their tortoise lives that they will not eat the sandwiches, he finally agrees.
Roy sets off down the road at a steady pace. 20 days pass and he still isn’t back. Mick and Andy are starving, but a promise is a promise. Another 5 days go by and he still isn’t back; but a promise is a promise.
Finally, they can’t take it any longer so they take out a sandwich each, and just as they are about to eat it, Roy pops up from behind a rock and shouts: “I KNEW IT… I’M NOT GOING!” Needless to say, they never spoke to Roy again… What would you have done? What trust issues do you have?
“Follow your heart, but be quiet for a while first. Ask questions, then feel the answer. Learn to trust your heart.” Anon
Jenna is a pretty good cook. She loves to take classic recipes and add a twist to them and make them her own. I guess she learned her skill from the women in her household; particularly her mother. However, one thing she never felt great at was baking. For some reason, after her first chocolate cake disaster, she decided that not only couldn’t she bake but that she didn’t like chocolate cake anyway. Over the years, she shared this “fact” with everyone and her friends went along with the program. I mean, who would want to argue with a person who is adamant about their pet peeves? Well, Tony did. When he met Jenna and they fell in love, he shared that he loved chocolate care and she shared that she … didn’t. He encouraged her to try again and shared his mother’s chocolate cake recipe that included half a table spoon of coffee. He tried to get her to make one but she was adamant about her position. She hated chocolate cake and on and on…
One day on a whim, Tony promised Jenna that if she would try just once, he would never bring up the subject again. She agreed. Tony helped her make it and it was a mega success. Today, Jenna makes her cakes and eats them. Give in a little and trust that all will work out… and I’m not referring to a Hollywood ending … just a good old reality shift.
What are your thoughts? How do you view the subject of trust? What do you do to sabotage your trust in self and others? Do share. Thank You! :-)
Positive Motivation Tip: Trust is both an act of confidence and a confirmation of lessons learned. Weigh them evenly and know thyself.